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It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage.
Any relationship has a reason to exist, even if it is love outside of marriage, it needs to be understood and tolerated.
It's just that when love comes, we need to stay sane. Love is one thing, and the result of love is another, and it cannot be confused.
Zhu Deyong once said: "There is no reason to get married, but you will understand many truths afterwards." ”
It is true that in love, we are too emotional, and only after love is ripe and fallen can we become rational.
An unrealistic love is wrong from the beginning, and if you don't know how to be alert and entangled, it is inevitable that you will lose both.
If you think about it seriously, you will understand that when the wrong love comes, there will be the following signs that will guide you to let go as soon as possible, but you are obsessed and unwilling to face it.
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The promise of "after divorce, marry you" seems very weak.
We often hear the phrase, "Give me a little time and I'll find a way to get a divorce and marry you." I really love you and want to be with you. ”
A love sentence can move people to tears. Wait, in time, you can really spend a lifetime with the person you like.
But how long will it take? The other person will not give you an accurate time. Maybe three or five years, maybe a lifetime, maybe wait and give up.
In fact, many people, even if they are really divorced, will not necessarily be with someone who loves outside of marriage.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling were originally colleagues, and both of them had families, but they did not care about love. In order to fulfill their love, they tried everything they could and divorced.
However, the love of two people is destined not to be favored. After Ling Ling woke up from the dream, she chose to remarry her ex-husband, but Chen Junsheng became depressed.
Halfway husband and wife, each with one hand. If there is no special reason, the other party will not be determined to marry you. Even if you are really married, all kinds of family conflicts still need a lot of courage to face.
If you feel that there are too many difficulties in marriage and the other party's commitment is also doubtful, that is, the "emotional rift" that requires active withdrawal and giving up waiting.
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The relationship cannot be made public, and each other is hiding.
Someone said, "Behind every great man, there is an amazing woman." ”
For the sake of men's careers, women are willing to be green leaves, hiding in inconspicuous places, but they have always exerted their strength.
If it is a husband and wife, once the man has a successful career, the woman will be pushed to the front of the stage and get the praise and blessing of everyone.
For example, director Ang Lee was unknown in the six years before the filming of Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. His wife has been with him, whether he has succeeded or not. When Ang Lee became famous, his wife also received everyone's recognition.
In an interview, Ang Lee said: "Married for 30 years, thank her for not abandoning. ”
However, after love becomes a hidden affair, your feeling will be - "not easy to say, unspeakable" The other party has always regarded you as an "invisible person", and the distance between you and him will become farther and farther away. Even if he bullies you, no one knows that all the pain is only borne by yourself.
Reliable love will become "capital to show off" at the beginning. Many people will post the circle of friends and declare that they are single. On the other hand, if you cover up love too deeply, don't ask whether there is any result.
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Very cautious in spending money, both sides will keep a hand.
There is a saying that goes: "Whoever gives the heart, the money is given to whom." ”
Generally speaking, who a person falls in love with will appear generous in front of whom. Even people from ordinary families are willing to take out all the money in their pockets. Spending money for love is a very face-saving thing.
People interact with each other and talk about money, which is very vulgar, but not talking about money is pretending to be high.
If you feel that the other party is very stingy in front of you, and even opens his mouth to borrow money from you, it means that he is not reliable at all, and may be a liar.
If you are worried that you are spending too much money and always expect the other party to spend more money, it means that you are "making another plan". It's just that you don't want to admit it.
The French writer Rousseau said: "The money in our hands is a tool to maintain freedom." ”
You can lack love, but you can't lack money. Falling in love with a person with a family, with the sign of "people and money are empty", then you must turn around.
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In each other's life, you are just a decoration.
Tu Lei, the love mentor, said: "Women should never be a third party, and when a man can betray his wife to be with you, he will definitely betray you because of other women." ”
A person who betrays his family, let's not talk about "loyalty". You believe in him, it's just your opinion. The other person doesn't really take you seriously.
Even people who fail in their marriages will want to get a divorce and then consider moving into the next marriage.
Betrayal is sometimes an inertial thought, an action that is "repeated and repeated" again and again. There are even some people who like to show off how many times they have been in love and how many times they have been pursued. The hypocrisy of the heart can be seen.
Most people who step on several boats at a time have signs such as "time arrangements cannot be arranged, answering the phone mysteriously, a lot of love talk, and often missing appointments", which can be known at a glance.
To be a man, you cannot become a pawn, but to be yourself. Rather for jade crumbling than for tiles.
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Conclusion.
Zhang Ailing said: "Maybe every man has had two women like this, at least two." Married to a red rose, over time, the red changed a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, the white is still the bright moonlight in front of the bed; married to the white rose, the white is a grain of rice sticky on the clothes, and the red is a cinnabar mole on the heart. ”
Both men and women would rather be arrogant to the point of mold than fall in love with someone with a family. In case you accidentally fall in love, then calm down and look for clues about his "true heart or false heart" from the bits and pieces of two people getting along.
"True love" outside of marriage is rare and requires caution.
A lot of love can stand the test of wind and rain, but it can't stand the test of time. After the romance, there is no one who is willing to accompany you to live a life of thin water and long streams.
True love is a lifelong thing, and this thing will make you have a sense of solidity, happiness, presence, and superiority.
Of course, love the wrong person, don't blame anyone, don't pursue right and wrong, and reflect more on yourself.
After the storm, meet the rainbow.
Mistakes can be corrected, and the future can be expected.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.