The enthusiasm is extinguished, there is less hugging and kissing goodbye, the lover's eyes, no longer squinting into a line, boring days, chewing wax. The lover's face, peeking out from the cracked rose-colored filter, was strange and disturbing, and the mottled bricks and tiles could not build an exclusive house after all. Unspeakable apologies and thanks, frequently swirling in the bottom of my heart, swallowing and spitting. It wasn't until we let go that we gradually discovered that the hustle and bustle was not tears and thoughts, but the trance and disbelief after waking up from the dream. No one thought that the meeting was the beginning of parting.
If you say that a love will have to go parting, how should you understand the original destiny and encounter?
Or is it that what we fall in love with is an ambiguous imagination from beginning to end. Perhaps, this just explains why feelings often wither away, even if no one cheats, but in the spiritual world, they have both derailed. At this point, the relationship will be squeezed to the end, not forced by not loving, but no longer able to give the love that the other party expects.
In the end, love is like a flowering period, and eventually there will be withering, and what we fall in love with is only an illusory rose.
I spread my dreams under your feet
Tap to step on it, because you are stepping on my dream, the poet Yeats
The reason why human beings celebrate love is not only because it can reflect the beauty, but also because of the inevitable bitterness and fragility in it, and it has to be further strengthened and soothed by poetry, text, music or movies. After all, love is as bright as fireworks, but it is also as short as fireworks.
In this sense, with regard to feelings, people try not to retain people, but time; as described in the movie "Bouquet of Love", the moment when the hour hand overlaps with the birthday, we can escape from reality, escape into the magical gap, as if reaching out and pulling the corner of time. Of course, the capture of time has long continued to appear in the background, such as the red light when Mai and Juan kissed, and gently pressed the pause button for the two of them.
Unfortunately, the phenomenon of time lag is still an illusion in the brain, just a fictional romantic plot, even if it can amplify happiness, but it can not be stretched - the performance before the end of the song. On the contrary, the more persistent, the easier it is to lose. Especially without compromise and concessions, getting along has become a war, whether it is smoke and smoke, or cold as snow, often lose both, no one can get cheap, if you are not careful, you will push each other away.
So, the love song that gives up communication and understanding is like a scarred old record, no matter how many times you try to replay it, you can't find the main melody that makes people sway and dance. So, as mentioned earlier, it is not that Mai and Juan are no longer in love, but that they love each other and have unbridgeable longitude and latitude lines; not to mention that without resonance, how can they replay the blueprint of co-composition? Love, unlike a sweater, once it is staggered, it cannot be woven.
Of course, they also struggle, whether to give each other more time, naively thinking that if they are extended, they can make the afterglow into wine, and take it out from time to time. Unfortunately, the young couple at the next table reminded them of how far they had gone, and the distance between them was not something that could be compensated for in just a few years, and it was like a distant delusion to go to each other again. Moreover, blindly delaying and breaking the connection is continuing to abuse each other's kindness. The so-called attachment, or reluctance, is not a manifestation of love, but a manifestation of fear, laziness and loneliness. Therefore, letting go and saying goodbye is certainly heart-wrenching, but it is also the only consensus and blessing that can be left.
Ironically, the traffic light that witnessed the blossoming of the love affair also witnessed the end of the relationship, and the naughty lamp that originally represented the suspension was transformed into a termination symbol so far.
In terms of structure, "Bouquet of Love" as a pure love movie, properly uses the way of chronicles, detailing the trajectory of the relationship between Mai and Juan, long or short, deep or shallow, the persistence, intoxication and regret in the relationship, finely sliced, déjà vu troubles, joy and unwillingness, inducing the audience to break into the story, so as to revisit the memories in the darkroom of the soul: dim and dull, faint flickering or not, are embellishments, instilling dew of life.
Despite the strong emotions, the film still has no criticism, and both people are right, but they are not so correct. In the world of feelings, there are no absolutes, which may appear inexplicably, and it is more likely to go far without paying attention.
Inheriting the foregoing, "Bouquet of Love" jumps out of the framework of a typical pure love movie, bound by separation, rather than breaking the mirror and reuniting, like a destiny tragedy - the magic that points out the heart-to-heart still can't break the curse of time, or precisely, the changes that accompany time; but is love really so fragile? Can't stand any collision?
Regarding the origin of love, according to Greek mythology, human beings used to have four hands, four feet, two faces and two hearts, and their power was infinite, and they were feared by the gods, so they were torn apart and cut in half. Since then, the camp has been in search of a soul mate in response to the shattering of the soul. In other words, the love we crave is all about lack; putting in love is for the sake of fulfillment.
The above hypothesis, not only can be extracted from mythology, but the psychologist Jung also put forward a similar view, convinced that love is a way to reconcile the mind, focusing on satisfying the hunger and thirst that have not been eaten in the past, that is, becoming a more mature and complete person through intimacy. From this, it can be seen that talking about love can be compared to a variant of self-relationship, helping people to cross unfinished issues and slowly integrating the broken, chaotic and imitative subjective consciousness.
Therefore, in love with a person, in addition to being fascinated by the flesh and skin, you will also indulge in the life and ideal posture portrayed by the other party. For this reason, as mentioned at the beginning of this article, the starting point of love, perhaps extreme self-interest, is that we are only focused on the illusion of self-need and desire, rather than heartfelt acceptance and appreciation.
Admittedly, a small number of people are very lucky, and each other's apparitions overlap with each other's skin bags and the truth underneath, and then smoothly walk a long way; but most people, like Mai and Juan, walked around a circle, only to find that they pounced on a void and circled back to the origin. After all, there can be no one who is perfectly suited to the private imagination. Moreover, no one is an eternal being, and the more we indulge in imaginary games, the farther we push each other.
Therefore, "Bouquet of Love" happens to be intertextual with the "Juvenile Murder Incident on Muling Street" mentioned in the movie: we are obsessed with changing others, but we never want to move our position, all because we can't bear disappointment. Narrow assumptions make it difficult for people to accept, and the thoughtfulness and care of the effort are like water spilled out, slowly evaporating and dissipating day by day due to the change of light and shadow.
The person I love to the extreme, the function is only to exist, so that I have an object of love.
In my love, he had no need to participate at all, and there was not an inch of him that he could participate in—Liang Muling
As "Bouquet of Love" emphasizes, no matter how smart you are, magic will not last a lifetime, and perhaps the encounter does require a match, but how to decorate, manage, and even transform, still rely on hard work. As "The Art of Love" reminds, when it comes to love, human beings have an anchoring fallacy, mistakenly believing that the difficulty of love lies in finding an object. As everyone knows, the actual difficulty is how to love after finding it. The absurdity is that how to love someone, whether it is education or various community works of art, is almost rarely clarified. The imprints we have left and carved are only beautiful and painful, and we have never talked about the continuation, combination and transformation of the process.
As for how to love, the movie has long been at the beginning, secretly hiding the answer: the truth that one person is half romantic is the trap, and the secret of long-term love lies in one person and one share. In this case, in the crowded imagination and assumptions, each other can move out of the space to be their own. After that, the flat melody, finally with three-dimensional feedback and understanding, supports the two people who love each other, and continues to broaden the future path of the relationship in a suitable way.
In summary, back to the above rhetorical question: what is vulnerable is not love itself, but whether we, who give love a situation, can accept that the other party is not as beautiful as originally imagined. Through the love story that is not successful, but can not be said to be a complete failure, the film gently reminds the lovers who are also loaded with floating Shen; love long-distance running, is the process of kneading and changing, to adjust together, whether it is the outward self-appearance, or the expectation of the partner in the mind, jumping out of the charm of attachment and memory, in order to promote each other's imagination and reality to get closer, so as to get out of the mud of gradually drifting away.
epilogue
On the whole, "Bouquet-like Love" has a simple structure, a very small pattern, no development of too much dog blood, relying only on simple narration, evoking universal confusion and emotion, no more, no less, but just right. Moreover, the realism under the magic further makes people understand the form of love, which does not have to be a solid crystal, but also a beautiful but mischievous season, and the relationship happens to be a container for change. In this way, in the ever-changing course of life, people's affection, loneliness, and engraving in the soul can all have a suitable nest.