Some sociologists believe that when urbanization reaches a certain stage, people will face the risk of vicious competition and rapid consumption of resources.
The essence of vicious competition is "inner volume". Originally, this cake was only enough for one person, but now that ten people have arrived, the inner roll will become more and more serious.
At the end of the inner roll, there will be a situation of "internal friction". Internal consumption, seemingly inevitable, is actually a man-made result. You know, some internal friction can actually be avoided, and some waste is actually unnecessary.
Take a position where the workload only takes one high school student. But with the development of the times, everything has risen, and now, the entry level of this position is a master's degree. In this way, unnecessary waste of resources will occur.
For the two problems of "internal friction" and "inner volume", I believe that the feeling of the post-70s is the most profound. Because they are facing more or less internal volume or internal friction problems.
In this regard, many people will wonder, can't the inner volume and internal friction be avoided? It can be said that the internal friction of individuals can be avoided as much as possible, and the internal volume and internal friction of the group are environmental problems, and we cannot change it, we can only accept it.
The post-70s of Ben Five are facing these 5 kinds of "middle-aged internal consumption", and they can only be happy until they are old.
01
Workplace internal friction
I don't know when it began, not only the word "inner volume" appeared in the workplace, but also the term "internal friction".
Some workers, because they are in the vicious competition of the inner volume, they can not mention the enthusiasm of the work, but have been uneasy. As a result, their productivity will become less and less efficient.
Middle-aged people, in particular, are facing the risk of "mid-life workplace crisis", which leads to their positive attitude of not continuing to delve into business, but tightening their nerves and affecting the development of work.
What's more, the concept of lying flat and Buddhist has been prevalent today. These ideas cannot be said to be absolutely wrong, but can only be said to be the product of internal volume and internal friction. At the same time, it will also indirectly exacerbate the problem of internal friction in some aspects.
In the face of "internal friction in the workplace" and in the face of the mid-life workplace crisis, the post-70s should actively face it, and at the same time, they must be prepared for the way out, so that "there are advances and retreats", in order to be invincible.
02
Household internal friction
Some psychologists once believed that when a family developed to a certain stage, it would produce many unimaginable contradictions. These contradictions will only gradually increase with the development of the family.
In the first few years of marriage, I believe that the family is peaceful inside and out, and there are few "disputes" and "cold war" situations. Because people still restrain each other and compromise with each other.
However, when the marriage lasts for ten or twenty years, the contradictions of the marriage will explode greatly. Wives hate their mother-in-law and husbands, while husbands hate quarrelsome family environments.
Such family friction, to be honest, cannot be completely avoided. You know, where there are people, there will be contradictions, and where there are people, there will be rivers and lakes. Perhaps, man himself is a jianghu.
In a family, middle-aged people who are parents should learn to tolerate and compromise, and try to set a good example for their children, so as to better alleviate the problem of internal friction.
03
Relationship internal friction
As we all know, the essence of internal friction is the unnecessary consumption of manpower and material resources caused by uncoordination and contradictions within society or departments, and the negative effects arising therefrom.
There will be inconsistencies between departments, and there will also be inconsistencies between people.
Just like our relationship with "parents", why does it become indifferent, why is there unnecessary contradiction?
Because we have a fierce "hedgehog effect" problem between us and our parents, both parties will argue endlessly over certain trivial matters. In the end, the contradictions of the relationship arise.
In the same way, our relationship with relatives and friends will also be contradicted by conflicts of interests and psychology. At this time, the social problems of middle-aged people will be particularly prominent, and the contradictory choice of "not fit in" will appear.
04
Emotional attrition
There will be internal friction between people, and individuals themselves will also have the situation of "internal friction".
Compared with "group internal friction", in fact, the biggest impact on us is "personal internal friction". The post-70s of BenWu are precisely affected by personal internal friction.
There is a Mr. Zhang in the circle, who is 48 years old this year, insomnia every day, and even has no appetite to eat, and his mentality is terrible. In his view, life is hopeless, and life is dark.
Looking at the world with a negative mindset, his words and deeds are full of negative energy. This leads to the result that whatever he does is particularly inefficient and does not feel happy at the same time.
Just think, whenever you look at something, you always think in the darkest way, always cover the sunshine of the inner world, then can you live happily? Personal internal friction, this is the most serious problem.
05
Pension internal friction
Some people believe that the contradiction of old-age care will only increase with the intensification of an aging society.
If there is a contradiction in the old-age care, there must be a situation of "internal friction". The people most affected by internal friction should be the two generations after 60 and 70. Because they are facing the problem of "double pension".
It is necessary to provide for the elderly for their parents and to think about their old age, and their own salaries cannot pay high pension costs. In this way, contradictions between people, contradictions between people and the environment, and contradictions between people and medical treatment will emerge endlessly.
The problem of old-age care is a cruel reality that the post-70s generation cannot escape. Whether you can accept it or not, you need to take on the responsibility of providing for yourself and your parents, and you must be prepared for "children and daughters are not filial piety".
All the problems in this world are not as simple as we think. Everything, it's complicated.
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