Wen | Thirteenth Sister
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At the end of each semester, when the final exams are approaching, there is a wave of metaphysics around me.
Usually, no matter whether people have the habit of praying to God and worshiping Buddha, they will become theists at this time.
Last week I saw a message from a friend: for the baby's final exam, she has made an appointment to go to the temple to ask for a blessing card.
I would have said, "A final exam wouldn't be enough..."
Now that I'm older and more sensible, I only have one thought in my heart: "The next time there is such a meaningful activity, you must take me with you!" ”
Then I saw another friend's story: she was tortured by her daughter's math to the point of collapse two weeks ago, the child was good in other subjects, he was very unenlightened in mathematics, the exams were often at the bottom, which really made people crazy, the mother was abused to the point that his blood pressure was high, and he was replaced by a child whose father went to counseling, and as a result, the child's father had a nosebleed...
When the two were ready to give up, after being instructed by another parent who was also a mathematical scum, she made a decisive move:
Sometimes, at this juncture, it is really not the time to talk about science.
If you talk to the baby about science, the baby may let you enter the medicine;
You talk to your husband about science, and he will take you close to philosophy...
Therefore, when most of the mothers choose to go into the metaphysics first, conditionally hold a Buddha bead, download a screensaver without conditions, the form is different, but at least they can get some spiritual warmth.
This class of parents has been working hard for their children's studies all year round, but if they always have the equivalent return, there will not be so many angry and corrupt middle-aged people in the world.
So, learning this thing will feel more and more like metaphysics, especially on the eve of every exam, you can never know what kind of blow a child can give you after you have exhausted all your strength.
Sometimes, to let go of a child is to let go of yourself. Once you let it go, the heart is peace, the family is full of love, and everything is not so terrible.
Isn't life like this, you have to find a way to prolong your life.
Recently, I heard that with the continuous promotion of this class of parents, the corresponding metaphysics has also developed a refined branch. This shows that even God has been touched and has taken the parents' affairs to heart.
To give you a visit to this subdivision of the bodhisattva team:
Liberal arts bodhisattvas, science bodhisattvas, and examination hall bodhisattvas.
Widely and domestically and foreignly, taking into account the literary and rational, grasping the big and not letting go of the small, but also not partial to the discipline, fully demonstrating the bodhisattva's understanding of the people's feelings and the compassion of the anxious people.
Take the English bodhisattva as an example, the shape is comfortable, the details are prominent, and the combination with the times is very in place, the one held in the hand, from the outside, is suspected to be the Oxford English-Chinese Dictionary, which means that everyone is encouraged to memorize this dictionary, and the English score is not far behind.
English bodhisattvas seem to be the product of metaphysics, but in fact, they are still implying that students memorize English words and grammar, read more books, recite more, listen, speak, read and write, and your English score is poor?
The power of God and Buddha is to point out sentient beings, to point out the confusion, and everyone tells you that the shortcut of reading and endorsing books is not clear.
It's like a basketball held up in the hands of a sports bodhisattva, that is, to instruct you to exercise more. The more you exercise, the better your athletic performance will naturally be.
There is also the pad in the hands of the computer bodhisattva, which implies that everyone is diligent in research, uses more brains, and pioneers and innovates in order to become a cattle person in the field of computers.
And the comprehensive bodhisattva of science has a book in his hand, which is to imply to you: mathematics, physics and chemistry are not divided into families, and the synthesis is a synthesis, and the foundation is mathematics. A thick book in hand, if it is not a five-year college entrance examination three-year simulation, it must be a collection of 2017-2021 models. This is to point out to you: brush questions, brush questions, brush questions!
See? You have lost to science and can only turn to metaphysics, and the bodhisattvas have subdivided the subjects in order to try very hard to show you a very scientific path.
But some parents are only willing to believe in metaphysics, which cannot be blamed on them, because most of the scum and helplessness cannot be explained by science.
For example, once a friend's child successfully landed on the college entrance examination, she ran to say thank me, I asked: "Thank you for what?" ”
She said, "It was because of the light of your thoughts that we got our wish!" ”
I remembered that before the college entrance examination, I gave her son two pens, and at that time I joked that "this is a pen full of the light of the mind, put it on the desk, you can do what you want..."
I didn't expect her to really offer... I didn't expect it to be...
I said, "That proves that your baby really has strength!" ”
"What strength, I think it is your immortal qi that plays a role..."
This is a very mysterious paradox. Most mothers believe their children are excellent, but most feel that their children need luck more.
Rather than believing in "fortuitous strength", old mothers would rather believe in "the metaphysics of good luck"...
Sometimes metaphysical theories make them more settled than scientific inferences...
There is also a mother, more sincere.
She asked me to go to the resume template that my son xiaosheng made at the beginning of the year, and also asked in detail about the font size, color, line spacing used to fill in the resume... Imitate as well. I also told her: "When I was doing my resume, the background music was Mozart's Symphony No. 40 in G minor, 550. ”
She also did so, and then Xiaosheng ended successfully at the beginning, originally bent on letting The Baby enter a private junior high school, and finally unconsciously entered a very good school.
Even she herself thinks it is very mysterious, some things can not be explained scientifically, but middle-aged mothers can explain-
Not all by my thoughts and convictions, and by Mozart's spiritual endorsement of not being alarmed when it touches the soul, how can ordinary people know the mystery of this?
At this time, if you use the scientific method to analyze the secret of your child's success, the exhausted mothers will only laugh and pass: we have seen too many endings that do not conform to the laws of science, hum, what scientific analysis are you talking to me about now? You're my little kid!
There are indeed many things on the road to parenting, and in addition to using metaphysics, how can it be explained.
The child made the adult sick – I probably owed him in my last life.
A child who is good at anything is not good at learning - he may not have the life to learn.
Tomorrow tomorrow, after studying with his children, he still hasn't grown up - probably I forgot to pay homage to him this year.
Some people, after exhausting the scientific method, may end up only exchanging a piece of Dan Heart to open to the Buddha--forget it, forget it.
Learning this kind of thing, in most people's eyes, is a routine to follow, but after practicing, you will understand that many things cannot be explained.
Some children look very smart and look like a cow baby, but in the end they may drive their parents crazy; some children seem to be grinding and rubbing without any bright spots, but in the end, they will always be unexpected.
You use the scientific method to explain, maybe when you yourself are the head of the Tao analysis for three days and three nights, in the end you can only write the summary as: "This is probably fate!" "
A friend of mine in Nanjing said that her son was an average score child from the first grade to the third grade, unremarkable, not attracting attention, starting from the fourth grade, I don't know what the situation is, suddenly jumped to the top ten of the grade, and he was noisy to do extracurricular problems, and he was depressed when he did not go to the tutoring class on the weekend...
The only reason that could be established was that their family adopted a cat last year and named it "Kaijiao"...
The cat has also become an unbearable light in this year's parental metaphysical stream of consciousness.
After all, a woman with a baby, everything is better to believe that it is not credible, our thoughts, our immortal qi, always need to be released at a certain moment, so as not to force ourselves to the heights of despair.
We are not unbelieving in science, nor are we superstitious in metaphysics, we only believe that only we can save ourselves...
Since I spent thousands of dollars on CBT courses, I've noticed that my son's grades have improved by leaps and bounds.
I asked my husband what was going on, and he couldn't tell. I asked the teacher what was going on, and the teacher couldn't tell.
Later, I could only give this explanation: because I sincerely sought change, integrity touched the heavens, and the idea played a role, not the group of psychology masters who hypnotized me in the air, but they remotely ignited the son...
A friend said the other day:
A middle-aged man can have no money and no ideals, but he must not be without ideas.
Life always has all kinds of dross, can not be removed, the garbage in the heart can not be swept clean, how to turn those chicken feathers that can not even be explained by science into fresh morning dew, nourish our cracked souls, is it up to scientists?
It's not up to you.
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