There is an old Chinese saying that goes, "If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer losses in front of you", which means that the elderly have traveled more roads, experienced more things, and have a deeper understanding of the world.
For example, the big lady in today's story, she just does not listen to advice, but wants to marry a handsome but poor young man, parents have no way, can only agree, when she ran to the United States to get married, the dowry is shipped 2 times before the end. What awaited her was her husband's betrayal and the misfortune of a lifetime.
Kong Lingyi, born in 1915, was born "with a golden spoon", is a rich family with thousands of gold, let's take a look at her family members: her father Kong Xiangxi, the 75th grandson of Confucius, minister of finance, banker, rich businessman; mother Song Yiling, is the eldest sister in the famous "Three Sisters of Song", and the younger sister is Song Qingling and Song Meiling.
Let's take a look at the daily life of "Miss Kong": every morning when you get up, you must first drink a bowl of bird's nest soup for breakfast, the snacks you eat are airlifted from Hong Kong, China, and the lunch is at least 6 dishes and 2 soups. The clothes must not be the same every day, the rouge gouache must be imported, and the shower gel for the bath must be her favorite British brand.
Although Kong Lingyi's life is slightly luxurious, she is still different from other misses, she does not like power, she is not interested in politics at all, the most annoying parents want her to attend political activities together, she loves life, loves art, and is an extremely romantic lady.
In addition, Kong Lingyi is intelligent in mind, looks more like her father Kong Xiangxi, and is the eldest daughter, so she is very favored and has status in the Kong family. Then the marriage of such a Miss Qianjin is definitely the top priority of the whole family.
Aunt Song Meiling is one of the most serious, because Song Meiling herself has no children, so she is particularly fond of this beautiful and intelligent niece, when Song Meiling's wedding, the little Kong Lingyi was a bridesmaid, and later Kong Lingyi went to Nanjing to study, often living in the Jiang family, Song Meiling almost regarded her as her own daughter.
When Song Meiling saw that Kong Lingyi had reached the age of marriage, she immediately got busy, she picked up the photos of the Kuomintang officers at that time, looked left and right, no one could see it, and felt that she was not worthy of her precious niece, so she called the eldest sister Song Xialing to choose together. The two sisters finally chose the most satisfactory person, Hu Zongnan.
Hu Zongnan, a first-class general of the Republic of China Army, he was a graduate of the first phase of the Whampoa Military Academy, with particularly outstanding achievements, known as "the first protégé of Tianzi", young and promising official Yun Hengtong, the Song family sisters quickly found Kong Lingyi and introduced her to Hu Zongnan.
Unexpectedly, Kong Lingyi heard that the object was Hu Zongnan, and she immediately refused with a soft hum, and she said very bluntly: "Hu Zongnan I have seen, but a martial artist, I don't know romance at all, I don't want to sacrifice my youth for a false name." "Full of personality.
Time passed like this day by day, seeing that Kong Lingyi was already 26 years old, the parents of the Kong family and the Song family were in a hurry, just at this time, the army general Wei Lihuang went to Chongqing for business, his status was quite high, plus his wife had died of illness, so someone recommended him to the Kong family.
When 26-year-old Kong Lingyi heard this, she said angrily, "What do you mean?" I was almost 20 years old with him, didn't I marry as a little wife? It is conceivable that the atmosphere at the scene is very awkward, but these 2 refusals let Kong Xiangxi and Song Xialing understand the meaning of their daughter, and it turned out that she wanted to find a young handsome and romantic young man.
Just when Kong Lingyi was upset, he appeared in front of her eyes. It was a dance party, there were many people, and Kong Lingyi, who did not like to socialize, sat alone and drank, watching people staggering, and suddenly a white hand reached over, only to see a handsome young man in a black suit smiling at her.
Kong Lingyi suddenly blushed, and she accepted the invitation of the other party and danced a dance. After the dance, the young man invited Kong Lingyi to drink coffee, and in this way, the two fell in love. This incident was immediately strongly opposed by his father Kong Xiangxi.
After Kong Xiangxi's "investigation", that person is called Chen Ji'en, just graduated from St. John's University, his father is just a dance hall band conductor, the family is so poor that jingles, he is this kind of person Kong Xiangxi has seen a lot, is not he trying to climb the branches? Can't marry him!
Kong Lingyi is usually a person who respects her father and listens to her parents, but this time she chose to resist, saying that Chen Ji'en is the person she has been waiting for, and she must marry him. Her mother, Song Xialing, said bitterly, "His conditions are too poor, and you are really not suitable." Kong Lingyi still did not listen, she felt that true love was more important than money.
The parents who loved Kong Lingyi had no way, seeing that their daughters were 26 years old, and it was not appropriate not to marry anymore, Kong Xiangxi immediately "arranged" Chen Ji'en, and he used his connections to arrange for Chen Ji'en to be the deputy director of the Operations Bureau of the Central Bank of the Kuomintang.
In 1943, Kong Lingyi flew to the United States in the name of studying abroad to marry Chen Ji'en, although this news caught his parents in China by surprise, but the wealthy Kong family immediately found someone to rush to make a dowry overnight, and even chartered a plane, which was enough to load 8 large camphor wood boxes for the dowry, and as a result, the plane took off and encountered an accident, and all the dowry turned into ashes.
The Kong family did not panic, and immediately rushed to make a new dowry overnight, this time "only" packed 6 boxes, smoothly transported to the United States, Kong Lingyi and Chen Ji'en held a luxurious wedding.
Because of the extravagance of the Kong family, the Ta Kung Pao could not help but report on this matter, the headline was "Talking about Miss Kong Feimei's marriage", people unceremoniously commented: "Miss Kong's dowry money is enough for 2,000 victims to eat and wear for 1 year, if other expenses are counted, more than 10,000 refugees can be relieved!" "There is no doubt that this incident has become a very disgraceful past for the Kong family.
This poor boy who "did not have the right door" just "succeeded in ascending to the throne", he exposed his nature, he became playful, spent a lot of money, and immediately had a woman outside, when Kong Lingyi was pregnant, she was angry when she heard the news, and divorced Chen Ji'en in a heartbroken mood.
Because of this miscarriage, Kong Lingyi lost her qualification to be a mother, which is really sighing! From this point of view, the "old man's words" are indeed of reference value, if Kong Lingyi listened to his parents' words, perhaps it would not be so tragic.
Reference: The Eldest Daughter of Kong Xiangxi: Witnesses of the Rise and Fall of the Four Great Families