Language is a tool in the relationship between the sexes, and with its existence, men and women can build emotional bridges and then achieve emotional heating.
We always think about changing our fate, in fact, in the relationship between the sexes, talking well can change our fate in our feelings.
Because the words we say will affect each other's hearts and emotions to a certain extent, a good way of speaking will make the other party happy, and when the other party has a positive emotional value, it will naturally give back to our positive feelings.
However, water can carry boats, but also can overturn boats, language is not omnipotent, if we use language as a tool, we do not take a reasonable and effective way.
Then the love we manage will not show a good result, so we must learn to use language, use language reasonably, and pay attention to proportions.
In a relationship, these 3 words, smart women will never tell a man, no matter how much love.
Words about how their ex was
Men have machismo, whether in love or married, and they don't want their significant other to constantly mention their ex in front of them.
Because this will make them feel that their love has always been filled with the shadow of others, and even their own lover still has fantasies and expectations for her ex.
As a result, the ex will become a thorn stuck in their hearts, disturbing his emotions from time to time, and the feelings at this time will also begin to be estranged because of a person who has become a person who has become a thing of the past.
Therefore, when a smart woman knows that when she is with the current, her greatest respect for him is to keep a close eye on the ex's affairs, ask is not to know, ask is not to remember, ask is too long, ask is inappropriate, and then will not say more.
In this way, our love will avoid those unnecessary troubles and will go on smoothly.
Words about how much you love each other
01), when we visit the mall, we see "clearance processing, and the last one, first come, first served", when we see "exclusive resources", we will feel that we should buy them, otherwise we will be robbed by others when we go late.
In fact, we don't know whether these things are useful to us, but when we see that they are very small, we can't help but have the idea of having them, which is actually the "scarcity effect" in psychology.
The so-called scarcity effect, in fact, refers to the phenomenon of people's purchase behavior changes caused by "things are rare and expensive", both when something becomes scarce or difficult to get, people will think that this thing is more valuable and more wanted, on the contrary, when something is easy to get, people will think that this thing has no value or low value, and they will not want to get it.
02), in the relationship between the sexes, if women and men are together, always intensive and frequent messages, tell each other how much they love him, tell themselves how inseparable from him, at the beginning, men will feel very moved, but for a long time, they will only feel that women will be very cheap to take the initiative, and then the heart will flutter, think that women are too easy to get, naturally will not cherish.
As emotion expert Zuo Yan said: "When a woman becomes more and more enthusiastic about men, men become more and more indifferent to women, this is because men feel that women have no challenges for themselves, so they will be like this." ”
Therefore, smart women naturally do not fall into the inferior position of feelings, so even if they love a man in their hearts, they will still pretend to be light and breezy on the surface.
Words about a friend's negative evaluation of the other half
01) There is a law of wine and sewage in psychology, which means that if we pour a spoonful of wine into a bucket of sewage, then we will get a bucket of sewage, and if we pour a spoonful of sewage into a bucket of wine, then we will end up with a bucket of sewage.
The law of wine and sewage tells us that when a good thing enters a chaotic thing, it is very likely to be swallowed up.
When we deal with things, we must come into contact with more beautiful things and prevent microaggressions, so that we can resolutely abandon ugly things and prevent problems before they occur.
02), a person can not be liked by everyone, a thousand faces, they must not avoid being pointed out by people who do not like themselves, and love is also different people experience different appearances.
At the same time, everyone's view of love is different, the perspective of looking at the problem is different, perhaps we feel that the harmless things, others feel like a needle felt.
However, at this time, we must understand that the negative evaluation of our other half is "sewage", the love we run is wine, and if the negative evaluation of the other half by friends is truthfully told by us, then our love is bound to become unsustainable.
Therefore, at this time, pretending to be deaf and dumb, asking three questions and not knowing is the best way to solve it.