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Author: Seven Seven
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I often listen to many fans and friends around me who are deeply troubled by feelings chanting such a sentence: "It is very easy for each of us to fall in love in our hearts, but it is very difficult to let go!" ”
Deeply believed, may be in love, when a person likes another person, perhaps only need to use a song time, perhaps just two people look at each other at once there is a chemical reaction of love, but once you want to really let go of a person from the heart, you can only fight with time, a person chooses to slowly forget, and not necessarily can forget.
In fact, you and I both know that really falling in love with someone, the real "love" is not just a feeling, but put the other party on the tip of the heart, put into their own hearts, and even carved into the bones, once in love, it is difficult to put down, especially when the two of you love each other, the more you and I are in love, the more vigorous, then when you lose, the more heartbroken, and even the pain.
However, to speak from the heart, sometimes, it is not that you don't want to let go in your heart, you don't have to put it down, the fact is in front of you, that is, whether you want to put it down or not, you must put it down well, after all, only by really letting go of the past, letting go of the person who was once, can you look forward, can you continue your life, and you can transform and be reborn and become a better look.
In the final analysis, to really put down a person from the heart, is not to delete the blackout, nor to not contact, but to do these three words: "do not disturb".
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Do not disturb each other's feelings
Maybe in real life, there are many men and women, when the two say to break up, just because of quarrels and gambling, just because of the spirit of things, in fact, the heart is still in love with each other, or pretend to have each other, there is no real letting go of each other, let go of this relationship.
But don't forget, once the two of you decide to separate, it means that the two of you will not have any relationship from now on, and either of you will be fine, and each of you will fall in love with the other again, and each has the right to pursue love again.
Partial feelings are some people do not understand this truth at all, whenever they see their former objects separated from themselves, soon began to invest in a new relationship, they will feel very sad, but also feel very unwilling, why can the other party so quickly forget themselves?
He has not come out of this relationship, why can he let go so quickly, doesn't he really love himself when he is with himself? In your heart, you will also feel indignant and unfair, and feel that the other party must be like yourself, unable to let go of your feelings, and even depressed and depressed.
However, just imagine, such an idea, such behavior is not justified anywhere, more to say the truth, both of you have chosen to separate, the other party naturally has a lover, but also has the right to invest in a new relationship,
When you suddenly appear, even if you can't let go of the other party, how do you know that the other party will understand, saying that going is just going to meet others, and in what capacity are you planning to go? At this time, you will understand that the two of you have no relationship with each other for a long time, who they are with and what to do with you, after all, you are not even a person of you!
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Don't disturb each other's lives
Someone once said that to truly let go of a person in the heart, you should completely withdraw from yourself, completely away from the other person's life, whether the other party is living happily or unhappily, you should tell yourself in your heart not to disturb the other person's life, because this has nothing to do with yourself.
Yes, to know that there are often some fans and friends in the background to send me private messages, obviously they have been separated from each other, but they still can't put each other down in their hearts, they can't control themselves, they always want to know whether the other party is living well or not, they always want to silently care about each other's lives, especially when they see each other sick or injured, they will be in a hurry in their hearts, anxious to sit still, anxious to turn around, and even eager to run to each other's front to care for and take care of them immediately.
However, behavior like this will only add trouble to yourself, it will only add trouble to the other party, after all, if he still has you in his heart and still deeply likes you, then all of your behaviors, the other party will look in the eyes, presumably will be very happy, very moved, and even two people have the possibility of rekindling old feelings.
But if his heart has already let go of you and has no feelings for you anymore, then your various behaviors and performances are undoubtedly disturbing the other party and adding annoyance to the other party, which will only make the other party hate you more and hate you more.
Therefore, to put it bluntly, if you want to really put down a person in your heart, don't disturb each other, don't disturb each other's lives, you have to understand that this is not only for the sake of ta, but also for your own consideration, after all, two people have no possibility, only do not disturb, is the best way to do to each other.
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Don't disturb each other's circles
Today's social communication is developed, no more than the previous era of only being able to write letters, there are a variety of contact information, and everyone has a mobile phone, you can use the telephone or send a message to contact each other, especially when those lovers and lovers to a certain extent, their mobile phones will habitually leave each other's contact information, and not only each other, but also include each other's relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues and so on.
After all, when the feelings of two people reach a certain maturity, they will integrate into each other's circle and know each other's friends or family, but once the two of you choose to be separated, you may love each other more deeply, or the person who can't let go of each other, you will still feel attached to the other person, and even want to know each other's recent situation, want to know whether the other party is doing well, want to know if you have ever thought about yourself, In the end, it is nothing more than wanting to inquire and learn about each other's news through each other's friends or family, and some even send blessings to each other's family and friends during the New Year's Festival.
But in fact, there is no need for this, have you ever thought that the two of you have been completely separated, such a practice will only make each other feel embarrassed and embarrassed, after all, the other party has nothing to do with you, ta's relatives and friends have nothing to do with you, ta's circle is no longer your circle, maybe when he sees your questions or greetings, he will also reply to you, but it may be just out of courtesy, embarrassed to refuse or pretend not to see.
But you take it seriously, and see very important, even as your own spiritual sustenance, as your own emotional comfort, that is just deceiving yourself, once the two people decide to separate, or really do not bother each other, do not bother each other's relatives and friends, not to disturb and mix with each other's circle, even if it is only the other party's friends or colleagues, should know how to remind themselves, should know how to keep a distance, this is the best way for themselves, It is also the most correct way to really let go of a person in the heart.
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian wrote such a sentence in "Happiness Cake in March", we put down our dignity, let go of our personality, let go of stubbornness, all because we can't let go of a person.
How to say, if you want to completely let go of a person from the heart, don't rely on simple deletion and blackout, to put it bluntly, as long as you don't let go in your heart, it is useless at all.
If you really want to let go of a person, you should give him freedom, you two should not disturb each other, no matter how the other person is living, good or bad has nothing to do with yourself, you should not interfere anymore, you should not bother him.
This is the best way to truly let go of a person, just don't bother the other person, don't bother the right life, and don't bother the other person's circle anymore. Life is your own, you should know how to look forward, no one can really accompany you for a lifetime.
The so-called letting go should mean a new beginning, after all, the world is so big, you can only give up, you can have the opportunity to meet the person who loves you again, you know?
In fact, in my opinion, in the relationship, which person has not loved several people, which one has not experienced several relationships, when loving, it should be wholeheartedly loved, when not loved, it should be cleanly put down, this is the most appropriate attitude to feelings, but also the most correct approach.
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