Live in the moment and cherish the people in front of you

These two days spent dozens of hours to read "A Person's Pilgrimage Road", the heart can not be calm for a long time, this book has given me too much insight, here to share with you readers, I hope you can feel a different life.

The novel's pilgrim, Harold Frye, is sixty years old, who has retired silently after forty years as a sales representative in a distillery, with no promotion, no friends or enemies, and when he retires, the company does not even have a farewell party. He lives in the English countryside with his deeply estranged wife, living a peaceful life, and the husband and wife are estranged, day after day.

One morning, he received a letter from his old friend Queenie, whom he hadn't seen in twenty years. She had cancer and wrote a letter of farewell. Shocked and saddened, Harold wrote a reply, and on the way out, he thought of his life by Queenie, through one postbox after another, maybe he had made up his mind, maybe it was the encouragement of the gas station girl, or maybe it was the electricity 话️ he called to the nursing home to greet, without deep consideration, and without rational thinking, as soon as the thought appeared, he decided. Just go on, go to see Queenie, hope she can live.

Along the way, he met many people, some of whom felt that he was doing something stupid, doing something impossible. Some gave him help and encouraged him to persevere, as if the pilgrimage was also a salvation for himself. He took the memories of the past on his way, his father, his wife, his son, Queenie.

Queenie is his brewery accountant, and when Queenie first arrived, she was ridiculed by other colleagues, and she ignored the indifference. Once he inadvertently spotted Queenie crying in the cupboard, he got one step closer to the silent woman. It seems that fate is so magical, and it wasn't long before he was sent to be Queenie's driver and pick her up for business.

Get along, find Queenie fun and get along well, she can sing the song upside down. He imitated the humor between them back to his wife and children, but unfortunately they did not understand. Later, he smacked the relics of the boss's mother, and Queenie took on the responsibility for him, and after being expelled, she left.

His relationship with his wife became the most familiar stranger with the death of his son, and the wife moved out of the master bedroom and began to talk to the imaginary son. The wife did not tell him that Queenie had looked for him when she was leaving, and that the wife was blaming herself for losing her son.

Their son couldn't find a job, and he drank all day and quietly hid the bottle and threw it out. Later, depression eroded his son's heart and chose to die.

He kept reminiscing about his time with his son, he loved his son but this love has never been expressed, even if his son was admitted to Cambridge University, he still did not extend his arms to hug and those words of praise. Even if he found out that his son was drinking heavily, he chose to throw the bottle behind his back and would not communicate with his son head-on. Until his son chose to leave in such an extreme way, there was nothing he could do.

He kept remembering his father, the alcoholic father, the mother who couldn't bear to choose to leave, and since then, the family has often moved in with new aunts, and he has become the most superfluous person. Today, he doesn't know how to express his love for his son or how to communicate with her.

This path became his own salvation, the only impulse in his life to go far, in order to save Queenie but also to liberate himself, he doubted in persistence, from doubt. One foot ahead, he met many people along the way, became a famous pilgrim, and finally went all the way from the far west of England to the far north-east, across england. 87 days, 627 miles, with only one belief: as long as he goes, the old friend will live!

This is the story of Harold's thousand-mile trek. From the moment his footsteps unfolded, parallel to his six-hundred-plus-plus-mile journey, was another of his journeys through the tunnel of time.

After reading it, I was really in tears, and the three points that made me feel the most deeply were shared with you, hoping that we could feel something different from it.

The first point is the protagonist Harold Frye and her wife Maureen, who are best reconciled from sleeping together as a couple who share a bed with each other into strangers, and secondly, the communication between the protagonist Harold Frye and his son also reminds me of the obstacles to communication between contemporary fathers and sons, and finally Harold Frye's friendship with his old friend Queenie.

Today we first dissect the story of Harold Frye and her wife Maureen,

Harold Frye and her wife Maureen have been married for 40 years, but with the death of their son due to depression, they become the most familiar strangers, the two old people choose to live separately, Harold Frye has been trying to save the relationship, but he can not express it, he also blamed his son's death on himself, so he has been living in guilt and regret. Because of the death of his son, his wife has always hated Harold Frye, and cannot forgive the pillow people around him, so he chooses to leave.

Until a gas station girl sent a letter to Harold Fry informing his friend Queenie about the situation and told a white lie that the situation was not so bad, and said something like this:

"You must have faith. I thought so anyway. You can't just take medicine or anything. You have to believe that the person will get better. ...... If you have faith, you will definitely be able to get things done. "I'm not saying to... Religious or something. I mean, to accept something you don't understand, to fight for it, to believe that you can change something. ”

Harold was inspired by this and made a shocking decision, he decided to walk more than 600 kilometers on his feet to see Queenie - his friend who had cancer, Harold wanted to use the power of walking to cure his friend Queenie's cancer.

Thus, without any preparation or consultation with his wife, Harold embarked on a journey of walking and walking.....This sudden action made it difficult for his wife, Maureen, to accept and could not stop, and his wife Maureen fell into trepidation and speculation.

In the days when Harold was away from home, his wife Maureen finally knew that after all these years, she had wrongly blamed her husband Harold. So Maureen began to move her husband's clothes from the separated guest room to the master bedroom of the two. Neighbours often came to comfort her and made a map of England to show her. On the map, Maureen nailed pushpins and threads where Harold walked, and Harold's itinerary was clear at a glance, and later, Maureen also drove to see Harold on the walk. Two couples who had been estranged from the Cold War for twenty years realized each other's importance after separation.

At the moment when Harold wanted to give up, he supported him and insisted on letting him go. Finally, Harold, with the encouragement and support of his wife Maureen, walked for 87 days before finally arriving at Berwick, the city of his friend Queenie, and met Queenie in a nursing home. Harold's walk, although it did not cure Queenie's illness, gave Queenie the belief that he was alive, and Queenie stubbornly persevered until Harold's arrival and died peacefully.

Later, Harold's wife, Maureen, also arrived in Berwick, where she attended Queenie's funeral with Harold. Maureen and Harold ice release their previous suspicions and reconcile. Harold also fulfilled his promise, fulfilled his wish, and finally the two talked about their son at the beach, laughing on the beach is what they have been most eager to do for more than ten years, unfortunately they do not realize the truest feelings in their hearts, fortunately Harold came out.

After reading the story of Harold and his wife Maureen, if you have also entered the crisis of marriage, I sincerely hope that all readers can give a hug to the lovers around you, you have gone from knowing and falling in love to entering marriage and having children from the vast sea of people, how many sweet times have been experienced along the way, do not let some trivialities fade your passion, mutual understanding, temporarily put aside stereotypes, at this moment the time is just right, back to the moment of first love, lead your lover slowly out of the house, go to the park, go to the mall, go to the cinema ..... Go to the place where your heart once throbbed, let go of all your troubles, let go of all the things around you, at this moment the world belongs to the two of you, pick up your lover's cheek, kiss it softly, and say in her ear...

Live in the present, cherish the people in front of you, life is only a few decades, why can't you go on sweet and happy, tell yourself at this moment, just start from scratch.

I think there needs to be one such journey in one's life, a journey to revisit the past and look to the future. In our lifetime, we are the authorities, and solving problems has become a lifelong problem. When you let go of everything and walk on an unfamiliar path, can you jump out and become a bystander to look at this life?

Because of the limited space, about the friendship between Harold and Queenie and the problem of Harold's communication barrier with his son, we will talk about it in the next article, interested can be collected and paid attention to, and after reading the deep feelings, you can tell your story in the comment area.

About the Author: Rachel Joyce is a veteran British playwright. He has written radio plays for twenty years and has also been active in the stage theater industry, winning numerous screenplay awards. A Man's Pilgrimage is her debut novel, which has sold well in more than forty countries, sold 40 million copies, and was shortlisted for the 2012 Booker Prize.