Interesting to see the son's "self-interest" lies, smoothly build a bridge of parent-child communication

Today I suddenly received a hug from my son accompanied by a sentence: "Mom, I'm sorry." "Let's see what's going on?"

At night, on my way from the room to the living room to get a book, I caught a glimpse of a busy little figure at the dining table, creeping closer to see the little guy holding a tissue and wiping Yakult on the table.

The first thing the little guy said when he saw me was, "When I came, this Yakult was sprinkled on the table, and I helped wipe it." ”

The family was just me and him, where the third guy sprinkled Yakult. I silently did not speak, and my mind was quickly thinking about how to respond to this "lying" scene I encountered for the first time in my life, when a picture book "I dare not say, I am afraid of being scolded" flashed in my mind. Follow the second precept of the Parents' Guide: Be silent when you don't know what to say.

After taking a bath, the picture book time and Xiao Bao read "I dare not say, I am afraid of being scolded", after various interactive questions, Xiao Bao suddenly hugged me and said: "I'm sorry, Mom, today's Yakult is sprinkled by me." ”

What did I do to make my children take the initiative to explain the real situation after reading the picture book "I Dare not say, I am afraid of being scolded"?

I did three things

First thing: emotional output

In the process of reading the picture book together, I constantly expressed the various emotions of little Moira, and she hid the broken socks because she was worried that her mother would say that she was. She threw the uneaten pears in the trash because she was worried that her father would say that she did not eat fruit and so on

Second thing: consequence output

Later on, Moira's parents gently and thoughtfully told Moira: "Honey, you know, no matter what happens, you can tell us, sometimes, we will be a little angry or sad, but we will always love you the most!" When I hugged my son, I said to him, "Mom, I will always love you the most!" ”

Third thing: played a game

Game Name: Swap Little Secrets

Rule: Everyone shares a little secret, and after sharing, the listener hugs the other and says, "I love you!" ”

Game progression: I first shared the fact that when I was a child, I lost my mother's pen and did not dare to tell my mother.

Finally, the little guy shared with me that the Yakult at night was sprinkled by himself!

I am very fortunate that at this stage of my son's "lying" behavior, I know that "I dare not say, I am afraid of being scolded" this picture book, it helped me solve the problem of how to say, and at the same time successfully helped me build a bridge of parent-child communication.

Three- and four-year-old children, when saying these "self-serving" but not "harmful" lies, we need to see the child's grievances and fear and other emotions, and then use love and tolerance to let the child know the little secret and tell the parents that it will feel better!

Giving children a sense of security with love is the best way to repel such "lies", and it is also a bridge for parent-child communication

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