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Exactly what kind of person is a real rich person, this definition seems to have its own standards. Most people, especially those who are temporarily unable to afford college students, often compare their living conditions with those of their peers.
Whenever someone buys something they think is more luxurious, they take it for granted that the other person is a legendary rich man.
But in fact, this kind of thinking is very one-sided and arbitrary, and even sometimes it will harm themselves. In the past period of time, we often saw news of college students participating in online loans or naked loans on the Internet.
They squandered the borrowed money freely through loans, not realizing that they were unable to repay the debt.
There are even some people who engage in illegal activities and become unscrupulous micro-merchants, selling products that are not guaranteed at all, in order to get what they want.
These people look bright on the surface, but behind the scenes, they are already dirty, and their lives are not worth our yearning for.
So how exactly do you tell if a person is really rich? A simple analysis can be made from the following three aspects.
First, the aura is strong
A person's temperament is emitted from the inside out, and this temperament cannot be easily imitated, and is often related to his personal experience, cultivation, and ideological realm. Therefore, if you want to judge whether a person is really rich, you can only know a little bit from his words and deeds.
The real rich people talk well, they may not necessarily be passionate when they speak, but they have a clearer line of thinking, and they often give people a good feeling of getting along, and their emotional intelligence is relatively high, and they will not easily say embarrassing words.
When interacting with other people, they are always able to observe the color in time and handle interpersonal relationships in a very harmonious and smooth manner.
Mr. Lu Xun once said that the real successful people also dress up as pigs and eat tigers, which is what we often call great wisdom and foolishness. They look ordinary on the surface, but behind them hide a deep strength.
These people will never easily show off their wealth, and they will not even easily expose their ingenuity.
At the same time, these excellent and successful people also have higher requirements for their quality of life, they are always able to maintain a self-disciplined life for a long time, whether it is diet or life entertainment, they can always maintain a high quality.
Second, the concept of time is strong
A professor named Zimbardo conducted a series of surveys and found that everyone has different time orientations, which can be divided into past, present and future.
These orientations constitute a person's concept of time, which can also affect his perspective on work life and career, and even affect some of the decisions he makes in life.
But most people with rich material lives have a clearer concept of time in their way of thinking, and they are willing to prepare in advance for various problems that may be encountered in the future, that is to say, they have a longer-term vision.
But at the same time, they are often extremely anxious, because this concept of time is always a constant reminder of the need to plan for what may happen in the future.
Third, there is very little camouflage
Chen Daoming once said that having a culture and having a culture are still two things.
Although some people are very cultured, they often do things that have no quality, while some people, although they do not have much knowledge, can do everything very measuredly. And a person's upbringing is often hidden in the details of his life.
The easiest way to really see a person is to look at his attitude toward strangers. Because strangers have little to do with our interests, ordinary people do not deliberately hide their true thoughts in front of strangers.
At least they will not easily disguise themselves and raise their moral character by a notch.
Why do more and more people like to pretend to be rich now? Perhaps this has something to do with the economic situation of modern young people.
"Finance and Economics National Weekly" once did a data survey study showing that the debt ratio of the post-90s and post-00s was as high as 1850%. Among the users who have loans today, nearly 30% of them are post-90s and post-00s.
In addition to the commonly used loan consumption methods such as credit cards, Huabei and white bars, half of the young people have even begun to contact online loans.
While these figures are surprising, this is indeed the norm for young people today, who owe even more money than they have.
Most young people are often vanity-minded, wanting to package themselves as a high-end person with a high-end life, pursuing only a higher level of material enjoyment. They are affected by bad consumption concepts such as early consumption, and their material life has long been overwhelmed.
In fact, we should realize that goods of different prices have their own value and significance, and we should also choose suitable commodities within the scope of our own economic ability when consuming.
A short period of indulgence only gives us a moment of happiness, but what remains is a long period of chagrin and regret.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205