Living in the present is a life attitude, but also a state of life, do not how to drill the things in front of you, do not think about the future, as long as you can be happy now, that happy day is a day.
Drill the things in front of you, especially the troublesome things, the more you drill the more troublesome, think about the future things, what will happen in the future, who can know?
Instead of thinking about it like this, it is better to live a happy day with peace of mind.
There is a way that ideals have always been beautiful, but reality is always cruel, and there are indeed many people in reality who want to live in the present, but most of them can't do it.
There are very few people who can actually do it, and there are two key questions about "living in the moment" is really good? Can we really avoid or solve our troubles?
Today we will take a constellation as an example to actually explore this problem.
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I remember that three or four years ago, when I wrote About Libra, I found an appropriate title for Libra, "Sleeping God", and as a result, this title was spread by many people, and the characteristics of Libra Sleeping God were understood by more and more people.
For this title we can also shout a slogan "There is nothing, Libra can't sleep, if there is, then sleep again." ”
Some friends may be more curious, how does this sleep quality, drowsiness and what is still related to the horoscope? We're not kidding, here in Libra, the quality of sleep is really related to them.
Of course, there is a point we will make clear first: Libra likes to sleep, not a hobby, but a habit.
What habits? The logic of escaping into the habit of nature is actually very simple, that is, the logic of a wind sign:
When you encounter trouble, you don't want it, the more you think about it, the more annoyed you are, directly transfer to escape, or drag it according to your personal wishes.
Most of the Libras, it can be said that they were so passive from childhood to adulthood, and as a result, after a sleep, they found that this trouble had passed.
Once or twice, Libra became an old rule when it came to trouble.
Selective not to think, selectively forgetting for a while, what is the easiest and most effective way? Isn't that just sleeping?
In fact, Gemini and Aquarius also have a similar logic, Gemini is directly diverting their attention, Aquarius is directly ignored, Libra is sleeping.
In fact, how to say, this habit of Libra is sometimes really cattle, and ordinary people really can't do this.
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In many Libra people, you will find that they will always have some procrastination tendencies to appear more or less, so many people will think that Libra is very passive.
At another point, Libra's attention and concentration are difficult to concentrate on a little longer time like normal people.
Except for some habits of The Libra people themselves, it is difficult for them to focus and concentrate on the rest of the people and things for a long time.
In fact, you can observe the Libras around you, especially the small Libras, you will find that they are learning, learning piano or whatever, they are difficult to concentrate, it is difficult to stick to it for a long time.
The big libra is also like this, they will be interested in their favorite, curious things, curiosity and interest will activate the power of the scale, but only part of it.
Then if Libra is not curious, not interested, or curious and interested in the way to trouble, then they will simply skip, not to mention long-term concentration.
Therefore, there will be a more obvious feature in Libra people:
Libra has a tendency to be a bit multi-talented, that is, everything will feel a little bit like this.
So long ago, with the growth of Libra, habits have been formed, and it is almost impossible to change, then when Libra encounters feelings and begins to get along with people, there will be strange things happening.
At this point of growth, Libra has actually planted a "time bomb" for itself, and we will "defuse the bomb" below.
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For example, Libra quarreled with his object, and the two people had a very unpleasant quarrel, and as a result, after sleeping for a while, the other party asked him, "Do you have breakfast, the old three?" ”
Libra replied smoothly, and then slowly thought, "It seems that she is not angry, otherwise why would she take the initiative to ask me if I eat breakfast?" "Forget about yesterday's events."
Then one quarrel is the result, and the next contradiction is the same.
The habits that Libra developed in the process of growing up were activated, and when he encountered contradictions and quarrels later, Libra dealt with it by instinct, the other party scolded him, he did not say good words, the other party laughed and giggled, he also laughed and giggled.
As a result, the two finally broke up, because the other party could not stand him, after the breakup Libra was very uncomfortable, he did not want to make himself uncomfortable and wanted to play games or go out to do something else, but this transfer was impossible for Libra.
He himself will have some normal thoughts in his head, "Maybe he won't be angry and he'll be fine, he'll come back", and then wait and wait, and the discomfort will continue to increase.
If we really don't get angry with each other, we really care about this relationship, and then we take the initiative to contact Libra and return to Libra, but what about getting along in the future?
Libra is still the same old logic, such as breaking up again, Libra will still have such an idea to produce "maybe this time it will be better to wait for her not to be angry", but this time can not wait.
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So the key question is will Libra feel bad because of the breakup?
The answer is no, Libra will not be uncomfortable because of the breakup, because in Libra's view, "divide it up, if it is not suitable, why force it, and it is impossible to force it for a long time."
Libra's discomfort is that he doesn't know why he is uncomfortable.
Just like other similar situations he encountered when he was growing up, was it because of the exam that he failed? No.
Is it uncomfortable for a friend not to play with him because he has lost a friend? No.
In fact, this logic is also very simple, but also a logic of the wind sign, the wind sign can indeed do zero time, temporarily transfer their emotions or thoughts, but it is difficult to achieve a real transfer.
Because the real transfer is called "solving the problem".
That is to say, we ourselves have encountered troubles, difficulties, contradictions and other problems, and finally solved them through ourselves, so that these things will no longer affect ourselves.
Although Libra can transfer some negative thoughts and emotions through sleep, it cannot be solved:
Therefore, those troubles that have accumulated for a long time, contradictions and difficulties, etc., will run out when the scales are uncomfortable.
That is to say, the trouble that Libra needs to face when it is uncomfortable is not the immediate trouble, but the pile of trouble, which will constantly stimulate the endurance of Libra.
It's obvious how it's possible for a person to resist so many negative emotions and negative feelings at the same time, so most of the time Libra will be crushed and then start blaming themselves.
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Then when a scale is uncomfortable, he will show this uncomfortable emotion all over his body, but on the surface he is normal.
This is so because the discomfort is serial logic from the inside out.
Now we return to the original point, many people who have been with Libra say that Libra is indifferent, Libra does not change for itself, spends several months with Libra, and does not perceive Libra's care.
Then these questions are the most easily pulled out problems of Libra in feelings, in fact, as long as you understand the points we said above, you should be able to find answers to these problems of Libra.
Libra is indifferent to himself, who have you ever seen who would be unsocient about himself and not attentive?
For example, when Libra likes something, it can't stick to it for a long time, and when Libra encounters trouble, it doesn't solve it but escapes.
Don't they know the fact that some things are not resolved and leave a curse? They know, it's just that they're used to running away.
On the other hand, people who are obsessed with themselves will almost never deal with problems in this way, and normal people should face the problem and try to solve it.
So relatively speaking, you say that a Libra doesn't care about you or similar expressions, these are really meaningless, they are all indifferent to themselves, let alone to you.
This one is like nature, an infinite loop.
So here we say a key method that allows you to get along well with Libra, which is also the result of our previous "bomb removal":
To be with Libra, first of all, you have to learn to adapt, you have to be able to adapt to them, and secondly, you have to be more tolerant, more tolerant, and your own personality is more active.
That is to say, you must have the determination and action to drive the scales, and their personality needs people to push, and people need people to give them some motivation to go forward in the direction, which is very needed.
Of course, for Libra friends, the road of life is too long, if we do not take the initiative to try to move forward or solve anything, then there should be no other people in this world who have the ability to help us.
Many things in life will not go as we wish, many things, even if we don't want to do it, we have to do it, this is not against the heart, but for the actual survival.
What a pity, a lot of regret, a lot of regret, to miss the person who really cares about us.
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