Hello everyone, I'm Cuckoo Mama~
They all say that the daughter is a small cotton jacket and the son is a military coat. Since becoming a mother, I have a deep understanding of this sentence. Because facing the son and daughter, daily life is completely two styles of painting.
The daughter is like a soft little cotton jacket, even when it is cold, it feels warm and comfortable. The son, on the other hand, was a heavy military coat, pressed on his shoulders, worn for a long time, and could not stand up straight.
One: About talking
When your daughter talks to you, she is soft and sticky: "Ma Ma, tell me a story, please~" She looked at you with a pair of watery eyes, and her eyelashes blinked, making you can't bear to refuse.
If you hesitate, she will climb on top of you, hug you and kiss you: "Ma Ma, is it okay to tell a story?" I love you the most. "Your heart melted with this sweet attack, how can you not agree?"
When your son talks to you, he throws it in front of you with the old, dilapidated picture book that he has torn apart: "Mom, tell me a story." ”
Two: About walking
The sky is clear, the wind is beautiful, you take your daughter out to breathe, the little girl jumps and jumps, singing while walking in front. Occasionally, I have to squat down to look at the small flowers and grasses on the ground:
"Ma Ma, you see, isn't this flower beautiful?"
When he went out with his son, he was like a bird in a cage regaining his freedom, and he disappeared as soon as he slipped a cigarette. You yell at the back and shout, "Slow down! ”
He learned to punch, kick, and jump in the air like Ultraman, and he still had words in his mouth: "Ha, see where you run!" "After saying that, I stepped heavily on the flowers and grass next to me, and you didn't have time to stop it."
Three: On reasoning
"You can't run around outside, what can you do if you bump into it?" And if you get lost, your mother will die of sadness. ”
The daughter immediately hugged you with tears in her eyes: "Mom, I know, I will never leave you, don't you want to be sad, okay?" ”
"I've said so much, have you listened to it?"
Son: "What did you just say?" ”
Four: About bathing
"Baby, it's time to take a bath."
"It's great, I like to take a shower. Duckling, Bunny, and Page also washed with me. Mom, can you not wash your hair? Water hurts in the eyes. ”
"Smash, take a shower!"
"Wait until I finish watching this episode of the anime!"
"Take a shower!"
"Right now!"
"I didn't sweat, what bath did I take?"
Five: The relationship between the two of you
"Baby, Mommy's back~
As soon as the daughter heard, she immediately stood up, trotted all the way to your arms, put her arms around you and kissed and kissed: "Mom, you are finally back, I miss you so much ~ "
"Baby, I'm back~
The son sat on the ground, tinkering with his excavator and Ultraman, without lifting his head: "Oh. ”
Six: About the game
"Mom, let's play the game." Am I a doctor, are you a patient? The daughter took her "stethoscope" and pretended to listen to you: "Ah, uncomfortable, do you want to get an injection?" ”
To release your daughter's fear of being shot, you want her to poke you in the arm, and she shakes her head: "Don't hit, Mommy will hurt." ”
"Mom, let's have a fight." My son looked at you with excitement and his eyes lit up. Before you can react, he picks up his toy gun, points it at your forehead, and voices it with precision: "Bang! bang! bang! ”
Old mother, pawn.
Game over。
Seven: About dressing
"Baby, what do you want to wear?"
The daughter looked at a cabinet of clothes and thought, "Wear this pink coat?" Maybe I'll wear that princess dress. Oops, I think that white sweater is pretty good too..."
"Baby, which piece of clothing do you want to wear?"
"Whatever." The son picked up a T-shirt that was placed on a stool, put it on his body without saying a word, and left, completely unable to remember that this dress had been worn by him for several days.
Eight: Express emotions
When your daughter expresses her emotions, she will throw herself into your arms and cry while saying:
"Mom, I'm so sad, don't get angry, whining....".
The son expressed his emotions, his eyebrows were upside down, his eyes were angry, he clenched his fists, jumped up to his feet and yelled: "It's not my fault alone, why do I always say that I ?!......?"
Nine: About knocking on the door
After you go to sleep, your daughter will come to you, will knock on the door, and then whisper, "Mom, can I come in?" ”
After you fell asleep, the dream was fragrant, the son came to you, pushed open the door, and the door slammed against the wall. He shouted excitedly, "Mom! ”
After shouting, he also jumped up, his feet landed in a perfect arc, his hands posed in a pose, his eyes slowly lifted from what he could see, and he told you with his eyes: "Look at me, handsome or not?" ”
Ten: About socializing
"Baby, are you having fun in kindergarten?"
As soon as the daughter heard this, she immediately turned on the speech mode, and her mouth could not stop like clockwork:
"I played Barbie dolls with Zihan, and then Zihan had to add it, and we didn't agree, so we didn't play with Zihan anymore." Zi Xuan made Zi Xuan cry, and Zi Xuan came over to persuade zi xuan, saying that Zi Xuan was too domineering, and we should never play with Zi Xuan again..."
"Baby, are you and your friends okay?"
Son: "I had a fight with Zi Xuan, but then we reconciled again." ”
Eleven: Why is there such a big difference in raising sons and daughters?
Raising a son is so different from raising a daughter. Different parenting will make you feel that there are two seasons to go through.
Why is there such a big difference between boys and girls?
Their personalities and behavior patterns are actually determined from birth and even during the fetal period. Secreting different hormones will make children behave differently.
Male hormones, naturally aggressive, aggressive. So boys are more impulsive than girls, and girls are quieter than boys.
Moreover, the different structures of boys' and girls' brains also determine their thinking patterns and expressions.
More spinal fluid in the boys' brains gives them more energy and strength. Boys need to vent these energies through physical movements and games. So parents who raise boys will feel more tired.
Girls' emotions and language develop earlier than boys'. So their minds are more delicate, they know more empathy, and they are better at organizing language. The girl will perceive your emotions, be considerate of your mood, care about your state, and express her love.
And the boy's developmental delayed emotions make him "invisible" to your needs, unable to say the cause and effect of things, and resolutely do not move his mouth to solve things.
But in fact, boys or girls, they have their own growth rules. The old mother only needs to be patient and grow up with them
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