Idle, remembering that a friend had not seen each other for a long time, she took a bus to her clothing store. The friend looked a little anxious, with a look of anger on his face. She began to confide in me about her recent depression.
It turned out that a retired teacher who knew her borrowed 2,000 yuan from her and transferred 300 yuan of profit money to her on WeChat. This friend of mine borrowed 2,000 yuan from her, but did not accept the profit money she gave. She told the other party that she was going to use the money at the end of the year, hoping that the other party would return the money to her after a week, and the other party agreed. Two weeks passed, and the borrower didn't mention paying it back.
Because of the impact of the epidemic, my friend's clothing business is very depressed. Because she had to repay the loan to the manufacturer at the end of the year, she had to ask the retired teacher to repay the money. As a result, I asked for it three times, and the other party gave 700 yuan and kept saying that there was no money.
My friend showed me the chat history between her and the retired teacher about the incident, and I could understand my friend's anger. In my mind, my friend is a mature and wise woman, calm and calm in the face of things. She almost swore, "From now on, I'll never lend money to anyone, including my mother!" "I could see that this incident had completely lost her usual composure.
I told my friend that she didn't pay you back on time, and it was her fault that you begged her to ask her to pay it back. You're doing the right thing when it comes to borrowing money. You also have some negligence, that is, you don't know her well, so you lend her money. Lending money to people is to see people.
The friend, as if completely disillusioned in humanity, once again reiterated with resentment: "I will never lend money to anyone again!" ”
Raising money hurts feelings
I was also silent. A person's dishonesty makes the person he hurts no longer believe in human nature, and the originally enthusiastic heart becomes cold and full of guard. This is how the social climate is deteriorating.
I think that although human nature should not be overestimated, we should still have some hope for human nature, so that we can not lose the kindness and generosity of human beings. Let me tell you a personal experience of mine.
My colleague, an older sister who is 5 years older than me, once borrowed 30,000 yuan to a playmate living in the same neighborhood to help her get through the difficulties. When her sister saw that her family's financial situation was comfortable, and she did not mean to pay back, she asked her to pay back the money, she kept saying that there was no money... A few years passed and she never paid back... The kind sister was angry and sad, so when the 30,000 yuan was lost, the sister made up her mind: whoever borrowed money from her again, she would not borrow it.
The year before, because I bought a house with full payment and decoration, I was nervous on hand, and I really couldn't find the right person to borrow money, so I borrowed 10,000 yuan with my colleague sister and repaid her two months later. This sister of mine may have also had a struggle in her heart.
She said that she knew about my situation, lent me 10,000 yuan on WeChat transfer, and said that there was no need to rush to repay her.
Two months later, I repaid the money on time and transferred it to my sister on WeChat. He said to her, "Sister, wherever it is useful to me, just talk to me." The sister said, "Okay. We will help each other in the future. ”
The most beautiful thing in the world is kindness
It's one of the things in my life that moves me. I am deeply grateful to my sister who helped me in my difficult times, and I was even more touched by the trust she placed in me. Her name is Zhu Xirong, and she gave me the most precious true feelings in the world, let me feel the warmth of the world, and did not completely lose hope for human nature.
Money is the touchstone. It best measures the beauty and ugliness of human nature. Many people talk about their life experience, that is, do not lend money to a good friend, because lending him money, in the end, the friend can not do it.
I don't think so.
True good friends, everyone must know the roots, with the heart to agree, close as brothers and sisters. In such a relationship, if one party is in danger and the other party has the financial ability to help, but turns a blind eye and refuses to help, I think it is inhumane and unjust! At this time, not worried about the situation of good friends, but worried that if he helps his friends, he will not pay back the money, who can believe such a person, he and others are friends out of sincerity?
The essence of this practice is the same as the behavior of receiving help from friends when they are in difficulty and have money but do not pay it back: they are all heavy money, heavy profits, light feelings, and all belong to injustice.
Friendship is more precious than money
Therefore, for the matter of lending money to a friend, my idea is: if a good friend encounters a crisis, as long as I have the financial ability, I will definitely help him as much as I can! Afterwards, he did not pay back the money, that is another thing, it is normal. Let the money test the "gold content" of our friendship. I want to do what I should do well, worthy of the word "friend".