Wen/Ge Lord
Original Emotional Beauty Series
I don't know when we all became "utilitarian" and always felt that to do something, we must have a result to prove that things are meaningful, of course, feelings are also included.
For example, if you like it, you have to be together, if you love you get married, if you miss it, you will connect... But it ignores the highest state of loving a person, not possessing but fulfilling.
True likes, always lack a little courage, not warm and frank, but everywhere gentle and delicate.
Don't dare to take too much initiative, for fear of being seen through by the other party, and even comfort yourself in your heart: "It is also good to maintain a friend's relationship."
Because in the feelings, there is a kind of miss, called dare not contact. For most people, "not disturbing" is the best state to get along with.
Generally speaking, a person who thinks of you but does not take the initiative to contact you, do you know his mind?
First, I am afraid of disturbing you
Some people say that love has a shallow meaning, like is shallow love, love is a deep like.
But maybe you don't know that missing someone actually has a degree.
When a person misses to the extreme, they will not take the initiative to contact, but will restrain their emotions and choose to digest them alone.
It is no wonder that there are always people who say that the first sign of true love is timidity. The more I miss it, the more I am afraid of losing, I am afraid of missing out, and I am more afraid of causing a bad impact on the other party, and I dare not take the initiative to contact.
Therefore, when a person thinks of you, but does not take the initiative to contact you, he may be afraid of disturbing you, afraid that he will become a burden to you, so he has to silently guard your side and appear on time when you need it most.
If you ask him, he will still "bow down" and just hide this thought in his heart, not like others.
Second, I am afraid that I will not be cherished if I take the initiative too much
In the eyes of many people, if you like a person, you should catch up, ask for warmth, succeed in the best of both worlds, and have no regrets when you fail.
But in the relationship, not everyone can do "free", once the real wrong payment, it may take a lifetime to forget.
The more I like it, the more I think the other party is perfect enough, but I don't want to make myself too humble, after all, it is not uncommon for a hot face to stick a cold ass.
So I had to secretly like it, during this period, I may be tempted, but I will not take the initiative, on the one hand, I am afraid of being rejected, on the other hand, I am afraid that I am too enthusiastic to get the attention of the other party.
Like but don't dare to get close. Not cowardice, just fear of disappointment. Because love in the true sense of the word, there are always some concerns.
So, when a person misses you but is afraid to contact you, he may just be afraid of disappointment.
Third, waiting for you to take the initiative to contact him
Love in both directions is meaningful, and a person will feel tired after paying for a long time.
In a relationship, investing enthusiasm but not getting feedback, will be in trouble, as if there is no hope in sight, and at this time, many people will choose to stop losses in time.
In a relationship, we often think that once a person changes the normal, he is not so loving. But I don't know, a person who was enthusiastic in the past suddenly became indifferent, may not be to move his heart and not to fall in love, but to feel that this relationship needs to be reconsidered.
So, when a man thinks of you but no longer contacts you, he may be waiting for you to take the initiative to contact him.
If you're interested in him too, try to take the initiative and don't let someone who loves you wait too long.
Missing each other is a gift from Heaven, but in reality, thoughts are always one-way, and one-way thoughts are bitter, if a person misses you, but does not take the initiative to contact you, he may be suffering. Usually, a person who thinks of you but no longer contacts you is nothing more than these three reasons.
Too much care, fear of being rejected, will be sad; too deep love, afraid of being hurt, will be sad; too active, afraid of disappointment, will die. Invest too much and want a little rebate, waiting for you to contact him.
If you also have feelings for him, you may wish to take the initiative, after all, it is not easy to have someone who loves you, and you should cherish it when you meet it.