This article is transferred from: Education for Kids (ID: haizijiaoyu)
Author: New New Mom
Today's film, adapted from a true story, can not only awaken the purest kindness in our hearts, teach children how to express kindness, but also be a must-see educational guide for parents.
When children have a low IQ and are shy to communicate, how should parents be good? How can children maintain the innocence and goodwill in their hearts? This film gives us the answer.
The first two days of rare leisure, watched a healing movie - "Weakness", Douban score of 8.7, telling the story between a lowly black boy and a wealthy Kochi family.
Black boys were born poor, their parents divorced and homeless since childhood. By chance, he was adopted by a wealthy white family and, under their careful cultivation, became a well-known American football player.
Some people feel that this is not possible to happen in real life, and it seems a bit fake to be too kind. But in the end, it was dumbfounded: it was a movie based on real events, and believe it or not, these things happened in real times.
The archetypal character family
"Thank God for sending us a new friend"
The protagonist of the film is a 16-year-old boy, because of his tall and large size, people around him often call him Big Mike, which is a bit Chinese meaning of "silly big man".
Although he is 16 years old, his IQ is only 80, which is still at the level of a 6-year-old child.
This is a typical low-level figure, born in a slum, whose parents have divorced since childhood.
Her mother had been a drug addict for many years, and from an early age, Big Mike was forcibly sent by the US government to live in an adoptive family and live a life under the fence.
However, the "parents" in these host families are just trying to use the excuse of raising Mike to defraud the government of a maintenance payment.
No matter where he was, he was always the object of neglect.
Poor grades, lack of love, lack of basic living conditions, loneliness, Big Mike is like an island, material and spiritual, can not be satisfied.
Therefore, he is timid and cramped, never says much, and the absence of spiritual needs also makes him resist the outside world and close his heart.
All of this changed dramatically after he met the Taussi family.
On a cold and windy night, Big Mike wandered around wearing thin short sleeves, and homeless, he met the kind Taussi family and was taken in for one night.
Mrs. Tossy wasn't sure if she had made the right decision on her impulse—would this child of unknown origin have stolen something? Will he be as rough and sloppy as the other blacks, and do something bad?
The next morning, when she took a deep breath and came to the living room, she found that the sofa had been cleaned by Big Mike, who had left with all his belongings—a plastic bag with a few torn pieces of clothing.
The sensibleness of 16-year-old Big Mike touched Mrs. Taussi's soft heart, and she gave birth to even greater ideas—to adopt him.
When she wanted to learn more about the boy, Big Mike was silent.
The tragic experience of his childhood and the years of living under the fence have given him a strong psychological defense mechanism.
Whether dealing with teachers or with his peers, Big Mike is undoubtedly the isolated category, he does not speak, or only speaks three words and two words, and never actively expresses his emotions.
Seeing that he did not answer three questions, Mrs. Torcy asked a very witty question: "Is there anything you can tell me?" ”
The boy then said, "I don't like being called Big Mike." ”
He didn't like the title he had been called for more than a decade, but no one ever asked him, and no one noticed that the boy didn't like being called Big Mike—he had his own name and wanted to have his own decency.
After that, Mrs. Tossy took it to heart, called him Michael, and gave the boy the self-esteem he wanted, which slowly pried open his closed heart.
Neither the Taussi's husband nor the children saw Michael's arrival as a nuisance.
On Thanksgiving, the family sat on the couch and watched TV as usual.
Mrs. Taussi noticed that Michael was sitting alone at the table eating. In order to let him integrate into the big family, she turned off the TV that everyone was watching, brought everything to the table, and let everyone share dinner with Michael.
She said, "Thank you Lord for sending us a new friend."
The daughter and son also took Michael's hand and prayed together.
Mike opened his eyes and peeked at the family of prayer, unable to believe that someone was willing to accept him.
The Taussi family soon began to pull Michael into a new life.
Mr. Taussi secretly fills in Mike's emergency contacts;
On Christmas cards, Michael was also photogenic;
The Taussis asked Michael if they could be his legal guardian and if he would like to be part of the family.
The family's efforts gradually dismantled the outer defenses that Michael had set up for himself.
Never recognized, he began to reveal his personality, learned to communicate with others, and surrendered his trust. The smile on his face also increased.
In such a wonderful family atmosphere, Michael has received unprecedented respect and love, and has been given the opportunity to change his life.
From tramps to all-American stars
Although the IQ is only 80, and most of the subject scores are below the passing line, michael's score is surprisingly high in one review.
His "sense of protection" is as high as 98 points, and he instinctively protects himself and those around him. I was able to enter this school because the coach of the football team saw his excellent athletic talent.
After learning that Michael's sense of protection was as high as 98 points, Mrs. Taussi was keenly aware that the child was not useless, and after discovering his shining point, the family began to deliberately train Michael for this strength.
However, Michael, who has just started playing rugby, has not yet learned the trick, no matter how the coach shouts and how to teach, Michael can not gain for his team, nor can he understand what the responsibility of his left winger is.
Obviously there is talent, but it is impossible to make good use of it, how to be good? Fortunately, Mrs. Taussi was a wise woman.
Combining Michel's usual experience of protecting their families, she told Michael: "Treat your teammates as our family and never let anyone hurt us, that's your responsibility, you know what to do." ”
Why did Mrs. Taussi say this?
Because she saw through Michael's heart: there were too many people who took the banner of being good for him and said countless times that they would help him, but in the end, they didn't do it.
So, he no longer trusts outsiders, and his defense mechanisms are only used on the people he cares about.
The Towsy family is different, they have made Michael feel the goodwill from the heart with practical actions, so he will do his best to protect them.
It was what she said that played a pivotal role in Michael's subsequent games.
SJ, a quirky little athlete, also volunteered to be Michael's full-time "sparring partner" and set him a rugby practice plan.
Fortunately, everyone's efforts have not been in vain.
Michael finally learned how to work with his teammates and shined in one big game.
His outstanding performance on the field attracted the attention of major college sports coaches, such as the University of Tennessee, who extended an olive branch to him.
But the problem is again: in order to enter the university, the score of the culture class must reach a certain score, micheal's GPA is only 0.6, and it is difficult to go to school.
Mrs. Towsy hired a make-up teacher for him to guide Michael's subjects, and in the end, living up to expectations, his grades finally passed.
Faced with the olive branch extended by many colleges and universities, Michael finally chose the university where the Taussi couple graduated, the University of Mississippi.
From basic eating, clothing, and living to spiritual cultivation, Mrs. Taussi is cultivating Michael as her own child, and it is difficult not to be admired.
But this move has attracted questions from the NCAA (National College Sports Association): Your family is a student at the University of Mississippi and a donor to the university. Do they want to make money by sponsoring you to send athletes to universities?
Michael, who had never doubted the Taussie family, had first begun to question their purpose in adopting him, and he felt that he had been deceived again.
Michael, who thinks he has lost his affection, collapses inside and returns to the slums, where he beats up the black man who jokes about him for the first time, runs away from home for the first time, and never returns overnight.
The Taussis didn't think he was overreacting at all, but instead thought it was their fault, and it was reasonable for Michael to be so angry: he really didn't seem to have asked Michael if he wanted to play football all along.
The next day, At the risk of her life, Mrs. Taussi went to the slum alone and tried to save him:
"No matter which school you go to, what you choose to do, it's your decision, Micheal, it's your own life."
"What if I want to do lowly work?"
"It's your decision, it's your own life."
In the end, Michael became a laude student at the University of Mississippi, a distinguished player in football, and a national star.
All this is due to the great and kind and wise behavior of the Taussi family.
If it were not for a well-intentioned act, how could the athletic talent of the original tramp be stimulated to the peak.
A good way of education is essential
In addition to the heart-warming story, there is another profound theme behind the film, which is education.
Living in the family atmosphere of the Taussi family, it is difficult not to be a good person.
One could argue that it was because his family had money and the capital to do what they liked to do, and his parents paved the way for their children.
But don't forget, in addition to giving the children enough material foundation, the Taussi couple also gave the children great spiritual education and respect, and always used their own behavior to make benchmarks for the children.
1. Parents are role models for their children
When Mrs. Taussi gathers with a group of wealthy white wives, the white wives sneer at her for adopting black boys and not thinking about her family's young daughter.
Mrs. Tossy handsomely replied to the pearlescent wives: "Shame on you", and then turned away domineeringly.
In her eyes, there is no difference between race and skin color, everyone is equal, because she is willing to believe in others and has a very positive three views, so her children are like her, with a kind heart, and they are excellent in all aspects.
When Michael was ostracized by her classmates, her daughter took the initiative to sit back and fight back against the gossip; the first time they spent Thanksgiving together, the daughter took Michael's hand and prayed together, without casting a strange look at the dark-skinned boy.
Although the eccentric young son SJ is small, he looks like an adult, and he has never looked at michael with a strange eye since the first acquaintance, but has long told others that Michael is his big brother.
Parents' words and deeds are always affecting children, and if parents have three positive views, the child's world view will not be bad.
2. Respect for children is a hundred times stronger than authoritarian educational methods
The Respect the Taussi couple had for the children gave them complete tension.
Although Michael eventually followed in the footsteps of the Taussi family and went to the University of Mississippi to continue playing football, this was Mike's own will.
In this way, moisturizing things silently gives children enough room to grow.
When a child has enough respect, enough love and kindness, even if the heart is locked for more than a decade, it will be moved.
3. Every child has a shining point
Every child has its own shining point, and when Mrs. Tausy learned that Michael scored a 98 on the protection awareness test, she understood how to stimulate Michael's desire to exercise.
It's conceivable that if no one had found out about it, maybe Michael's rugby wouldn't have played that well. It can be said that Michael's potential was accurately captured by Mrs. Taussi.
The way parents educate them is crucial to their children's development. Parents give more encouragement and carefully discover the advantages of their children, which is a good way of education.
Michael Jerome Oher, a former NFL left winger, is a realistic prototype for the film Weakness
4. Kindness is the starting point of luck
Michael discovered not only the strengths of his athletic talent, but also his beautiful mind.
Obviously, the body is huge, but the heart is soft and kind. Watch him gently push the swings of those white children.
And his kindness meant that he would meet a kind family, and all mrs. Taussi did for him not only helped him find his own advantages, but also found his own soul.
When kindness meets kindness, this is the starting point of all lucky stories.
Although the film is bland, it is just right to touch the audience's heart, and let us as parents see how good education methods affect children's growth.