preface
May there be one heart, and the white head will not be separated. --Zhuo Wenjun
In people's lives, from childhood to adulthood, they have met countless people, or passed by forever passers-by, or met and hated to become confidants, or looked at each other and hated each other and did not want to meet again... All kinds of encounters, you are in a "fate" word. Maybe some people start to imagine what kind of person they want to marry when they grow up, or calm, or talkative, or handsome. In any case, the person in his heart must be his most beautiful idea. When they grow up, they follow the model they constructed as a child to find the person they want to entrust their lives to, but most people inadvertently slowly lower the standard, because the imagination is too beautiful to find a good match.
In love, perfection doesn't belong to everyone. Kong Lingyi is like this, the heavens gave her a superior origin, but let her fall in love.
1. Kong Lingyi and his people
Kong Lingyi (1915.12-2008.8.22), born in Taigu, Shanxi, is Kong Xiangxi's favorite eldest daughter, easy-going and free and independent. In 1928, when Kong Lingyi was studying at Jinling Girls' High School in Nanjing, she temporarily lived in the official residence of her relative Chiang Kai-shek. After graduating from high school, he was admitted to Shanghai Hujiang University. Kong Lingyi, who entered the university era, expressed great interest in literature and art, but was not enthusiastic about politics and power. After the End of the Civil War, she went to live with her father in the United States. He died on August 22, 2008 at the Fifth Avenue apartment in Manhattan, New York, at the age of 93.
Although she is not interested in power, she still pursues the ultimate enjoyment of material life. She is extremely particular about dressing and eating, and her daily life exudes an air of luxury. Every cell of hers enjoys the preferential treatment of her parents and loved ones every day. In the morning, there is bird's nest soup waiting for her, foreign goods from afar are ready to serve her, and all kinds of perfumes and cosmetics from France are like carefully selected showgirls waiting for her to flop. Her family gave her a life that most people could not match, allowing her to grow up in a comfortable environment.
Second, treat love and never compromise
Kong Lingyi's parents are very cautious about her marriage, after all, they are the daughter's lifelong partner, so the requirements are also very high.
However, Kong Lingyi's marriage was not as smooth as imagined. Because of the marriage problem, there have been many storms in the Kong family. Her aunt Song Meiling is also very fond of her, and naturally spends a lot of thought on her marriage. Song Meiling repeatedly screened among the Kuomintang officers, and finally took a fancy to Hu Zongnan, who was deeply trusted by Chiang Kai-shek, who was young and promising and unmarried, and was quite a match with Kong Lingyi. So she introduced Hu Zongnan to her eldest sister Song Xialing, and the two finalized the marriage for Kong Lingyi. Just when everyone thought that Kong Lingyi would accept this marriage, Kong Lingyi refused on the grounds that she did not want to waste her youth on a mangy husband.
In 1941, Wei Lihuang, a senior Kuomintang general, went to Chongqing for official business, and this person was also a high-powered person who returned to singleness due to the death of his wife's illness. Therefore, some people wanted to introduce him to Kong Lingyi, but Kong Lingyi refused a marriage again on the grounds that the age gap was too large and did not want to be a wife who looked like a little wife.
Kong Lingyi's refusal to marry twice just showed her parents that she wanted to find a young and handsome husband. Just when Kong Xiangxi and Song Xialing were worried about their daughter's marriage, Sun Tonggang landed in front of them with an excellent appearance. Sun Tonggang was the younger brother of Sun Tongxuan, a subordinate of the great warlord Han Fuyu at that time, and studied in Germany. He flew a plane over the Mediterranean And Indian Oceans and finally landed safely in Nanjing, which made him an object of admiration for a while.
At that time, he was only in his early thirties, in his prime, and in order to live a rich and stable life in the future, he wanted to have a relationship with the powerful tycoon Kong Xiangxi. Kong Xiangxi happens to be interested in becoming the minister of aviation, so he is very appreciative of Sun Tonggang. Li Yuwan, who was serving as a counselor at the Ministry of Finance at the time, saw Kong Xiangxi's intentions and pushed the boat along the water and tried his best to match. However, after Kong Lingyi learned of the causal relationship behind this, a marriage based on interests was snuffed out in the cradle.
Third, obsessively paying wrongly, but also finally getting a good person
The annihilation of the three marriages made Kong Lingyi gradually lose confidence in her marriage. Just when she was depressed, she met a man she thought she was looking forward to in her life.
Once Kong Lingyi went to the dance hall to dance, he was invited by a young man in a black suit to dance, and the two happily danced the whole dance song. Then the young man invited her to drink coffee, and Kong Lingyi naturally went happily. It didn't take long for Kong Lingyi to fall into a deep emotional network.
After Kong Xiangxi became aware of this, he immediately investigated the details of this person. Knowing that his name is Chen Ji'en, he graduated from St. John's University, and his father is the conductor of a dance hall band that has stayed in the West, so look at it alone, Chen Ji'en is not bad. It's just that his family is particularly poor. Therefore, Kong Xiangxi and his wife tried their best to stop their daughter's impulse. Unexpectedly, Kong Lingyi was particularly serious about this exchange, not only constantly refusing to communicate with Chen Ji'en, but even arguing with his parents for this reason. In the end, Kong Xiangxi, who has always loved his daughter, compromised. Considering the facade of the family, Kong Xiangxi promoted Chen Ji'en one after another so that he had the status of a daughter worthy of it.
Later, Chen Ji'en was sent to the United States, Kong Lingyi also went to the United States in 1943 in the name of studying abroad, and announced his marriage to Chen Ji'en in the United States without authorization, and Song Xialing found someone to make a dowry for him overnight. A week later, eight boxes of dowries flew from Chongqing Coral Dam Airport to the United States. Unexpectedly, the division was unfavorable, and soon after the plane took off, it encountered an accident. The elaborate dowry, along with the plane, was reduced to ashes in the fire. Subsequently, the couple ordered six boxes of dowries to be sent to the United States overnight, and the daughter's marriage was also carried out smoothly under the cover of a huge dowry. Kong Lingyi, who thought that he could be white forever, finally ended this vigorous love by breaking up under Chen Ji'en's gradual reveal of his nature.
Her marriage can be described as a twist and turn, and it cannot be ended well. Fortunately, fate still favored her, and Kong Lingyi finally ushered in her second husband, Huang Xiongsheng, in a near disappointment in love. This man studied at Tsinghua University, and when the War of Resistance Broke Out, he decided to abandon his pen and enter the Air Force Officer School. Huang Xiongsheng was quick-witted and understanding, so he was greatly appreciated by Chiang Kai-shek. Later, when Huang Xiongsheng was stationed in Washington, he met Kong Lingyi, and then the two entered the marriage hall, and their lives were also satisfactory.
Love doesn't always start and end well. A couple of lovers first met in a crowd, some at first sight, some long-term love. After falling in love, they swore to hold the hand of their son, and they all seemed to be overconfident that they were destined to be good people in this life. After marriage, some people are happy and sweet, and some people are depressed. The latter lost to reality, to a rare pair of "wise eyes". Kong Lingyi, a person who lives a relatively light life, longs to have a happy and stable life, and his life is glorious and rich, but he failed in his first love. Because she looked at the wrong person.