Author | Fan Deng Reading · Ray is small
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Ah Cheng
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"I was deeply afraid that I was not a beautiful jade, so I did not dare to think about it hard, but I half believed that I was a piece of beautiful jade, so I refused to be mediocre and be with the rubble."
The words of the genius Japanese writer Atsushi Nakajima have always been so light and powerful, and they are directly striking, and this sentence is from his work "The Tale of the Mountain Moon".
If you're stuck in a state of confusion and can't break free, read this book.
The Augmentation of the Sages says:
Life is like a thin piece of paper, and the world is like a chess game.
Life is like a chess game, there is no established pattern, but it is unpredictable.
The Japanese writer Atsushi Nakajima told such a story in his fictional short story "The Tale of the Mountain Moon".
The protagonist of the novel, Li Zheng, became famous because of his outstanding literary talent, but he was lonely and arrogant in his heart, and he was not willing to be a petty official, so he resigned his official position and returned to his hometown to devote himself to writing poetry.
But the poems have not yet become famous, and real life has become embarrassing.
Li Zheng breeds demons for many years, and finally becomes a sad alien - a tiger beast, resulting in a tragedy of life.
After reading "The Record of the Mountain Moon", I saw the cold and warm in the world, and I couldn't help but sigh:
The only person at the helm of life is himself.
Li Zheng's life of "high open and low walk" is, in the final analysis, derived from the triple tragedy in human nature.
The First Tragedy:
Overestimating ideals and looking down on reality
Li Zheng in "The Tale of the Mountain Moon", who was knowledgeable and became famous at a young age, was on the tiger list in the year of his weak crown, and was arranged to start as a small official.
It would have been a beautiful thing.
Helplessly, Li Zheng had a very high opinion of himself, he thought that his boss was a bit mediocre, and he also looked down on his colleagues around him, so he resigned from his official position.
This meant that he cut himself off from the source of his life and laid the groundwork for future tragedies.
How can this not be the case for many people in reality?
For the work in front of you, blindly complain and react passively;
The post arranged, the dislike is too bitter, too tired and too boring;
Assigned tasks, spit is too unskilled.
As everyone knows, the cruelty of this world is that maybe the peak of life that you think is just a dream as a horse, and if you are not careful, you will fall into the abyss and leave you with nowhere to hide.
It is likely that at the moment, if you are diligent and diligent, you can take it step by step.
In order to improve his business ability, I know that netizens "poisonous tongue screenwriter Lin Manqing" has exchanged more with his peers and added more than a dozen screenwriting groups.
But almost every group has a common phenomenon, that is, there are not many people in the group to discuss business, and there are too many people who complain about the system, complain about the producers, and complain about low prices all day long.
Later, she found that in the screenwriting group, where there was a bit of coffee, the work at hand was too busy, and there was no time to read the group news, let alone time to complain.
Lin Manqing used her own biological experience as an example, as a small screenwriter, she never refused any small script customization work.
Therefore, from the network short video script of 100 yuan, to the SMALL TV station program of 1000 yuan, or the network university, movies, short dramas and TV series of 5,000 to 10,000 yuan, she has picked up.
Over time, Lin Manqing has established his own network, received a "big order" that everyone yearns for, and plans to set up his own studio in 2022.
And those who like to complain, the complaints still have not stopped, and the career has always stayed at the original point.
Usually the eyes are high and low, and everyone expects to make big money, the question is, is big money really so easy to earn?
If you don't accumulate contacts, save experience, and gain word of mouth in those so-called "making small money", how can people rest assured that they will give you a big order to "make big money"?
Lao Tzu said:
"The great things in the world must be done in detail."
Instead of complaining all the time and letting yourself get stuck in trouble, it is better to be down-to-earth and start with small things.
After all, huge buildings are built from a single piece of wood and stone.
The Second Tragedy:
Mistake the life of long cultivation as the present moment of short line
Li Zheng's young fame is a good thing on the surface, but if you think deeply, it may not be.
Some people say: "The success of a young man is one of the three great misfortunes in life." ”
Teenagers have won the ambition, and they have received too much praise, so it is inevitable that they will be arrogant and proud;
At a young age, there is not much experience, and it stands on the high ground of success, which means too little grinding.
Such a person, once he encounters setbacks, is prone to the extreme of tragedy.
Li Zheng was a young man, because he was too young, so he was complacent and overwhelmed; and because he suffered fewer setbacks, he was inevitably arrogant and arrogant, and his ability to resist setbacks was also weak.
This also laid the groundwork for his future tragedies.
Remember being lamented by countless people, "young fame will eventually become a martyr"?
Born in Beijing in 1983, Mao Kangan began playing with computers in the fifth grade of primary school, and at the age of 14 began to publish several articles in magazines such as "Popular Software" and designed and developed software on his own.
In 2004, he officially started his business, and was soon interviewed by the top domestic media, becoming a influential figure.
His face appeared on the screen of CCTV 2 for 90 consecutive minutes, being watched by hundreds of millions of viewers, when his mobile phone rang non-stop, and there were more than 200 text messages.
In 2011, Mao Kangan published a book called "On the Way to Learn the Scriptures in Naxi Heaven", which was the limelight.
Mao Kangan's body has a legendary label: junior high school graduation, computer genius, 300 million investment, beijing IT four less.
However, in 2018, a message that "Mao Kangan, a representative of post-80s entrepreneurship, committed suicide at the age of 35" shocked the Chinese people.
The impact of young fame on a person's psychological expectations and maturity ability is so great that it is difficult for us ordinary people to estimate.
When a person is accustomed to people's super high expectations, it will be more difficult for him to accept his setbacks and failures than ordinary people.
Because he did not learn to admit his weakness, nor did he know how to ask for help from his relatives and friends around him.
Mao Kan said that he became famous at a young age, and the first half of his life was smooth, and he thought that his whole life would be so beautiful.
As everyone knows, life is a long road, there are no ups and downs, and how to control the sails.
The same is true of Li Zheng in "The Tale of the Mountain Moon", who mistakenly regarded the life of long-distance running as the present moment of sprinting.
When a person only sees in front of him, whether it is success or defeat, it begins to amplify infinitely, and such a focus can easily force people to a desperate situation, which is the two extremes of Libra - either kill or become a ren.
As the saying goes, "Don't embrace the heart of a trapped beast, but be a bearer." ”
If we only see the current setbacks, we are bound to encounter the battle of the trapped beasts;
If we look at a lifetime, in the long accumulation of time and continuous efforts, even if it is an old horse, as long as it insists on being down-to-earth, it will eventually look up at the starry sky one day.
The Third Tragedy:
Think too much, do too little
The "Four Hondo Right Edition" has a saying:
"If you think less, you don't have to lose your spirit."
In the face of the embarrassment of life, Li Zheng did not face the difficulties, but suffered from gains and losses, looking forward and looking forward.
In the tossing and turning, looking left and right, he consumed all his talents and spirits.
In fact, the biggest "enemy" of a person's success is often not a bad external environment, not an aggressive "villain" around him, but a self who constantly consumes his mind, stagnates, and cannot be put into action for a long time.
The protagonist Li Zheng is sometimes worried that he is not a beautiful jade, so he does not dare to go all out and ponder hard;
Sometimes he doubted that he was half a piece of beautiful jade, so he did not want to be with the mediocre people, and was deeply afraid of the black of the near ink.
In the repeated entanglement, it led to his third tragedy - thinking too much and doing too little.
Classical teacher, a Chinese career education expert and founder of elite careers, once told such a story:
There is a girl who spends 4 hours a day studying for 3 months, and the week before the exam is suddenly attacked, and the difference is 3 points.
By the second year, the girl unexpectedly met a good job, so she began to struggle, do you want to continue to take graduate school this year?
If she prepares for the exam, she is afraid of failure, and if she does not prepare for the exam, she is afraid of regretting it.
Because of this entanglement, the girl wasted half a year's time.
So, the classical teacher calculated a time account for the girl, based on the information provided by the girl;
In the past 6 months, the time she has been tangled up every day, before and after, has almost 5 hours, so the total time of entanglement is 900 hours.
If she spends 4 hours a day studying for 6 months like she did in the past year, then the time spent is 500 hours.
In other words, the girl's entanglement time is 1.8 times that of the attempt.
Classical teachers believe that:
When the cost of waiting and delaying is far higher than the cost of really starting to act, he will slowly fall into the strange circle of waiting and not acting.
This pattern is what we often call the "waiting for death mode".
If we stop tangling and instead turn our inner thoughts into real action, trying to pursue a sense of control over the external world, we can avoid entering the vicious circle of "waiting for death mode".
The only person at the helm of life is himself
The famous ancient Roman philosopher Epicteide said: Be the captain of your soul.
Constantly remind yourself of what you can control and what you can't control.
Life is a long road, we may encounter setbacks, we may be disappointed, we may hurt.
But please always be the helmsman of your life, always wake yourself up, and avoid the triple tragedy of Li Zheng in "The Tale of the Mountain Moon":
Overestimating ideals and looking down on reality;
Mistakenly regard the life of long cultivation as the present moment of short line;
Think too much and do too little.
The only person at the helm of life is himself. Only by being vigilant at all times and looking at the world can we achieve something.
Finally, borrowing the poem of the 19th-century British writer William Ernest Henry, I would like to encourage you:
No matter how narrow the gates of destiny are, no matter what punishment I will bear.
I am the master of my destiny,
I am the commander of my soul.
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