Text/Flying Fish
When people are old, in fact, no one can escape loneliness. Loneliness is the norm of life, we are not afraid of aging, in fact, afraid of loneliness.
When you are young, you will have your parents by your side, when you are young, you will have friends who will go north and south together, and you will also have lovers to accompany each other and never give up.
And people are old, children are old, parents have left, even after the wife is gone, the children are unreliable, they have their own lives, do not dare to ask them to give up their own lives and accompany their own side.
Living alone, although free, but sometimes think of yourself alone in the family, the sense of loneliness will arise spontaneously, missing his wife, missing his parents, missing his children and grandchildren, silently bearing the loneliness of the night, only to feel old, it was afraid of loneliness.
When people are old, there are people around to accompany them and enjoy the happiness of the world, which is actually the happiest thing.
But there are some elderly people in life, only themselves, their children are not around, and even after their wives have died, they feel that they have nothing to rely on.
When people are old, their wives go first, their children are not around, and the loneliness of old age is an impotent compromise.
I remembered a grandmother over eighty years old in a short video on the Internet before, and posted a video about how she lived too lonely.
In the video, she said in frustration, "My children are not around, so lonely." I don't know how to get by, and I don't bother to cook three meals a day. My daughter married far away to the United States, and my son settled in Guangzhou. I have 8 grandchildren, but none of them are with me..."
In the old age, the children have their own lives, do not come back often, the wife is gone, they live alone, eating always feel cold, people will inevitably be very lonely.
Although some old people say that they are very comfortable, in fact, they are just fulfilling their children, who do not want to be dependent on the elderly, who do not want their children and grandchildren to be around them.
But the reality is that children live in another city, they live in one city, if it is not a New Year's holiday, it is difficult to see each other.
In ordinary life, there is not even a person to talk to, and no matter how much you do what you like, you still always feel that something is missing.
In fact, I feel that there is less popularity in the family, no wife, no children, less popularity, and the whole family is even more cold.
When people are old, if there is no one around to accompany them, they must also love themselves well, eat well, live well, and be kind to their old age.
Remembering Mr. Yang Dai's later years, her husband and daughter left before her, leaving her alone.
Mr. Yang Dai said, "Zhong Shu escaped, and I also want to escape, but where did I flee?" I couldn't escape at all, I had to stay in the world, clean up the scene, and do my duty. ”
The greatest loneliness in life is that the wife who has accompanied him all his life has also gone away first, leaving him alone to bear this unspeakable grief.
But Mr. Yang Dai still lives a very thorough life, still thinks openly, although she misses her husband and daughter very much, she will live well. Although sometimes I still dream of them, dreaming of myself and Qian Zhongshu walking in the sunset, the two of them talking and laughing together, and waking up still empty and leaving them alone, still eating well, and then sorting out the manuscripts he left behind, and continuing his own creation.
When people are old and have someone to accompany them, they are lucky and happy.
Even if the children are not around, but the wife is still there, they still do not feel lonely. And even my wife has gone, what hope do you have for the rest of your life?
People are old, and they can't avoid being so desolate. And loneliness has become the norm of our lives, I hope that we still have confidence in life, as long as we live, we can't waste it, we still have to live well, love ourselves, treat ourselves well, treat ourselves well in our old age, be an old man with a rich heart, even if we are old, we must live gracefully and live out of ourselves.
Written in the end, I hope that we can all cherish our parents, do not feel that coming to Japan is long, in fact, life is impermanent, and coming to Japan is not long.
When you have time, call back to contact them more, care more about them, go back to see them more, the first half of life, parents accompanied us to grow up, the second half of life, parents need our companions, we don't always miss.
Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home.
Whether it is a child or a parent, in fact, having the company of a family around is the happiest.
The tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants to raise and not to be kissed. Please slow down, please leave a little time and space for your parents, and come home often.
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