Childhood, parents in our hearts are heroes, after adulthood, in the face of parents tireless nagging, gradually began to rebel, feel that parents stubborn and conservative and do not understand the style, wait until they slowly grow old, but also when they become parents, finally slowly understand their parents, unfortunately many times, when we finally suddenly realized, but found that everything is already too late.
Not only ordinary people, but even the emperor who holds the power of life and death in the world is also difficult to escape the trickery of fate. As one of the most powerful emperors in history, Li Shimin also had rebellion, willfulness and incomprehension like you and me, and when he suddenly realized, he found that not only was everything too late, but he also lived like his former father, sad, but helpless.
The change of Xuanwu Gate
After the establishment of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shimin, who had followed his father in the southern conquest of the northern war and made great military achievements, was very disappointed because he was not the eldest son, and did not have the opportunity to take the position of prince, at this time, Li Shimin, who was in his youth, still had some dissatisfaction with his father Li Yuan.
As his power and ambitions grew, li shimin's followers also grew, and Li Shimin became more puzzled by Li Yuan's appointment of Li Jiancheng as crown prince, thus creating a conflict with Li Jiancheng. Brothers who were originally intimate and incomparable, in the face of imperial power, suddenly became your enemies.
Li Yuan saw it in his eyes and felt pain in his heart, he wanted to try to change something, so he helped the crown prince Li Jiancheng, diluted Li Shimin's power, hoping that this upcoming tragedy could be changed, but in the end Li Yuan found that he was indeed old, no longer than the young and promising Li Shimin, so in the end Li Yuan was in vain, but he greeted the tragic Xuanwumen change.
In the xuanwumen change, Li Shimin killed his brother Li Jiancheng and his younger brother Li Yuanji, and forced Li Yuan to surrender his imperial power, so that Li Yuan surrendered his imperial power, and Li Yuan, who was dying of old age, was helpless in an instant in the face of this sudden change, after all, his son had grown up, and his ability had surpassed That of Laozi, Li Yuan was proud of his son's achievements, and on the other hand, he worried about his future, and chose to abdicate to protect himself.
Li Yuan hoped that Li Shimin would not continue to kill and leave Li Jiancheng and Li Yuanji's sons behind, so that his descendants would not follow Li Shimin's example, and Li Shimin, who was young and vigorous at the time, did not understand Li Yuan's meaning, turned a blind eye to Li Yuan's advice, and sent someone to kill Li Jiancheng and All 10 sons of Li Yuanji.
At this point, Li Shimin finally achieved a complete victory in the xuanwumen revolution, and could safely take the throne to govern the country, and under Li Shimin's conscientious governance, the country flourished day by day, and the first grand rule of the Tang Dynasty appeared, Li Yuan looked at Li Shimin's achievements, and finally had a little comfort in his heart.
Suddenly looking back on the love is far away, I can't help myself in the sky
At the peak of his power, Li Shimin felt that he was also a successful person, there was more flattery around him, less truth, Li Shimin gradually lost himself, and began to feel that his father was actually capable, so Li Shimin criticized many of Li Yuan's policies in the early days of succession, and also criticized Li Yuan's minister Pei Huan. Denying his father's achievements, in a sense, is Li Shimin's efforts to prove his success, but also to retaliate against his father for choosing his brother Li Jiancheng.
At this time, silence is better than sound, and Li Shimin's wordless attack is the biggest harm to Li Yuan, but Li Yuan, as a father, watched his son gradually surpass himself, with joy and sadness, this feeling of sadness and joy, Li Shimin could not feel it at that time, because he was still in the ascending period of life.
After proving that he was indeed stronger than his father, and proving that his father's choice of his brother Li Jiancheng as the crown prince was a wrong choice, Li Shimin found that it seemed that Li Yuan did not care about these things, seemed to be somewhat indifferent, and also took the initiative to move from the Taiji Palace to the Hongyi Palace where he lived when he was the King of Qin.
At this time, Li Shimin began to have a brief revenge on Li Yuan, such as Li Shimin going hunting, no matter how the minister advised, Li Shimin was not willing to take Li Yuan, Li Shimin went to the summer, knowing that Li Yuan was very hot in Hongyi Palace, Li Shimin was also unwilling to take his father with him to the summer, all of which was Li Shimin's brief revenge on his father.
Finally, after several years of tossing and turning, Li Shimin felt that Li Yuan did not seem to resist all this, nor did he show any performance, so Li Shimin felt tired, and the hatred in his heart for Li Yuan gradually dissipated, and the true feelings between father and son gradually appeared, yes, Li Shimin was also Li Yuan's son no matter what, Li Yuan was always Li Shimin's father, between father and son, there was a difference of opinion, there was a brief dispute, but in the end, it was still broken bones and tendons, and only each other in the world was the only one.
Li Yuanyun lightly endured for so many years, and finally saw Li Shimin grow up, Li Yuan was secretly happy in his heart, watching Li Shimin from a boy who did not know the height of the sky, to finally mature and steady down, Li Yuan understood that as a father, this life is worth it.
But what about Li Shimin? When he finally matured from an ignorant teenager, planning to invite Li Yuan to go hunting, inviting Li Yuan to go to the summer, and even planning to build a new palace for Li Yuan, Daming Palace, he suddenly found that his father, who had once been a great man and could not be a life, was already dying of old age, and when the construction of Li Shimin's Daming Palace was completed, Li Yuan had already quietly passed away, and Li Shimin was no longer too late to pay tribute to his father, who had once fought with him.
Maybe this is the case between father and son, always do not like to communicate, do not like to sit down and have a good chat, more like to prove themselves with actions, like to let the father see that he is gradually growing, gradually becoming stronger, and even surpassing the father, but when he really surpasses the father, he finds that the father has long been dying of old age, and wants to do something to show his respect for the father, and there is no chance.
Only then did I understand that it was difficult to be a parent
After Li Yuan's death, Li Shimin was indeed a little sad, but at this time, Li Shimin still had no way to deeply understand how deep the damage he had caused to his father during the change of Xuanwumen and after that. Until Li Shimin's sons grew up, they gradually showed their ambitions in the face of the temptation of imperial power.
The eldest prince Li Chengqian, Yang Fengyin violated, so that Li Shimin was very distressed, the second eldest Li Tai, always had ideas about the position of the prince, just like himself at that time, and finally the boss could not bear it, and did not do two endlessly, Li Chengqian and Hou Junji and others launched a rebellion, Li Shimin was devastated after suppressing the rebellion.
As a result, Li Tai immediately went to show his loyalty, saying that he wanted to kill his son and later pass the throne to his younger brother Li Zhi, all these behaviors, like the change of Xuanwumen in that year, Li Chengqian rebelled and forced the palace, Li Tai wanted to kill his own son, you see, how familiar everything was, Li Shimin suddenly remembered his father's words at that time, and he was sad.
Until this time, Li Shimin finally understood his father's mood at that time, and gradually understood how much the things he had done hurt his father, but Li Yuan had long been buried, and all the guilt and sorrow, Li Shimin hid in his heart, no one told.
epilogue
People are always like this, when they are young, they will always feel that their parents are inferior to other people's parents, they will always not understand the good intentions of their parents, they will encounter some trivial things in life, they will always be inexplicably angry with their parents or blame their parents, we always think that there is still a lot of time, we can slowly sit down to accompany our parents, and always think that everything we do is right.
Until one day, we finally became parents, watching the children grow up day by day, many behaviors are familiar, this time we suddenly realized, remembering the various benefits of parents and what parents once said, wiping away tears and wanting to hug their parents, but found that there is only one shadow, everything is already too late.
Therefore, in those hours you have, learn to calm down and think about it, learn to reflect more on yourself, those short times with your parents, a little more understanding and tolerance, more distraction and peace of mind, you will find that in fact, your parents are also very cute, you will find that when you grow old, the day you feel less guilty and regretful!