introduction
China's ancient feudal society for thousands of years, so many years of historical development, the rulers of all dynasties and generations have taken Confucianism as orthodox thinking to maintain their rule. Moreover, Confucianism has made a series of very clear provisions on the code of conduct of people, so that we can become a nation that respects the old and loves the young, and has morals and cultivation. In Confucianism, family ethical relations are very important, for example, in Han Yu's "Original Tao", it is mentioned: "His position: monarch, father and son, teacher and friend, guest and master, Kundi, husband and wife." This means that the ethical order of embodying benevolence and morality is, in order, that of the father, son, brother, brother, and husband and wife.
Confucianism promotes filial piety
However, although Confucianism has far-reaching influence, there are also many examples of fathers and sons turning against each other in history, and this kind of thing often occurs in the royal family, and it is a very common phenomenon for fathers and sons to restrain each other for power. For example, the "Zizhi Tongjian" records a very famous event in history - the change of Xuanwumen. The reason why Li Shimin launched this coup d'état, personally killed his brother, and put his father under house arrest was actually to gain power and ascend to the throne of the emperor, and his behavior undoubtedly undermined the Confucian ethical principles, but it was only because he was a son of heaven, and it was naturally difficult for future generations to evaluate him.
01
At the beginning of the last century, many people, either to serve the motherland or for their own ideals, resolutely chose to sign up for the army and become a soldier who defended their family and the country, hoping to do something for the country. There was a very famous general Hu Zongnan, who had been poor since childhood, and his living conditions were very difficult, but even so, his father Hu Jiqing still did his best to let Hu Zongnan go to school, and also invited him a very famous teacher.
Hu Zongnan
It is reasonable to say that there is a father who loves himself so much, Hu Zongnan's childhood life should be very happy, but Hu Zongnan himself does not think so, this is because Hu Jiqing is good everywhere, that is, the desire to control is too strong, and many things must be approved by his father.
When I was a child, it was fine, but as Hu Zongnan grew up, coupled with the impact of Western thought on china's traditional social thinking at that time, the gap between father and son became wider and wider
It's just that Hu Zongnan has been silently enduring, after all, in his eyes, Hu Jiqing is still his father, and even if there is a contradiction, he can only slowly reconcile.
02
But the contradiction eventually broke out, and the fuse was Hu Zongnan's marriage. After all, Hu Zongnan has received a good education since childhood, and has a different view from the older generation on marriage, Hu Jiqing believes that as a father, he naturally has to make decisions on the marriage of his children, which is also in line with the consistent ideas of the people in the ancient old society. But Hu Zongnan believes that marriage should be decided by himself, rather than blindly listening to his parents' opinions, so that the father-son relationship between the two has cracked.
Hu Zongnan ran away from home in a huff and came to live in Guangdong.
After coming to Guangdong, just in time for the enrollment of the Whampoa Military Academy at that time, and Hu Zongnan became a first-term student of this military academy, and I believe that he who had just graduated at that time could not imagine that he would have such a legendary life in the future. After graduation, Hu Zongnan participated in many battles, large and small, and he himself won a lot of military merit in the process, received high-level attention, and served
Commander of Xuzhou.
At this moment, Hu Zongnan is already famous, many people know this general, and his father Hu Jiqing is naturally no exception.
The old father went to the army to see his son and wanted to tell his old feelings, but he did not expect that when he reached the door, he would never be able to walk in for half a step. As the commander of Xuzhou, Hu Zongnan is naturally not something that anyone wants to see, and the guards at the door are also very responsible, and they are not allowed to enter without relevant documents, so Hu Jiqing was stopped outside the door.
Hu Jiqing was annoyed at this time, who saw that his son still needed documents, and angrily asked the guards to call the commander and say that his father had come. However, after the guards went in to report, the military commander said that he did not know the old man, and Hu Jiqing had no choice but to leave.
03
Hu Zongnan also knew very well in his heart that it was his father who came from outside, but for many reasons, he could not choose to rush to let his father in.
First of all, the two naturally still have some contradictions, after all, after Hu Zongnan ran away from home, Hu Jiqing has always ignored his son, and after he developed, his father rushed to defect from afar, and it was inevitable that Hu Zongnan would have some dissatisfaction in his heart.
Secondly, the special background of the times at that time, the country was in turmoil, many people were displaced because of this war, if they accepted their father in this way, it would be equivalent to telling the whole world that they were privileged during the War of Resistance, regardless of the safety of the people and chose to sing with their families night and night.
Therefore, Hu Zongnan did not dare to take him in, for fear of being caught by others.
epilogue
Therefore, the two have never been able to recognize each other, but Hu Zongnan sent someone to send a large amount of money to his father later, which can also be regarded as repaying his father's nurturing grace, but the gap between the two has never been solved, perhaps this is a big regret.
When we have conflicts with others, we must resolve this gap in time, otherwise once the contradiction intensifies, the two will have to go to the end of a strange road.
bibliography:
"The Original Way"
Zizhi Tongjian