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When a person makes a mistake, does his family have to be punished with him?
Seeing this question, I first thought of the ancient punishments of "sitting together" and "nine tribes". This was mainly formulated by the monarch in the feudal period to strengthen the centralization of power, and in today's society, we are more concerned about democracy, so there will be no such cruel system.
But even if there is no legal punishment, then the criminal's family will not be punished else?
Today I would like to recommend to you a film and television adaptation of Keigo Higashino's novel, "Letter". Mr. Keigo Higashino's works have always been based on suspenseful reasoning, and occasionally there are some that are not reasoning, but mainly explore human nature, which is very good, and everyone can come to see it when you have time.
The story is mainly about a pair of brothers who depend on each other for their lives, but the older brother robs and kills in order to make up for his brother's college expenses. After this happened, my brother began to receive all kinds of discrimination, special treatment and so on.
A few years passed, during which time the brother and the brother had been exchanging letters, but when the parents of the girl the younger brother liked also broke up because of this matter, the younger brother decided to cut off contact with the brother. However, the younger brother's girlfriend continued to secretly write letters to the younger brother in place of the younger brother.
After the younger brother found out, he and his girlfriend finally decided to be a decent person, they got married, they had their own daughter, but later the wife and daughter were also discriminated against. The younger brother was confused and did not know what to do.
Once, by chance, the wife and daughter were robbed by the flying car and then injured, especially the daughter's face may be scarred later! The parents of the biker thief come to apologize, and the younger brother realizes that he is not as brave as them, because at first the brother asked the younger brother to incense the deceased in his place, and the younger brother has been timid and has not gone. At the same time, the younger brother knew that the parents of the bikers were not wrong, but he could not forgive them. Therefore, I understand the psychology of the victim's family.
Finally, the younger brother bravely went to the home of the deceased who was killed by his brother to apologize, only to learn that the brother had also been writing letters to the relatives of the deceased to apologize, and insisted on it for 13 years.
Before, I couldn't understand why we outsiders wanted to discriminate against the families of criminal families. I feel that everyone is an independent individual and cannot be blamed on others because of one person's mistakes. Even if we can't love each other, we should at least not hurt each other, and maintain the most basic goodness. So, at first I was a little angry, why should I discriminate against this younger brother? He had been trying to live, why should he be treated like this.
But put yourself in the shoes of someone who thinks that if my loved one is hurt by someone else, whether intentionally or unintentionally, I will not forgive that person and his family, because the damage has already been done, and it is difficult to repair. However, because I am not a victim, I can easily forgive.
In today's rapidly developing society, when we know that a person has committed a crime, will we still get along with his family normally? Wouldn't it be seen with colored eyes? Although we intellectually know that it is not them who are at fault, we will still unconsciously discriminate. Perhaps, as the president said, discrimination is human nature.
This reminds me of a popular Taiwanese drama "The Distance Between Us and Evil", which also tells the life of a juvenile offender's family after his family. His parents desperately want to apologize and make amends, and the Internet can be full of cursing remarks against them, forcing his parents to live in anonymity and live under masks all day.
Although the ending of the play is very satisfactory, although the victim's family still has not forgiven them, they can sit down calmly and tell their pain, and the parents can do their best to make up for their son's fault.
Why do we discriminate against the perpetrator's family? Psychologically speaking, this is a self-preservation instinct that prompts us to naturally distance ourselves from this group of people, and although they have not made mistakes, we instinctively classify them as a kind of person.
As the perpetrator's family, they will no longer bear the punishment of sitting together as in ancient times, but they will still bear moral pressure. This kind of pain is actually no less than physical punishment. Jail time limits and sentences end one day, but the mental pressure of discrimination is unlimited!
The biggest difference between humans and animals is that people are social animals, and in today's society, everyone will have a complex and huge network of relationships. So we are not completely independent of others, our every move is representative of the family, the school, the company and even the country. Therefore, each of our actions should not only think about ourselves, but also think more about our family and friends.
Also, my brother has been writing letters to the family of the deceased, which looks very touching, but in fact, he just wants to seek his own relief, thinking that this can be saved, but no, maybe sometimes doing so is harmful to the family of the deceased, reminding them that their families have been killed.
It's not that there's no need to apologize, or that there's no need for care. I think what we can do is encourage and help, to help the victims get out of their pain and move on with their lives.
Finally, I would like to say that you are not alone in survival, so for the sake of those around you, please live well.
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