Author | Fan Deng Reading · Duotu
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
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Meet · Meet your unknown self in the book.
Good evening to all book lovers, welcome to the reading column "Encounter" produced by Fan Deng Reading.
The British writer Woolf once said:
"Reading The Moon and Sixpence is like crashing head-on into a towering iceberg, completely disintegrating a mediocre life."
Today I would like to share with you Maugham's most famous novel, "The Moon and Sixpence".
Here are the real microcosms and portrayals of you and me in life.
The Moon and Sixpence is a classic by the British writer Maugham, which caused a sensation and endured as soon as it was published.
The novel mainly tells the story of stockbroker Strickland who gave up a stable life and pursued his dreams.
At first reading, he was impressed by Strickland's insistence, and when he read it again, he was attracted to the "unlucky egg" Stroof.
Strove is kind, warm and has a strong ability to absorb gold;
He cared for his wife and helped his friends.
A proper "good man" ended up with the betrayal of his wife and the scorn of his friends.
In this miserable person, you can see the shadow of many people.
If you understand Strove, you will understand that enthusiasm is like water, and overflowing when it is too full.
Enthusiasm is expensive, please don't waste it
Strove was a painter who had lost his hair in his mid-thirties.
The stocky figure, coupled with the pale eyebrows that are almost invisible, looks funny overall.
His paintings were crappy, but they always sold and made a lot of money.
His peers dismissed him, sarcastically and mocking him while constantly borrowing money from him.
Although he did not receive the slightest thanks from others, he still responded to their needs and helped them "get through the difficulties" every time.
Stroeve was grateful to the author, because the author never laughed at him.
So when the author came to Paris and suddenly appeared in front of him, he was surprised and delighted.
When he learned that the author had settled in, he kept blaming the author for not letting him know in advance.
Otherwise, he would help find a better place to live, and the author would not have to waste money on furniture.
In his opinion, the author did not let him help is not enough friends.
He was nice to everyone.
Although Strickland borrowed money from him on his first visit, he often disgraced him afterwards.
As Christmas approached, Strove was still worried that Strickland would be like him, unable to bear the loneliness and desolation of the holidays.
But with Strickland's personality, he didn't care about that at all.
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People mentions:
"Many people tend to subjectively speculate about the thoughts and needs of others, and feel that the feelings and investments that apply to themselves must also apply to others."
Like Strove, he always had the wishful thinking that others had the same idea as he did, thinking that others needed his help, but this was only an illusion.
In "Human Disqualification", it is said:
"Whoever you're too enthusiastic about increases the probability of not being cherished."
When a person is unconditionally good to others, they lose their self-esteem.
And when the other party does not need to pay to get this kind of good, they will not cherish.
Such as people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Don't blindly assume that other people's ideas are going to take everything to yourself.
Otherwise, even if you help others, you will not get the corresponding respect.
Enthusiasm is expensive, please don't waste it.
Being too enthusiastic is a disaster
Despite Strickland's humiliation, Ströff often felt pain.
But Strove still put down the mustard and took the author with him to invite him to Christmas.
When they found him, they found him terminally ill.
After convincing his fiercely opposed wife, Ströf took Strickland home.
After careful care by Stroeve and his wife, Strickland got better.
After the three of them had lived together for a few weeks, Stroeve noticed that their relationship was not normal and proposed that Strickland leave.
Unexpectedly, the wife insisted on following him and claimed to have fallen in love with him.
Considering that Strickland's residence was too simple, and fearing that his wife would suffer, Ströf left the studio to them.
After that, Strove kept telling his wife that he was willing to do anything for her as always.
His attitude is sincere, just like when his wife was deceived and bent on death, he did not hesitate to save her with marriage.
However, his wife remained indifferent, and when he continued to show loyalty, he was riveted and slapped him with all her strength.
The good times did not last long, and Strickland soon became disgusted with the bondage of The Strauss and chose to leave.
Strychny's husband and wife were like ashes, and finally took oxalic acid and died.
Ironically, even after his wife died and he saw Strickland again, Ströf was able to forgive and even wanted to take him with him to Holland.
But strickland not only did not apologize in the slightest, but also said such ruthless words as "That ridiculous dwarf winter melon loves to serve others, and he is used to it."
All of Strove's unreserved efforts looked like a joke.
The British writer Thackeray said:
"If a person, after receiving great favors, turns against his benefactors, he must take care of his own decency, and he must be more vicious than unrelated strangers, and he must prove the sins of the other party in order to explain his ruthlessness and injustice."
Between people, it is not that you are good to others, others will remember your good.
For those who don't know how to be grateful, passion without a bottom line will only give them the opportunity to hurt themselves.
There is a saying that goes: "If you dare to be good enough to be unreserved, others dare to be bad enough to be unscrupulous." ”
When the enthusiasm is too flooded, it is bound to be a disaster.
A good relationship, to have a sense of boundaries
Encountering Strickland again in Paris was an unexpected surprise for the author.
The author had met him before when he was still working on the London Stock Exchange.
Later, when he came to Paris, at the behest of his wife, the author also came to ask him why he had abandoned his family.
Although Strickland spoke sharply, he was always very face-saving for the author.
Once, he offered the author fifty francs, much to the surprise of the author.
After some ridicule, the author did not lend him the money, but also let him pay for the day's wine himself.
After saying "Go and die for you," Strickland left.
This rejection did not affect their relationship, and after meeting again, Strickland still chatted with the author as before.
After the death of His wife and Son Strauss, although the author showed great disgust for him, he told him directly that "if you still have a little eyesight, you should be able to see that I don't like you".
However, instead of being angry, he not only took the initiative to ask to be a guest in the author's home, but also invited the author to admire his paintings for the first time.
As the authors write:
"He always showed great enthusiasm for those who did not want to pay attention to him, which was one of the characteristics of Strickland."
Not only Strickland, but most people as well.
"Red Rose" sings: "What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear." ”
In a relationship, blindly pandering to it cannot harvest the other party's sincerity, and it will also appear worthless.
Equality and respect can only be achieved if we maintain boundaries and do something and do nothing.
Cognitive Breakout says:
"A good person who has no sense of boundaries often thinks what others think, is anxious about what others are anxious about, and finally wastes his own attention, and it is easy to provoke people to be disgusted."
We don't need to interfere too much with other people's lives, otherwise we will only humiliate ourselves.
For the requests of others, it is not necessary to respond to requests, after all, helping is the love, not helping is the duty.
Good relationships come with a sense of boundaries.
Write at the end
In The Moon and Sixpence, Stroeve appears as a comical figure and ends in tragedy.
Maybe in the end, he didn't figure out why he was so good to others, but he was so ended up.
It is the so-called "fighting rice to raise grace, bearing rice to raise revenge".
Being too enthusiastic will only make people take it for granted and take it for granted.
Not only did it lose its original intention to help people, but it also laid the groundwork for its own misfortune.
In the "Little Window", it is written: "Treating people with more than enough grace can maintain the hearts of the insatiable." ”
While being nice to others, don't forget to leave some leeway for yourself.
Only by loving yourself well and taking yourself seriously can you live up to your enthusiasm.
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Author | Duotu, keep your love, and go to the mountains and seas.
Column Director | Come slowly
Typography | Zheng to the north
Music | Wen Wubei "As Desired"