What is the meaning of life?
Li Xueqin should be no stranger to everyone, a high-achieving student at Peking University, a talk show actor, often write funny paragraphs, quickly become famous through talk show speeches, and is a very grounded actor I like very much.
Today on the Internet, I turned to her speech on CCTV - "I hope you grow up, not grow up to be an adult".
She says growing up is a journey without a map, you can see the starting point under your feet and know where the destination to reach is, but where the route to the destination is, no one knows.
Know the beginning, know the end, and the process is the process of growing up.
When I introduced myself at work, I was reluctant to tell others about my attributes, and even for a long time I avoided being asked about my age.
Not telling others my true age is not because I am afraid that others will laugh at me, but because I am afraid that I am just getting old and not realizing the meaning of life.
When I went through these years of getting married, having kids, finding a job, quitting my job, and being a freelancer, I understood that growing up is not just your experience, or your age, but real growth.
Growing up is reconciling with one's own past
I have a cousin, ten years ago, talked about a boyfriend out of town, when in love, felt that getting rid of the parents' block is the nobility of free love, and finally married to Kunming, thousands of miles away from home.
Girls who marry far away should all know how it feels to be far away from home after marriage, and cousins are no exception. During this period, I did not dare to tell my parents how much grievance I suffered, and I felt that I had been like this in my life.
With the development of new e-commerce, my cousin actually started to carry goods, the income is getting higher and higher, and later bought a house in our hometown so that she can often come back to visit her parents.
She said that it is because she has forgiven her past self and forgiven her former youthful vigor that she will get back up to face all kinds of unsatisfactory life, holding on to it, and can only let her relatives be sad.
Growing up starts with learning to accommodate others
When I was a child, I was always used to bullying my sister.
I think I'm older than her, I should eat a big apple, I have to use a comb when I comb my hair, she just hit me, I will definitely return it, because I am older than her.
But now, I don't think so.
My parents are just our two children, a little more and a little less, what does it matter! When our parents are old, they need the care of the two of us, and they have more money and more strength.
How many brothers and sisters, because of the problem of parental support, the issue of fighting for inheritance and making trouble, and finally hurting the heart of the elderly, what is the point!
There is an old Chinese saying: To suffer a loss is to be blessed!
Learning to accommodate others, giving up unnecessary benefits, and taking some losses can actually get more meaning.
Growing up starts with accepting your imperfections
Li Xueqin said: "When you accept your own imperfections, you can also accept the imperfections of the world; when you forgive yourself, you can most likely forgive others." ”
When people have failed, looking at your current self, are you ashamed that you have established a family, but still achieve nothing.
Take headline writing, once I was also a leader in the workplace, then now others have made a lot of money on the road of self-media, and I have just begun to write, do I have to write because I am inferior to others?
The amount of display of the article is not high, indicating that my account operation is not good, then I need to learn the operation methods of others; the amount of reading is not high, indicating that the article I wrote is not attractive enough, then I will polish my writing skills.
It is precisely because I understand my own shortcomings and accept my own shortcomings that I can calmly update the article every day.
In the future writing career, some people will agree and some people will oppose, accept the different views of others, in order to go further in the headlines.
Write at the end
The meaning of growth is not to stick to your unchanging thoughts as time passes day by day, but to reorganize your own views at every stage, re-examine the people and things around you, and re-examine your past self.
Go to Chen Huanxin, each road chosen is not right or wrong, and each road will also have a different scenery.
To reconcile with your past self, to learn to accommodate others, and to accept your own imperfections at the same time is to grow up!!
I am @ childlike leaf, every day to share their own experience with you, may we grow together, on the road of writing farther and farther!