Remember when you were a child, when you were praised by your parents and teachers and other adults? As you get older, you may be happy to get compliments from friends and colleagues. Even if the way you are praised or the person you are praised changes, and you are praised, you will still be happy. Unfortunately, when you grow up, you are less likely to be praised, and not being criticized by your leaders is an expectation.
I'm happy to be praised by others because other people pay attention to what I'm doing. Whether it is work or housework, when someone pays attention and inspires, whether it is false or sincere, it can always make people feel happy. When I'm praised, I'm glad there have been positive changes in my heart, such as "Let's do our best" and "I want to be able to do more and better".
I think that adults should pay attention to proportions when praising children, to avoid getting carried away, but when praising adults, we should grasp the measure, because in the eyes of others, your praise is difficult to distinguish between true and false, whether it is sarcastic, these are always difficult to say.
When praising children, especially when there are siblings, they often make comparisons unconsciously. Even if I get praise, I can't really be happy. For children and adults, past and present, it is important to praise their own growth and progress, rather than comparing them to others. For example, "Your composition is wonderful" or "You played better than ever today", not "You did a good job, you can catch up with him".
The above is the place to praise children to pay attention to, the difficulty of praising adults is "degree", the praise object may be colleagues, leaders, friends, family, they have a superior-subordinate relationship with themselves, or an equal relationship... Even adults want to be praised by others. But it's more difficult to exaggerate older people, isn't it? Avoid frivolity, but also highlight the sincerity. In this case, just say "I respect your XX place" or "I think your XX is very helpful to me". If you add words like "helpful" or "learn" every time, although you won't say which point is good for the other party, anyone who can use him as a learning example will be very happy to hear.
As an adult, you're less likely to receive too much praise or compliment. One reason may be that you listen to the other person and feel like you are flattering or mocking. But in essence, complimenting each other is fun, and I think that's the happiest thing to do. Everyone should have a positive point of view, not mutual suspicion and flattery. Let's stop thinking, let's praise them sincerely!