"Husband with Depression": When you fall, may someone catch you

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What would you do if someone you loved had depression? If you have depression, how do you want the people around you to help you?

Haruko and Takasaki in the movie "Husband With Depression" answered with their true stories.

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Haruko and Takasaki are a five-year-old couple.

Haruko is an unknown manga artist with a loose personality who stays at home every day to draw manga that cannot be sold.

Haruko's husband Takasaki works for after-sales service at an Internet company, and his personality is meticulous, getting up early every day to make his own bento, matching the bento cheese and tie tied every day according to the date, and then taking a crowded tram to the company to deal with various strange customer complaint calls.

Recently, Haruko discovers that her husband is very unusual. He no longer pays attention to his appearance, the hair on the back of his head is always upturned; he often loses sleep, his eyes are red every day; his appetite is reduced, he can't eat; he is weak, mentally weak, always headache, and even more strange is that he still stands in front of the trash can and says stupidly: "These are useless things~"

Takasaki's anomaly peaked one morning. He stood in the kitchen for a long time, but he could not make the bento as methodically as before, so he had to take the kitchen knife to find Haruko, who was still asleep, "Can't do anything", "I want to die!" He said calmly and numbly.

Haruko was startled by him, she thought that her husband was too tired from work and asked him to take a day off, but Takasaki stubbornly said that he could not take leave. Haruko could only take a step back and ask him to go to the hospital at least once. Takasaki agreed, and the results of the examination came out quickly, and Takasaki suffered from depression.

depression? Haruko dazedly uses the search engine to find information about depression, trying to find the cause of her husband's illness, but still seems to understand. She could only grope for what she thought would help her husband.

As the days went by, Takasaki's condition got worse and worse, he had back pain, back pain, snoring, vomiting... The gaze became more and more sluggish, and the movements became sluggish and stiff. Haruko advised him to take a leave of absence and rest for a while, but unexpectedly, when Takasaki plucked up the courage to tell his boss that he was depressed, his boss said with a cold face: "Work is so busy, everyone is almost depressed, don't complain..." Takasaki wandered alone on the roof, overlooking the traffic on the ground, and said to himself: "I can't do it!" ”

Finally finishing the day's work, Takasaki dragged his heavy body home and threw himself on the couch. Haruko looked at her tired husband, and her eyes fell on the vase next to her, and she was inspired by this vase: not broken is the value of the bottle, and living is the value of people.

Haruko wants her husband to live well, so she threatens him with divorce to resign and rest, and her husband, who loves her deeply, agrees.

Haruko checked a lot of information, which said that depressed patients need to supplement serotonin, so there are more bananas and eggs on the table every day, and Natto, which Haruko hates very much.

During Takasaki's handover work before his resignation, Takasaki still went to work on time, and Haruko always told him before he left: "Don't do what you can't do." If not feeling well, come back early. ”

Suddenly, one day, Takasaki woke up to find himself in a particularly good mood and full of strength, and he came to the hospital with a smile on his face, but was warned by the doctor not to take it lightly, depression is like a pendulum, good times, bad times.

As the doctor said, Takasaki's mood soon subsided, and he fell into the abyss of depression again. He lay uncomfortably on the bed, with Haruko by his side. He tells Haruko that he hopes Haruko can live at her own pace and not let her depressed self affect her, and Haruko has a gentle smile on her face, and she says, "It's okay! ”

On Takasaki's last day at work, Haruko accompanied him on the train, and in the crowded tram, it was difficult to even raise her hand. Haruko experienced her husband's hardships, and she said, "You've been working hard all along, husband is so good!" Takasaki couldn't help but cry out in front of everyone. In fact, sometimes emotions just need to be seen and understood, which is a kind of healing.

During the days when he resigned at home, Takasaki had nothing to do. Haruko has been with him and taking care of him. Takasaki loses sleep at night, and Haruko teaches him to take a nap. Takasaki initially thought it was a pity for society to sleep during the day, but under Haruko's demonstration, he slowly lay stiffly.

Takasaki always blamed himself, felt that everything was his fault, and he often cried and said sorry. Haruko accompanies him while actively trying to help him. Haruko finds Takasaki's brother and hopes that he can accompany Takasaki, but she doesn't want her brother to say a lot of things like trying to overcome depression and working hard to make money.

Takasaki blamed himself in pain, he felt that he could not do anything, he could not work as hard as his brother said. He hid in the quilt like a turtle in a shell and wept. Haruko accompanied him quietly, reflecting on her own practices.

Takasaki gradually changed from insomnia to drowsiness, and he couldn't sleep all day, and Haruko didn't blame her in the slightest. And when Haruko saw the elegant and radiant appearance of her classmates who had a solo exhibition, she couldn't help but feel defeated and sighed that she was small, and Takasaki opened her eyes from sleep and comforted her, "I am very grateful to Xiaoqing." "Warmed her heart.

In the manga drawn by Haruko, Takasaki falls asleep wearing a crown like a prince, while the little person who represents herself lies on the side. Although the two were separated by some distance, they had the same serenity on their faces.

Haruko encourages Takasaki to do something to make her happy, Takasaki is excited to stir-fry, but because he can't taste the taste, he puts too much salt, the dish is very salty, the kitchen is a mess, Takasaki once again feels that he is useless, and he can't do anything well. Haruko comforted him, "Nothing, much better than I did." ”

Because of her husband, Haruko matured a lot. In order to earn a living, she bravely approached the comic editor and asked him to give her a job, and told her husband that he had depression. When the unspeakable words came out, Haruko was happy, she knew she was stronger.

One day, Haruko was anxiously rushing to the drawing, Takasaki did not notice, still chatting with her as usual, Takasaki said non-stop, Haruko tired to cope, talking, Takasaki found a mistake in the manga, he asked Haruko to quickly call the publisher to modify, Haruko let him play himself, Takasaki's face froze, he said he could not call, Haruko blurted out in anger, "If you can't fight, shut up!" ”

Takasaki endured his hurt emotions and left, crying in the bathroom for a long time, ready to hang himself. Fortunately, Haruko found out that something was wrong and arrived in time to save him. The two hugged each other tightly and apologized to each other.

Since then, Haruko has always accompanied, comforted, and encouraged her husband, and Takasaki's depression has improved. And Haruko has also grown a lot in the process, she regained her enthusiasm for her dreams, and painted a book about her depression experience with her husband, helping other depressed families.

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This is a very warm and healing movie.

There are many words in the film that deserve our deep consideration. For example, the value of the bottle lies in being intact, the value of a person lies in being able to live; if you are tired, don't work hard; don't force yourself to do what you can't do; learn to accept the real self, even if the real self will make you feel ashamed...

People who read it always say that the male protagonist is very lucky to meet such a virtuous wife. Yes, Takasaki was lucky to meet Haruko, who did not abandon him, did not complain, and understood him, and why did Haruko love him so much?

From several details of the movie, it is not difficult to find that Takasaki is also deeply in love with Haruko. In proposing, Takasaki's proclamation was " Haruko , you concentrate on drawing manga, and I'll feed you." For five years, Takasaki has consistently kept his promise. After living together for five years, Haruko never knew that Takasaki liked natto, until Haruko prepared natto for Takasaki, takasaki said why, "Because Haruko didn't like it, so she never said it." Haruko's manga was not popular and was to be stopped serializing, and Takasaki kept encouraging her to keep drawing, saying that some people were looking forward to seeing her manga.

Love is mutual.

Sometimes, I feel that depression is like a touchstone, testing not only the depressed person's own heart, but also the love of the depressed person's relatives and friends.

When you fall into the abyss of depression, may someone catch you.