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Ji Xiaolan wrote in the "Notes on Reading Wei Caotang": "If things are abnormal, there will be demons. ”
One thing, if it works properly, it means that there is nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, if this matter develops on the bad side, and even affects people and the environment, it means that it has a problem.
In "Dou E'er", why does such a vision as June Flying Frost appear?
According to Guan Hanqing of the Yuan Dynasty, because there were loyal people who went to prison and suffered unnecessary grievances, the heavens shook, and then snow and frost fell to warn the world. This is obviously an exaggeration of the novelist's writing.
However, it shows a truth, any abnormal thing, followed by abnormal situations.
In years of drought, there will inevitably be continuous high temperatures and less rainfall, which is a natural vision; the unfortunate people will inevitably go badly, and everything will go wrong, which is a personal vision.
In the same way, in a family, if there is a contradiction for no reason, it proves that someone behind it is fueling the waves. If left unchecked, it can easily lead to the collapse of the family.
If man is abnormal, there must be a ghost, and if something is abnormal, there must be a demon. The appearance of these signs in the family foreshadows an unfortunate situation.
02
The appearance of people who are "troublemakers" in the family will affect the stability of the family.
There is a saying in the "Augmented Sage Text": "Don't say anything when you see things, don't know what you want to do; rest in your leisure affairs, and return early when you have nothing to do." ”
If you encounter something, don't say it, but keep your mouth shut. When people ask you what you did, you say you don't know. Don't worry about idle people, just go home early.
Truly wise people do not cause trouble, but they are not afraid of things. People who have no measure, although they are not afraid of things, have also been causing trouble. Behind the trouble is the beginning of misfortune.
Lao Zhang's son had made trouble with others some time ago and was arrested. And lao Zhang, who is a father, has no choice but to spend some money to get him out. However, his son still goes his own way and does not listen to Lao Zhang's words.
According to Lao Zhang, he has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on his son's pocket. Fortunately, he was born into a wealthy family, otherwise he would have been in prison a long time ago.
What does this mean? When there are "troublemakers" in the family, not only will your life be affected, but even the money in your hands will continue to be lost.
03
The presence of "lazy" people in the home will affect the atmosphere of the family.
The so-called "diligence can make up for the clumsiness is a good lesson, a point of hard work and a point of talent." ”
Diligence is, after all, the key to making up for shortcomings. If a person has not made hard efforts, he will not gain anything after all. Because of the talent of people, it needs "diligence" to sharpen.
For a family, it also needs "hard-working" people.
For example, the elders are diligent, and the sun will not be bad there. On the contrary, if the elder is lazy and used to nibbling on the old, then his children and grandchildren, even if they are of good character, will not be much better.
A person's laziness will not only affect their own development, but also affect the happiness of the family.
Zeng Guofan told his family that all the mediocre people in the world, ancient and modern, were defeated by the word "lazy".
No matter how embarrassed this person is, as long as he knows how to be diligent, at least one day there will be a comeback. No matter how poor the family is, as long as the children and grandchildren work hard, they will eventually go uphill.
Therefore, there are lazy people in the family, which corrupts good luck. There are diligent people in the family, and good luck comes from it.
04
The family atmosphere has become more and more "cloudy", proving that problems are frequent.
There is a way that "the house of good will have a remnant, and the house of the bad will have a remnant." ”
A family that has accumulated good deeds is definitely blessed. And the evil family, even if the family is rich and powerful now, will have a ruined day.
All this, time will give a fair answer.
We need to know that thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi. Maybe they made their fortune through bad means, although they are rich and wealthy, but they do not have a good atmosphere, so how long can the blessings of this family last?
In your opinion, what is the way to really make "blessings" endless?
It is not to blindly make money, but to learn to "accumulate goodness and virtue" and cultivate a good family atmosphere. As long as the family style is correct, and the children and grandchildren are all diligent and upright people, why worry about the family not prospering?
The great families of the past and the present have all arisen because of the good family style, and they have all decayed due to the dirty family style. Everything is a natural law of history.
05
The family quarrel proves that the conflict is intensifying.
Some educators believe that the misfortune of the original family lies in the intensification of family contradictions, which destroys the already harmonious family environment.
In ancient times, why did "Meng Mu want to move three times"? Because Meng Mu knows that the impact of the family environment on the child is huge.
For the first time, Meng Mu settled her home by the tomb, and Mencius spent all day studying worship, which was inappropriate. For the second time, Meng's mother settled her home next to the market, where the quarrels were raging and noisy, and it was not suitable for the development of the child.
It can be said that whether the family "quarrels" or not has a huge impact on future generations.
A good family should be united, united and compromised with each other. Don't be deceitful and calculating with each other. In this way, it will only push the family downhill.
Really nice family, definitely a warm home that is quiet and harmonious.
If you had to choose, would you choose a quiet home or a noisy home? I believe that many people will choose the former.
Therefore, ensuring the quietness of the family is the root of prosperity.
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