Some people have actually lost their lives by the time they are twenty or thirty years old, and the rest of the time is just mechanically repeating the previous day's life.
There is no possibility of new characteristics, and their lives have always been idle, not exuding any attractive brilliance.
Some people, although their lives will not be rich and noble, but their lives can emit different brilliance in different time periods.
For example, at the age of twenty, they are full of vitality, and when they are thirty years old, they are mature and stable, they are like a river that continues to roll forward, so their lives have always maintained a strong vitality.
In fact, there will not be much gap in life, but after different efforts in the later stage, it will eventually present a different result, the mediocrity is naturally unattended, and the sparkling natural will not lack the attraction of the opposite sex.
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, a woman can continue to be infatuated with a man after the age of forty for three reasons.
They never gave up on managing their self-image
There is a video content like this: a blogger took a piece of paper, there are four girls on the paper, A is ugly but in good shape, B is good looking but bloated, C is long and good-looking but particularly expensive, D is ugly and poor but can't spend the money.
The blogger let the male colleagues in the office choose one of the four girls to be their girlfriend, only to see that the male colleagues without exception chose C, whether to spend or not is not so important, whether there is money is not so important, mainly good looks and good figure.
In fact, from this small test, we can see that men are in love with their eyes, no matter how old men are.
Regarding the occurrence of love, Shakespeare also said: "Women fall in love with their ears, and men, if they have love, they love with their eyes." ”
Therefore, if a woman can still have peach blossom luck at the age of forty, the most intuitive reason is that a woman still has a not inferior appearance when she is forty years old.
Although it is not as delicate as a young person, it still looks like the beauty of a stunning time at first glance.
This requires women to pay attention to their external image in peacetime, and do not feel that they do not have to care about anything when they are old.
As long as we are responsible for our external image, then the years are not a pig-killing knife for us, but just a string of numbers.
The baptism of time and place has carved out their gentle side even more
Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" was pampered at the beginning and did not know the dangers of society, so when she dealt with others, she always had some feeling of arrogance in it.
Later, she divorced, lost her marriage, and began to enter the society, everything started from scratch, and it was in this kind of tempering that Luo Zijun slowly converged on his sharp edge, and also began to understand the hardships of Chen Junsheng's raising a large family, and his heart did not hate him so much.
Forty is actually a great age, it will gradually smooth out our edges and corners in the baptism of time, make us less sharp, let us become gentle.
Zhang Ailing's "Half Life" has such a sentence: "Men after middle age often feel lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on." ”
For middle-aged men, women's gentleness and understanding are the most important substances, which will let men know that they are supported and understood, so naturally they will be more dependent on women.
Because it has rained, they prefer to hold umbrellas for others
01)/Yang Lan once said: "In the face of an ever-changing world, we must have the ability to adjust ourselves and continue to learn. If you are always solidified in a circle, life will lack a lot of fun and will lose a lot of opportunities. ”
So for forty-year-old women, those who have experienced the calmness after the storm, and the empathy that understands others, are their unique charm.
Du Siyi in the TV series "The Legend of Lu Zhen" knows how difficult it is for a woman to be a female official in the palace, and knows how frightening it is to survive in the palace, and she has become a female official all the way from a small palace girl with her own efforts.
Therefore, she naturally knew the hardships involved, and at the same time, she was kind at heart, taking extra care of those little palace girls and little eunuchs who were of lower status in the palace.
02), there are two kinds of people in this world, one is drenched in rain, feel that the world is unfair, so they have resentment, they have to look at others and themselves have experienced hardships, their hearts will be balanced.
The other is that she is drenched in rain and is not willing to let others experience the same thing, so she will hold up an umbrella for others.
The most rare thing is the kindness that is engraved in the bones, that is the inner upbringing of a person, and everyone who approaches them can feel this warmth.
And this has become the main reason why they still have peach blossom luck at the age of forty.