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The husband suffered from depression
"Husband With Depression" is adapted from Hosokawa Sable's manga picture book, based on the real experience of her husband, Akira Mochizuki.
His wife, Xiaoqing, is an unpopular cartoonist. Xiaoqing has a lazy and unmotivated personality, just staying at home every day to draw cartoons and sleep, relying on the salary of her husband's work alone to support the family.
Her husband, Tsukino Ganfu, is a cautious, introverted and honest man. He picked the color of his tie by date and made himself a lunch box every morning. He works as an after-sales worker at a network company, dealing with bad-minded customers and under pressure from his boss.
At the beginning of the film, her husband, Takano Ganfu, begins to have various manifestations of depression:
Some parts of the body begin to experience pain, daily listlessness, loss of appetite, long-term insomnia, a state of self-denial, and decreased interest and desire.
The husband, tormented by pain, finally decided to go to the hospital for a medical examination. The doctor told him not to be nervous and gently explained to him:
"Depression refers to the mood in a low state, generally change the mood, completely relax, you can get rid of this state." But if you can't get out on your own, you're suffering from depression. ”
The husband thought about it and asked, "However, I will have back pain, and my head is also very painful..." The doctor continued to explain to him: "When it comes to the symptoms of depression, people usually think of insomnia, tiredness, suffering from gains and losses and other mental symptoms, in fact, there will be shoulder pain, joint pain, headache, nausea and other physical discomfort. Depression is also known as a cold in the heart. Therefore, there is no need to be too nervous, and the disease is controlled with drug treatment, and then the cause of the pathology is improved. ”
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You're not alone
After the diagnosis, Haruko accompanied her husband through the resignation procedures and squeezed into the subway during the rush hour, and she immediately felt the pain of her husband going to work every day... Xiao Qing said: All these years, hard work, thank you! In front of everyone's eyes, the husband suddenly lost his voice and cried bitterly... The emotional release after being understood makes the husband cry regardless of the occasion...
The husband concentrated on recuperating at home, and after taking medicine for a while, the depressed situation disappeared, and he was gradually able to experience happiness again, and he would also be happy because of the good weather.
The elated husband went to review, and the doctor told him: Depression is like a pendulum, which is good and bad, and will slowly recover in a spiral shape, and cannot be taken lightly.
As a result, as the doctor said, the husband's condition became more serious, and any little thing triggered the husband's negative emotions. When a husband is seriously ill, he will feel like a worthless, utter failure. The wife suggested that he take a nap to recuperate, but the husband just couldn't sleep, so he cried and felt sorry for society.
An argument between the couple led to the husband trying to commit suicide in the bathroom. When he was saved by Xiao Qing, emotions of panic, disbelief, sadness, and pain alternated on his face.
The husband's denial of himself is in an extremely dangerous situation. In the process of her husband's struggle with great pain, his wife Xiaoqing has always been with her husband, helping him in her own way, understanding him, and wrapping him with a warm heart when her husband is dragged into the mire by his inner dark crocodile and sinks deeper and deeper.
In the movie, Xiaoqing also confessed to her mother: "I recently felt that I should not think about the reasons for my husband's depression, but should think about the meaning of depression." ”
As the doctor says to her husband at the beginning of the movie, "Depression is a feeling that everyone will experience", almost everyone has at some point in their lives, thinking that they are a failure, thinking "Ah, I want to die".
At such times, remember to stop and ask yourself if you are forcing yourself to become what others are asking for, and because of this, you feel pain, and in the endless comparison, slowly lose your original self.
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No matter how dark the night, it will usher in the dawn
At the end of the film, the wife records the experience of accompanying her husband to fight depression in the form of a cartoon called "Husband With Depression".
The wife's works have encouraged many patients and their families who are suffering from depression, bringing warmth and hope to their lives. This movie is not only about the struggle of depressed people, it is more often awakened to everyone's thinking and experience of life.
As his wife Xiaoqing said: We must firmly believe that after the long night, there will always be dawn.
Everything will be ok！
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Respect depression
Although depression sounds a little far away from you, depression is something that people can often feel. Here are some ways to help yourself when you're depressed:
To write a diary:
It's not just about recording the event that happened, but about the feelings and thoughts that surrounded it. People in a depressed state often describe their thoughts as "stuck," as if their minds were grouped together and they didn't know what they were thinking. Keeping a journal helps us to talk to our own minds (psyche). In the process of writing, you may perceive fleeting thoughts that you weren't aware of in the past. And when your subjective personal idea becomes an objective text on paper, you can observe it, change it, and even destroy it, and you may find that in the face of the same thing, you can describe it in a different way than it was then, and respond with different feelings.
Remember the moment when you feel good:
Remember the moments when we felt good, so that we know that the pain of depression will not be eternal, and that we have the ability to feel happy.
Have reasonable expectations for depression:
Being associated with depression can be a long process, going through one or more repetitions; we may still feel depressed or miserable about something in the future. We can learn to live better with depression, and by then, you may find that depression is not so terrible.
Finally, I hope you can understand at least one thing: depression does make sense.
It is a real thing, not a fantasy. If you're deeply depressed yourself, seek treatment and help; if someone around you shows depression, you may not understand it, but at least respect it.