Marriage is like a pair of shoes. No matter what style of shoes, fit is the most important; no matter what kind of marital relationship, the most wonderful thing is harmony. - "The Most Perfect Divorce"
We love each other passionately, greet our marriage with the most sincere heart and full of expectations, and later find that marriage is completely different from love. Love is like a cloud, a cloud in fantasy, romantic and innocent, casual, marriage is a pair of shoes, whether the shoes fit or not, you have to step on the ground to know.
Marriage is full of chai rice oil and salt, trivial things, trivial life consumes enthusiasm, and the subtle shortcomings are infinitely magnified under the microscope. The marriage of actor Wang Liyun and her ex-husband Che Xiaotong is like this.
Sweet love makes them enter the temple of marital happiness, but life after marriage is not satisfactory. A series of differences such as personality discord and differences in living habits led to the end of this marriage that everyone was optimistic about.
Fortunately, after Wang Liyun and her ex-husband Che Xiaotong divorced, they did not go to the situation of old and dead, but more to maintain a relationship like relatives and friends, divorced but not centrifugal, which can be described as the best template for divorced couples!
Wang Liyun: An imperfect marriage
Speaking of Wang Liyun, our impression of her is more of the "vicious mother-in-law" presented in front of the screen, strong and arrogant, difficult to get along with, but in real life, Wang Liyun is a virtuous and considerate gentle woman.
In 1955, Wang Liyun was born in an ordinary family in Shenyang, Liaoning Province, and at the age of 19, she was fortunate to be promoted by her mentor, participated in dramas, stepped onto the drama stage, and became a potential drama actor.
Wang Liyun's performance talent was appreciated by the Beijing People's Liberation Army General Rear Propaganda Team, the propaganda team sincerely invited her to work in Beijing, and then Wang Liyun joined the Beijing General Political Drama Troupe, and her acting career was also in full swing, the work gradually entered a better state, and love followed.
Under the introduction of friends, Wang Liyun got acquainted with Che Xiaotong. In the slow process of getting along, the two people have a common heart and quickly establish a romantic relationship. Che Xiaotong's family is innocent, upright, and has a formal and decent job, and he is indeed a good candidate for marriage in all aspects.
In 1981, Wang Liyun and Che Xiaotong registered for marriage, and soon had a lovely daughter, and the couple named the child Che Xiao. Wang Liyun and Che Xiaotong's bland and boring married life became more and more dangerous with the arrival of their daughter.
Husband Che Xiaotong often takes friends to eat and drink at home, and Wang Liyun has to cook for them, and after cleaning up the mess, she has to take care of her drunken husband, and this frequent meal makes Wang Liyun, as a mother and a wife, feel exhausted.
What Wang Liyun couldn't stand most was her husband's gentle and wooden personality. She hoped that a tall and strong husband would be able to make himself adore and look up to him, and to give this small family a strong reliance. But Che Xiaotong's personality is just the opposite, he is gentle and honest, extremely wooden, and the difficult to express personality makes Wang Liyun feel helpless.
When Wang Liyun gave birth to her daughter Che Xiao in the hospital, her husband was not able to accompany him because of his busy work, and when the child was one month old, Che Xiaotong hurried back, but he did not have any expression of booing and warm to his wife, and all kinds of similar things happened a lot.
When Wang Liyun's father passed away, in the face of grief and grief of his wife, Che Xiaotong only handed over a towel without any words of comfort.
The of a thousand miles collapsed in the ant nest. Countless similar events accumulated in Wang Liyun's mind, which eventually made her think of divorce, and considering that the child was still young, Wang Liyun decided to continue to maintain this unsatisfactory marriage. It was not until her daughter Che Xiao was admitted to college that Wang Liyun finally filed for divorce from her husband Che Xiaotong, and this imperfect marriage finally ended and came to an end.
The most perfect divorce
An imperfect marriage unexpectedly produced the most perfect divorce. Perhaps it is the beauty of distance, or perhaps it is the 19 years of married life, both husband and wife have paid and worked hard, so Wang Liyun and her ex-husband Che Xiaotong can still maintain a relationship like relatives and friends after divorce.
The daughter is still taken care of by both sides, Che Xiao often eats with her parents after going to college, in the daughter's heart, the father and mother are just separated and no longer live together, but they still love each other, have nothing to do with love, and they are more affectionate.
After Wang Liyun separated from her ex-husband, she also actively introduced her girlfriend to her ex-husband Che Xiaotong. Wang Liyun very much hopes that Che Xiaotong can renew his marriage and get happiness, such a move is really puzzling, for which their friends still wonder whether the two are really divorced, how can their relationship after divorce be handled so well and harmoniously?
Wang Liyun and Che Xiaotong both have a key to the house, and Wang Liyun will also ask Che Xiaotong to help take care of the flowers and plants in her home when she is busy at work. Every year, Chinese New Year's Eve meal, Wang Liyun will also take the initiative to let her daughter go to her father's house to accompany her grandmother for the New Year. If relatives and friends from both sides come, they will also help to receive them.
Although the marriage between Wang Liyun and her ex-husband Che Xiaotong is not very good, it is not easy for them to still be able to communicate like friends after the divorce, perhaps because in this marriage, both parties have worked hard to operate, but the personality is not suitable, and they cannot continue to form a family.
After Wang Liyun and Che Xiaotong divorced, they did not form a family with others, and her daughter Che Xiao has been single after experiencing a short-lived marriage. Wang Liyun has an idea, that is, to maintain such a single and unmarried state like her daughter, and when she is old, she will live in a nursing home with her daughter and raise her for a long time.
epilogue
Marriage is a pair of shoes, if it does not fit but still will be done, there will always be foot pain, unbearable day, when then you still have to take off the shoes, go barefoot or choose a new shoe. Therefore, a harmonious marriage relationship is crucial, and do not force it if you do not love.
Wang Liyun was able to propose a breakup in time after finding that her marriage with her ex-husband was not suitable, not only will not cause a lose-lose situation, falling into a situation of old and dead, but also saving each other's face, after the breakup, they can still become each other's dependence like friends and relatives.
It is rare to be able to maintain such a mutual support relationship after divorce, but divorce is not centrifugal, it is indeed the best template for divorced couples, and it is the most perfect divorce relationship.