I never expected to get married for a long time, but my husband turned his face to me because of a small matter, and I felt that he had changed and wanted a divorce. After inadvertently learning the truth on his phone, I fell into reflection, and it turned out that I had done all this wrong. Here's the thing:
Once I went shopping with my little sister and saw a new bag, to 5888, I was too expensive to buy, but the little sister teased a few words, saying that I have become more stingy since I found the current one, and returned home and lost my temper. I didn't expect my husband to count me down:
Every day, I know that buying, buying, buying, and the whole family will eat soil. You have not managed the mortgage and car loan, do you know that our family is now in debt?
After saying that, he slammed the door and left. We had a stalemate for a week, and he came back very late every night, and I was a little suspicious, so he threw my phone to me, asked me to check it casually, and went into the bathroom to take a shower. Turned over for half a day did not see anything, at this time, the husband's mobile phone turned out a message, and then I knew the truth: where there are some years quiet, but someone has been carrying the weight for you.
Because of the epidemic, my previous company went bankrupt, stayed at home for a few months, only found a new job in May this year, and went to work in July with a low salary. I have always been a person to feed the whole family is not hungry, how much to spend, after marriage is also earned by myself to spend, not enough to reach out to my husband to support points.
But my husband is different and lives a meticulous life. At the beginning, my mother only tried to match the two of us because she looked at my husband's honest and honest appearance and would live a life. My husband has always liked to buy and sell things on the transfer APP, and after the epidemic began, he seemed to be more enthusiastic about "selling and selling".
Usually, I don't feel at ease about these things, but that day on a whim, I wanted to see if he had sold his home behind my back.
Don't look at it, don't know, a look of shock, the husband transferred more than 100 transaction records on the APP. There are belts, rag dolls caught in the playground, old mobile phones that are not used, old refrigerators in in-laws' homes, washing machines... Turning it down further, I also bought some old goods. From it, I found that this year's living room newly purchased a large 3 horses landing air conditioning, the husband said more than 2,000 shopping malls discount to buy, the original is also from the turn to find out, but the air conditioning is really good, this summer thanks to it.
Then when I turned it down, I turned to my husband's birthday last year, and I gave him an iPad, which I bought for him with my own compensation! He actually put the tablet I gave him on the spin!
My husband has no hobbies, does not smoke, does not drink, does not jump, and likes to play a mobile game after work. The mobile phone screen is small, the sense of playing the game experience is not good, I wanted to buy it for him earlier, he said to make a living, don't spend the money unjustly. Last year, a month before his birthday, I received the company's compensation and resolutely bought him a new tablet, which cost more than 4,000 yuan.
My husband received a birthday present and said that I was spending money indiscriminately, and I was actually very happy.
However, I wonder why he changed hands on this tablet? He obviously likes it! This tablet was something I bought for him, that was my affection for him, did he sell it so easily? I was a little angry.
Same tablet
Later, I remembered a few days ago and he quarreled, I said that I especially like a bag, no money to buy, was ridiculed by the little sister, should he want to sell the tablet, buy me a bag!
Then I saw the brand of the bag in the search history, but because it was new, there was no such thing, and I secretly laughed: this stupid husband!
Thinking about what my husband had done and said before, my eyes quietly turned red. The old man's home conditions are not good, buying a house, decoration has not been able to help, decoration almost money, he found a colleague and friend to borrow 80,000, he said he will find a way to pay it back, let me not worry. He never interfered with my own clothes and cosmetics, because he said:
I don't want to lower your quality of life because we're married.
Later, my husband came out of the bathroom, glanced at me, and said: I just said, nothing! Then pick up your phone and turn around to go to the guest room. I hugged him from behind and said coquettishly:
Husband, I know it's wrong, and I shouldn't have suspected you. But are you hiding something from me?
My husband saw that my attitude had changed, and his tone was much softer.
My husband explained that after the last quarrel, he suddenly realized that he had not sent me a gift for a long time, and when he heard that I was ridiculed by my little sister, he felt that his self-esteem was hurt, but at present, our family's economy is a bit difficult, and he can no longer go to buy the bag back to coax me to be happy as before. He was angry that he couldn't give me a better life, so he worked overtime day and night.
Since then, he has decided not to play games again, put the number on the turn and sell it, and can save some money every year to buy equipment, plus the money from selling tablets, and buying bags should be enough.
I cried and said:
I don't want that bag, you don't sell tablets, don't sell numbers!
My husband took me in his arms and said bitterly:
Don't cry, I really think about it, don't play games in the future, spend time learning business knowledge, I want to try to create better conditions for you and for our children in the future! Even if I don't buy a bag, the money sold can be repaid to others first, and my pressure is less.
I couldn't help my husband, so I had to ask him:
The tablet was bought last year, how much can it sell now? 1000 no one wants it!
Husband opened the transfer to show me, he said that this APP is very easy to use, currently mainly do mobile phones, computers and other digital products recycling transactions, we users can use a key valuation order, my family's tablet has been valued, can be sold to 2500. However, recently he has been a little busy at work, working overtime every day, and there is no time for the transferred staff to come to the door to do quality inspection, about Saturday.
After two days, the quality inspection personnel came, and after the on-site inspection machine was no problem, they paid the money, and it took only a few minutes before and after to complete the transaction.
Before leaving, the young man asked if we still have anything else to sell, we can all hang up to the turn, SF back and forth free shipping, as well as guarantee sales services, you can sell mobile phones without leaving home, and the payment is also fast.
Husband said:
For the time being, I will look for you when I change my wife's mobile phone.
The young man said with a look of envy:
Big brother, you really hurt your wife, I want to learn from you!
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Unexpectedly, turning around and witnessing our love also made me have a new understanding of myself and this relationship.
My husband once said that he will never regret it for love! Because he thinks: the definition of happiness is already very broad, maybe you can provide good material conditions to make girls feel happy, then you can get the love of girls who like material life. If you can provide a rich spiritual life and make the girl feel happy, then you can get the love of the girl who values the spiritual life, afraid that you will not give anything, and complain, scolding the girl for being too sophisticated.
I'm not a material girl, I'm just too well protected by my husband, and I'm glad to meet such a silently paid husband.
After this incident, I understood: the best appearance in love is actually that you love him, and he loves you. Two people support each other, accompany each other, rely on each other, and consider each other for each other.
After getting married, I never adapted to the role change, and I still took my husband's love and tolerance for me as a matter of course. I didn't do what a wife should do, and I will slowly correct it in the future and advance and retreat with my husband.
Exchange love for love, is this the secret of marital happiness?