Some time ago, when I was bored, I watched a variety show called "Half-Acquainted Lovers", which is a love variety show.
The specific content is not introduced one by one, it is about 8 30+ young mature age men and women, 4 men and 4 women, so that they live under the same roof in a month's time, and begin to get along for the purpose of love and socialization.
I only watched the first episode, and there will definitely be a different development in the future, but there was such a scene at the time that reminded me of a very hot sentence recently.
There is a female guest named Lola, and her personality belongs to the lively and cute one. Unlike several other female guests who are intellectual or capable, Lola's "comedian" trait is very striking, the existence that she loves to laugh and often makes everyone laugh.
When it was time for the show to invite each other, Lola, who was full of expectations, showed great confidence, she had gotten along well with everyone before, thinking that someone would choose her, but the result was just the opposite, no male guest chose her.
During the solo interview, she had a feeling and said a sentence "Everyone likes you, but everyone will not love you",
Oh, this is not the car rutted sentence in my friend's mouth recently, "Funny women will not have love."
I don't know how many people will feel that they have been shot in the knee when this sentence is mentioned, but is it necessary?
This topic has been discussed quite a lot recently, and I have seen that most of the places that appear are some funny videos, humorous girls with self-deprecating, hilarious at the same time, but also feel that there is some relief in it.
The phrase itself is a kind of funny.
But the spread spread was widespread, and gradually it seemed that the negative meaning prevailed, becoming a tool for overturning a boat of people with a stick.
After the body anxiety, "character anxiety" also appeared: funny for girls, it seems to be a character defect, you will lose competitiveness in the mate market.
Outrageous.
In my impression, funny is a kind of humor, which is intended to make people laugh.
Humor is a very precious quality. There are many survey studies that show that a humorous person is more popular with others and will behave more attractively.
They are easier to deal with others, to get closer, and to be a good player in the social arena. It's probably "people like you."
However, the cheerful ray released to everyone will greatly break the romantic atmosphere, so that the other party cannot perceive the feeling of love coming, and without that ambiguous atmosphere, for some people, it will not be moved.
Of course, in the hearts of many men, they are more inclined to be the party that produces humor and laughs at girls. When women frequently create baggage, some men will have a subtle sense of imbalance in their hearts. They prefer people who can accurately identify the humor they make and react just right. This is probably "won't love you".
But these reasons, in the final analysis, are only applicable to some people.
All I can say is that everyone likes the type differently.
I have a friend who just likes girls who are big grinning and funny because they're happy.
If you don't get together, it just shows that you're not suitable. It has nothing to do with not being funny, and people who are not funny will still have no love.
I've always believed that two people together must be together for a long time and understand each other to establish a stable emotional relationship. When a person is willing to take the time to get to know you, to accept your "funny" or any other personality trait, you have the possibility of true love.
Therefore, personality anxiety is not necessary, after all, the "funny" thing can not be pretended, it is simply a talent.