Zeng Guofan said:
"Think big, start small."
Only when a person is sober, objective, and rational in his position can he get better and better.
People who can put themselves in the right position know how to be a person to have a pattern, to do things with an attitude, to refuse to be high and far-reaching, and to refuse to be high-handed.
Being a person and focusing on the big picture is a realm and a pattern;
Doing things, doing things in a small way, is an attitude, is a kind of responsibility.
Only by always setting up a good position and always putting yourself right can you achieve a career.
1: Don't overestimate yourself
The biggest fatal point in life is to overestimate yourself.
There is a passage in "The Three-Body Problem":
"Weakness and materialism are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
Once a person feels that he has a sense of superiority over others and feels superior to others, he is not far from bad luck. ”
People who like to overestimate themselves are more likely to feel superior to others, and often feel that they are superior.
But in fact, people who have really lived out "superior" in life are extremely humble and full of humility.
Because Wei Chigong saved Li Shimin's life many times, he often felt great in his heart that he could not live forever.
But what puzzled him was that even though he had done these few important things, Li Shimin still did not value him, and even delayed in entrusting him with heavy responsibilities.
Wei Chigong, who couldn't help himself, finally asked Li Shimin for the reason, and the other party said that people cannot live in the past, but must look to the future.
Because of the blindness of the momentary achievements, I began to feel that I was more qualified than others, and I had more confidence to enjoy the "sense of superiority", but I did not know that all successes were just a thing of the past.
Obsessing over the achievements of the past is tantamount to "burying" yourself in the past, living in the past, it is difficult to imagine the future and create the future.
Wei Chigong was very embarrassed to hear it, and he was painfully determined, and since then he has changed like a person, more angry and strong, even if he is 60 years old, he can still take command and go on a campaign, defeat Goryeo and create brilliance.
In the end, Wei Chigong also because of his outstanding military achievements, his paintings were displayed by Li Shimin in Ling yan pavilion, and he honorably became one of the "twenty-four heroes of Ling yan pavilion".
Jack London says in Seawolf:
"Everyone sees themselves as a diamond, but in the eyes of others, it is nothing more than an allotrope of diamonds: charcoal."
Therefore, whether your life is "diamond" or "charcoal" is not up to you, but by you.
Focus your time and energy on being pretentious, blind, and overestimating yourself.
Then, what the years bring to you will eventually be the alienation, alienation and scorn of others, and life can only leave you with the desolation of a lifetime.
2: Don't despise yourself
As a person, you can't overestimate yourself, but you must not despise yourself.
One can be humble, but one must not be inferior.
Because once you fall into the quagmire of inferiority, it is like self-poking blind eyes and not believing in the existence of sunlight.
The famous writer Milan Kundera once said:
"Once a person is intoxicated by his own weakness, he will remain weak, and he will fall into the street under the eyes of everyone, fall to the ground, and fall lower than the ground."
In life, there are too many people who obviously have the ability to introspect themselves and the ability to resist, but because of the loss of courage for a while, they blindly succumb to their own weakness.
Therefore, inferiority and cowardice make them more inclined to belittle themselves in the crowd, cater to others, and please each other.
You can obey anyone's orders, but you don't pay attention to yourself, and even belittle yourself.
It is true that if a person cannot live sincerely even his true self, it means that he has lost the initiative for the present and the future, and he has ruthlessly lost all possibilities.
Sanmao said:
"If there is an afterlife, be a tree, stand in an eternal, posture without sorrow and joy.
Half serene in the soil, half flying in the wind, half sprinkling shade, half soaking in the sun,
Very silent and very proud, never dependent, never looking. ”
Spring flowers, autumn moons, summer days, and winter snow are all unique beings in life, and you yourself also belong to this vast universe, a special existence.
Therefore, do not despise yourself, since you will envy the beauty of others, you should also see the beauty of yourself.
Since there is not much difference between everyone, then don't think that you are much different from others.
Only by living out your true self can you live a strong self.
With a strong self, you will have a strong life, a life with texture.
3: Put yourself in the right place
To be a person, we must put ourselves in a correct position, not a crooked position.
There is an old saying: "Gentleman's business book, the original and the Tao." ”
Take a certain amount of time to polish your vision, thoughts and realms, and take a certain amount of energy to exercise your body, physical fitness and thoughts.
Only in this way, in the trough, there is no need to be arrogant, not to stand still, not to pity and pity;
Only in this way, when in the high place, we will not be empty-eyed, will not be arrogant, and will not be complacent;
Find the positioning of life, find the direction of life, do not offside, good position, and then cultivate a strong heart.
In this way, you can improve yourself, surpass yourself, and let your vision, goals, ideals, and beliefs be integrated.
Then, it will come naturally to achieve a career, create a better life, and achieve a wonderful future.
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