Lady Wang did not agree with Lin Daiyu marrying Jia Baoyu, and her intention to support Xue Baochao as Bao's second grandmother was very obvious. On the surface, it seems that Lin Daiyu is not in good health, her fate is hard to "kill" her parents and brother, and the feudal superstition that her own health is not good, coupled with The fact that Daiyu's personality is sensitive and unpleasant, and there is no one in the family.
However, the "orientation" of the ancients in choosing marriage did not necessarily follow these.
Lin Daiyu was born in the family of four generations of marquises, and was a scholarly monk. His father, Lin Ruhai, was a scholar of the imperial examination, an object of pursuit and envy for all the readers in the world. Her mother, Jia Min, is the daughter of the Duke of Rongguo, and she is a beautiful lady of the Gongmen Qianjin...
These were enough to make up for the deficiencies in Lin Daiyu's body. She came from a famous family and was a good marriage object that was sought after by people.
In fact, Madame Wang did not agree with Lin Daiyu, mainly for two reasons.
First, she wanted to marry the Xue family in person, and through the in-law relationship between the Xue family, the Wang family and the Jia family, she would escort Jia Baoyu in the future.
Second, her personal vision and pattern could not see the true significance of Lin Daiyu to the Jia family.
Lin Daiyu's advantages have no advantage over the Jia family in front of her, but she is of great value to the Future Jia family.
Comparing the abilities and benefits of Xue Baochao and Lin Daiyu, the small matter of teaching Xiangling to learn poetry is clearly reflected.
Xiangling wants to learn poetry, just like raising a child. Do you follow her interests or make her do your duty!
Xiang Ling smiled and said, "Good girl, you took advantage of this kung fu to teach me to compose poetry." Bao Chao smiled and said, "I said you 'have to look forward to Shu'." I urge you to come in on the first day of this day, first go out of the east corner of the garden, from the old lady, everyone everywhere you look at, greeting, do not have to tell them to move into the garden. If there is a reason, you only have to say that I brought you in as a companion. I came back and went into the garden, and then walked around the girls' rooms. ”
Xiang Ling followed Xue Baochao every day, envious of the people in the Grand View Garden to write poetry, and she also wanted to learn.
With Xue Baochao's ability, there was no problem in teaching Xiangling. But Baochao always believes that her daughter should not learn poetry, female red female virtue is her duty, and other poetry and song are not the right way.
She had said this to Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu more than once, and it was not surprising that she did not teach Xiangling to learn poetry.
In Xue Baochao's eyes, he could only see the "right way" of the road. The daughter's right path is female red, female morality. The boy's right path is the career path.
If XiangLing is a descendant of Xue Baochao and wants to learn "miscellaneous studies" other than the imperial examination, Baochao will inevitably refuse.
Just like she said to Lin Daiyu: "Men don't understand reading, and it's not as good as not reading, let alone you and me." Even things such as writing poetry and writing are not within the responsibility of you and me, nor are they within the responsibility of men. Men read and are sensible, and they help the country to govern the people, and this is good. It's just that I don't hear such people now, and it's even worse to read books. It was a book that had misled him, but unfortunately he had also collapsed the book, so it was better to cultivate and buy and sell, but there was no great harm. ”
Xue Baochao's words seem to make sense, but in fact they are generalized. Is it not good to help the country and the people if we do not read the examination, and if we cannot read the book and be reasonable, then help the country and govern the people? Is it better to be a scholar than to "cultivate and trade"?
It is better to choose the "inferior" at that time than to teach according to the interests of future generations, and only to study and study, and to help the country and govern the people, is it possible for everyone, and it is not a mistake!
What is "a matter of duty"?
In fact, the ancients "reading" did not necessarily have to be a career. Some people are for reason, some are for learning, some are brilliant in literature and become poets, lyricists, and opera writers, and those who are scholars include Ercheng and Zhu Xi, and there are even saints like Wang Shouren who are determined to be "saints". All roads lead to Rome, where is not good!
Neither Li Bai nor Du Fu was able to "assist the country and govern the people", and how could they not shock the ancient and modern, and how could they not shock the ancient and modern, and the ancestors of the Guangzong Dynasty!
Therefore, Lin Daiyu's thinking was diametrically opposed to Xue Baochao's. Since Xiangling likes to compose poetry, she thinks it should be encouraged. It doesn't matter what daughter's duty is! Writing poetry will not affect the daughter's duty.
She developed a rigorous and scientific learning method for Xiangling to learn poetry. What kind of poetry can be learned and what cannot be learned. Whose poetry is better, whose poetry cannot be learned... Truly teach according to aptitude. Xiangling was interested in poetry at first, and secondly, she worked hard and soon learned to compose poetry.
The fact that Xiangling learned poetry was a real rehearsal of Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochao as the "daughter-in-law of the Jia family", and it was clear who of them was more suitable for the Jia family. It also reflects the gap between the vision and pattern of Xue Baochao and Lin Daiyu.
If both of them are the daughters-in-law of the Jia family, they both face their children and grandchildren to cultivate. Xue Baochao would educate Lu Yi, who could only read and study, leaving only one way for his children and grandchildren.
Lin Daiyu will cultivate their love of reading, willingness to read, and good at reading according to the ability of their children and grandchildren. These "interests" in reading will serve as seeds, influencing the descendants of the Jia family from generation to generation, so that they are also willing and good at reading. What a reading climate! Are you afraid that there is no one who can get ahead of the people?
Xue Baochao is a road to black, which will only backfire.
Lin Daiyu is a long stream of thin water, and it is bound to come to fruition!
In fact, a family like the Jia family has many roads to go. It is good to study and become an official. As a literati, why can't you honor your ancestors!
Jia Zheng traveled for three years and broadened his horizons before he wanted to understand this truth.
Although Jia Baoyu is not good at reading and judging, he is very accomplished in terms of culture, and being a literati who is born of poetry and wine can also shine on the lintel.
Therefore, it is not surprising that Jia Zheng will completely change Jia Baoyu's ambitions! It was also the real reason why Lin Daiyu did not persuade Jia Baoyu to study and study.
Lady Wang herself did not educate her son well, so she thought of finding two wives and concubines for her son to "advise" Baochao and attack people, but she did not know that people's character was not good. Lin Daiyu already understood this truth, but Madame Wang didn't understand it!
Lin Daiyu's greatest value is the ability to cultivate the "literary atmosphere" of the Jia family, and Xue Baochao will only let the Jia family continue to pursue "interests". The difference between Bao Dai and Dai is also the root of Bao Dai's correct marriage and Jin Yuliang's marriage mistake.
Lady Wang could not see that Lin Daiyu was good, and she was doomed to teach her son badly.
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