Near the end of the Year, people who have worked hard all year are looking forward to going home to reunite with their families and spend the Spring Festival with Meimei
But for some unmarried young people of the right age, the New Year is equivalent to urging marriage.
When I think of my parents' nagging and the discussion of the seven aunts and eight aunts, I feel that this year is just enough!
In fact, not only ordinary people have to face marriage urging, but also the children of celebrities.
Cai Ming's son Ding Ding, who has never been married since the age of 36, was once her pride in his son, but now he has become her heart disease.
Just because the relationship between mother and son reached the freezing point of "urging marriage", it almost urged depression!
Cai Ming and her husband Ding Qiuxing met at a networking event.
At the end of 1983, various groups in the Beijing literary and art circles held a friendship, when Cai Ming worked in the Beijing Film Studio, and Ding Qiuxing was the director of the China Broadcasting Arts Troupe.
Cai became less famous next year, filming "Haixia" at the age of 12, and entering the troupe at the age of 15, Ding Qiuxing had already heard about her.
In the crowd at the scene, Ding Qiuxing and Cai Ming looked at each other from afar, Ding Qiuxing was moved, he was eager to know Cai Ming, but he did not find a piece of paper after rummaging through his pockets.
Ding Qiuxing was in a hurry, but he still only found a pack of plaster, and in desperation, he could only write his name and phone number on the back of the plaster, and then squeeze to Cai Ming's side.
Ding Qiuxing put this plaster with his name and phone number on it on Cai Ming's clothes, and as a result, within a few days, Cai Ming really called him, and the two met.
At that time, Cai Ming was busy filming and did not have any good feelings for Ding Qiuxing
On the contrary, Ding Qiuxing's love for her became more and more intense, and he asked his colleagues in the crew about Cai Ming's address in the crew and began to write love letters to her every day.
Cai Ming, who worked the set, was a little surprised after receiving Ding Qiuxing's love letter, and was slowly moved by his affection.
After the scene was filmed, Cai Ming received a total of one hundred love letters, and her heart was gradually moved, and the two people came together.
After two years in love, Cai Ming and Ding Qiuxing held a wedding and officially married in August 1985.
That year, Cai Ming was 24 years old, and like all more traditional women, she was ready to have a child not long after marriage.
At that time, Cai Ming's acting career had just started, but in her cognition, getting married and having children was a big deal.
In July 1986, Cai Ming gave birth to a son for Ding Qiuxing, and thought about repeatedly naming the child Tintin.
Although the name is simple, there are also good wishes from parents, hoping that children can live a simple and happy life.
After the birth of the child, Cai Ming began to work hard in the show business circle again, successively filming dramas such as "Trick-or-Treat Troops" and "Love Corner", and also cooperated with Zhu Shimao and Chen Peisi in the first sketch "Planit's Long Hair".
Cai Ming was too busy acting to move his feet, and the affairs of the family were handed over to her husband Ding Qiuxing.
However, for the education of children, Cai Ming did not put down for a moment, Cai Ming himself was from an intellectual family, his father was a university professor, and his mother was the chief physician.
The family education he received since he was a child has given Cai Ming high expectations for his son and has a heart of "hoping to become a dragon".
Cai Ming asked her husband: "We must strictly discipline our sons and let them study well!" "No matter how busy I am at work, I will call from time to time to ask about my son's performance and achievements.
When Ding Ding was just 15 years old, Cai Ming decided to send him abroad to study, and she told her husband: "Let my son broaden his horizons and practice well."
And her son Tintin did not live up to her expectations, and his performance abroad has always been very good, and his academic performance is among the best.
Whenever colleagues talk about their children, Cai Ming will proudly say: "My son's results abroad are good, and their mentors praise him every day!" "There is unstoppable pride in the words.
In June 2009, Ding Ding returned from school and returned to China under the advice of his parents, Cai Ming and her husband Ding Qiuxing waited early at the airport to prepare to meet their son.
When he saw his son appear, Cai Ming's tears could not be stopped, when he sent his son abroad, he was just a small teenager, and now he is a 23-year-old little man.
Cai Ming deeply feels that time is fleeting, and after receiving his son, he will personally cook and make a delicious meal for the child.
However, 8 years of living abroad have changed Tintin a lot, and he has long liked Western-style meals
For the food prepared by his mother, he was not accustomed to eating, and Cai Ming had to prepare some Western food again.
Turning around, Cai Ming worried about his son's work again, according to the current network ability of the couple, it was enough to arrange a good job for his son.
But Tintin was unwilling, and after all these years of living abroad, he had long been accustomed to relying on himself
Tintin felt: "Relying on the fame of his parents to bring benefits to his work is also too boring!" ”
So he used his own efforts to find a job in a multinational company
Influenced by Western-style education, Tintin opened and left as soon as he arrived at the end of the work, automatically ignoring the surprised glances cast by his overtime colleagues around him.
In the company, Tintin called the leaders and direct superiors by their first names, and did not perceive the face of the other party.
Colleagues all think that Tintin is an "alternative", so they respect him, and after more than three months of employment, The relationship between Tintin and colleagues has always been very cold.
The simple Tintin did not understand what he had done wrong, it was painful to go to work every day, and in desperation, he chose to jump to a financial unit.
After joining the company, Tintin spent a lot of effort to make a good relationship with his colleagues and took the initiative to participate in the gathering of colleagues
When the leader learned that Tintin's mother was Cai Ming, he began to hint at him: "If you use your brain more, the performance will definitely go up."
Seeing that Tintin did not understand, he said straight to the point: "Let your parents help, what kind of list can not be signed?" ”
Hearing the leader say this, Tintin felt powerless, and he knew that this company was destined not to be his destiny.
The setback in his son's career Cai Ming saw in his eyes, in order to help his son adapt to the domestic environment out of the haze
Cai Ming found his former classmates and called out to his colleague's son to open a "family salon" together.
Under the influence of his parents, Tintin gradually figured it out and began to explore a new path---- film and television.
So he changed his career to become a screenwriter, and in 2012, he participated in the screenwriting team of "Tai 囧", providing a lot of funny lines for this work.
This work has made Tintin have a certain reputation, and his career has entered a period of development, and Cai Ming is also deeply proud.
Seeing that his son's career had a direction, Cai Ming began to worry about his marriage
She said to her husband Ding Qiuxing: "Our son is already 23 years old when he returns to China, and in the blink of an eye, he is 26 years old, and it is time to find a partner!" ”
So when his son Tintin returned home, Cai Ming began to mention to him about finding a partner.
At first Tintin just said, "I'm only 26 years old, what are you anxious about?" I haven't made a job yet, so I'm looking for an object! ”
But Cai Ming was not willing to start talking about his life every day: "My colleague's children are married, some of them are younger than you, when are you going to drag it out?" ”
Tintin looked at his mother and replied, "Can you get married if you want to get married?" I can't find the right person to get married!" ”
Hearing his son say this, Cai Ming knew that it was useless to do it, and he had to act, so he directly arranged a blind date for Tintin, and did not expect to be strongly opposed by Tintin.
Under the education of Western-style thought, Tintin felt: "I want to love freely, I don't need this arrangement from you!" ”
Cai will become less famous next year and enjoy countless flowers and applause in front of the screen
At home, there is also the love of her husband, and now that her son dares to rebel against himself like this, Cai Ming is angry.
When Cai Ming and his old partner Pan Changjiang met, they couldn't stop complaining: "My son! It will make me worry! ”
Seeing that Pan Changjiang's daughter had already married and had children, and he had been promoted to grandfather, Cai Ming was very envious: "If only I had such a blessing as you!" ”
Cai Ming also mentioned her son in an interview, and she used it: "It is not that the wrongdoers do not gather, it is that the wrongdoers should not be dissolved and not tied".
In Cai Ming's cognition, children should start a family when they reach a certain grade, so she began to introduce tintin to her friends.
Tintin, who was busy creating on the other side, would receive a message from a kind aunt from time to time:
"Tintin, Auntie has a niece who is about the same age as you, do you have time to come out in the afternoon to meet you?"
At first, Tintin did not care, but politely refused the kindness of the elders.
But as more and more people want to introduce themselves to the object, Tintin is annoyed and goes home to find his mother:
"I said it all, I will find the object myself, can you stop the meeting?"
Cai Ming was also angry when he saw that his son did not know good villains: "I married your father when I was 24 years old, and I have you at 25 years old!" You look at your current uncle and aunt to introduce you to the object, your unsympathetic look! Like what words! ”
As he spoke, Cai Ming's tears fell:
"You think my mother is willing to worry about this every day, I have my own life!" How come you don't know how to be considerate of your mother! ”
Husband Ding Qiuxing saw that his wife and son were quarreling and hurried out to persuade:
"Okay, Tintin, don't be angry with your mother, she's all for your own good," he said, giving his son a look and signaling him not to talk back.
Then he turned his head and persuaded Cai Ming: "You too, don't you want to find a suitable eye, you urge the child so tightly, in case you find a fierce daughter-in-law, you can do it!" ”
The misty-eyed Cai Ming was amused by her husband's words, and under the mediation of Ding Qiuxing, Cai Ming and Ding Ding reached an agreement
"Cai Ming will not be so tight and affect the child's work, but Tintin also has to make concessions and try to go on a blind date."
So under the arrangement of his mother, Tintin met two or three girls successively.
After several blind dates, Tintin found out
"It's so embarrassing for two strangers to sit there and talk, and none of those girls are my favorite type."
Seeing that the girls on the blind date did not meet the eyes of their sons, Cai Ming thought of a new way
She asked her colleagues to introduce girls of the right age, asked the girls to come to the photos, and brought the photos to her son every few days.
Cai Ming took the photo and asked Ding Ding: "You see, these girls have something you like, if you have a favorite, your mother will go to you to ask for contact information."
But somehow, Tintin didn't look like he had found anyone he liked
Cai Ming saw that her son did not see a single one and felt that "the son was deliberate", so angry that she encouraged her husband to force marriage with her.
In 2016, Tintin was 30 years old, and he said that he was thirty and standing, but seeing that his son's marriage had been falling everywhere, Cai Ming's heart was anxious and depressed all day.
On the other hand, Tintin's life is not good, under the forced marriage of his mother, he has become a family and dare not return, becoming the latest one in the company, eager to work overtime every day.
Until the epidemic period, all places asked to stay at home to fight the epidemic, and the mother and son of Cai Ming and Tintin began to fight wits and courage under the same roof.
Cai Ming can't go out to shoot a movie, so he contacts his old colleagues at home, and by the way, asks which family has a girl of the right age and introduces him to his son.
Cai Ming asked Tintin what the criteria for choosing a mate were, and Tintin thought about it and said:
"Good temperament, education and income are reasonable, and those who look good are on the line!"
After knowing the general direction, Cai Ming quickly locked in the crowd of daughters-in-law, and Tintin had no choice but to kiss with his hair.
After the epidemic eased slightly, Tintin met several girls under the arrangement of his mother Cai Ming, but unfortunately he could not find his true destiny.
Successive failures in blind dates, so that the relationship between mother and son fell to the freezing point, Tintin began to hide from his mother, seeing his son like this, Cai Ming felt cold.
Because the "marriage urging" two people are burdened with a lot of psychological pressure
Cai Ming couldn't sleep all night, and Tintin rarely talked to his parents at home, and both of them had some tendencies to be depressed.
Later, under the persuasion of her husband Ding Qiuxing, Ding Ding assured his mother that he would definitely get married before the age of 37, and his mother should believe in herself and give herself freedom, and not urge marriage.
Feeling powerless, Cai Ming agreed to his son's request.
Now that we have entered 2022 and Tintin has reached the age of 36, I wonder if he can fulfill his promise?
Parents love their children, then for the far-reaching, Cai Ming's heart of a mother, presumably the mother can understand, and Tintin's persistence and helplessness, probably is also the status quo of many children who have been urged to marry.