Zhang Ailing once said this:
"Men after middle age often feel lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there are no people he can rely on."
In fact, not only men, but also women. Middle-aged people, the hardest, the most confused, the most afraid of poverty, disease and aging.
However, the life of middle-aged people is basically a collapse while self-healing.
At this stage, the fight is the mentality. A good mentality, everything is sunshine; a poor mentality, everything is wandering.
When people reach middle age, the best mentality and way to live is "three not afraid".
01
After middle age, I am not afraid of age.
At what point did you suddenly panic about your age?
Did you inadvertently see that the wrinkles in the corners of your eyes were a little deeper, or did you suddenly find that your sideburns had added white hair?
In the face of age, especially the threshold of thirty, forty, fifty years old, we will always panic inexplicably.
Even if thirty and twenty-nine, forty and thirty-nine, are only one year apart, it seems to be a reincarnation.
And when we watch time pass, but we are helpless and unstoppable, we are even more overwhelmed.
Dong Qing also said in "Hello Life" that he is particularly sensitive to time at this age, and frankly said that he is afraid of getting old.
However, aging is an irresistible thing for all people, and the process of life is nothing more than the process of constantly getting old.
In the vicissitudes of time, there is no immortal life, only an ageless mentality.
No matter what age you are, as long as you love what you love, do what you really want to do, and live a delicate and interesting life, that is the best age.
When people reach middle age, they are not afraid of the vicissitudes of the years, and they do not need to be sentimental.
Aging is the law of nature, old age has the beauty of aging, hard work to maintain anti-aging, active exercise and fitness, you must be very cute when you are old.
02
After middle age, I am not afraid of loneliness.
Some people say that the more you grow up, the lonelier you are, and the lonelier you are, the more uneasy you are.
Indeed, the older you get, the more you feel that people's lives are often lonely.
For some people, loneliness is the norm, eating alone, watching TV alone, falling asleep alone... However, there is nothing wrong with being lonely, and what makes it bad is the fear of loneliness.
When people reach middle age, they don't like noise, but they are more afraid of loneliness.
After entering middle age, the body goes downhill and begins to feel powerless. It is said that raising children to prevent old age, but in the end, children become a family, often very busy, and there are few days to accompany themselves.
The neighbor has a grandfather, 80 years old, strong body, but his wife is weak and sickly.
He often went to the hospital alone with his wife, registered, checked, and went through the hospitalization procedures, and never complained.
Half a year ago, however, his wife, who had lived with him for 57 years, died. Since the children have their own lives, in order not to cause them trouble, the grandfather chose to live alone.
But without the company of his wife, the old man who has always been enlightened and reasonable can't think of anything, and often chokes up when he mentions it.
Indeed, loneliness is sometimes more frightening than old age.
But the cruel thing is that people are born lonely, and the essence of life is loneliness. In this world, there are many people who are lonelier than you.
I like a saying: "Don't be afraid of loneliness, because there is a person in this world who is trying to get to you, and his arrival will make all the loss and loneliness disappear." ”
People live a lifetime, there will be many lonely moments.
However, the journey of life is originally a road of no return, from the red stripe to the world crying, and crying empty-handed to leave the world, in the middle is the stage of personal performance, why fear a person?
Loneliness is also a life experience, lonely and happy, but a taste in life.
03
After middle age, I am not afraid of losing.
The older you get, the more you fear losing, and that's a pain that goes deep into your bone marrow.
I believe that most people, like me, are always afraid of not getting the material life they crave, of losing the self-righteous vanity that we are proud of...
But in the end, I found that I live in fear every day, and the more I am afraid, the more I am easy to lose.
Some people say that there will always be regrets in life, don't be afraid of losing, because those who are afraid of losing are often easier to lose.
Deeply.
As we get older, we long to stay where we are, afraid of losing what once belonged to us.
But one day, you will understand that when you are no longer afraid of losing, it is when you are truly mature.
In this life, there are gains and losses, and there are losses to gain.
If you lose your old love, you will reap new joy; without the love of your parents, you will gain independence;
Lose money, you will reap the struggle; without today's sunshine, you will usher in tonight's moonlight...
You have to learn to face it calmly, because what you lose will be returned in another way.