As a man, being strong yourself is the only way out.
The I Ching says, "The heavens will rain, and the madness of man will bring misfortune." "Strong self does not mean to have no one in sight, solipsism, no one can always be smooth, on the road of life, there will always be ups and downs waiting for themselves to temper."
If the moon is profitable, it will lose, and when the water is full, it will overflow. Everything needs to be grasped, and a man's true strength must begin with knowing the word "humility".
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Humble people, put themselves in a lower position
The famous ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once said, "The only thing I know is my ignorance." ”
A person who is so powerful still puts himself in the lowest position, so who can we ordinary people blow ourselves into the sky?
The ear of rice bows its head, indicating that it has matured, and a humble person always places himself in a place lower than his true self, as if the sea is at the lowest place, and the position is set low, so that he can have a broader space for tolerance.
On the contrary, those who have never seen the world and have not had much knowledge are always like others are unattainable, and the ugly appearance of the high-minded will only scatter their own blessings, let alone how much they have achieved. In fact, the arrogance and indulgence of these people expose the shortcomings of their cultivation.
As a man, especially a man who wants to succeed, we must guard against arrogance and impatience, do not float on the surface, reduce the strong attachment to "me", always recognize ourselves, and do not behave arrogantly and rudely when dealing with others.
An arrogant person will often ignore the feelings of those around him because he is too arrogant, and will ignore or even hurt the people around him. Arrogant people often can't withstand setbacks, just think, how can such a man strengthen himself?
There is such a story:
There was a monk who was very attentive at first, but after a year he thought he had learned almost everything, and he was very impatient and wanted to go down the mountain to travel around.
On this day, the Zen master chatted with him, and the Zen master asked, "Do you think you have learned enough, what is enough?" ”
"Enough is full, it can't fit." The monk answered seriously.
The Zen master found a wooden basin, filled it with pebbles, and said to the monk, "Is this pot full of stones?" ”
"Full." The monk answered.
The Zen master grabbed several handfuls of sand and threw them into the basin, and the sand leaked down. "Full!" The monk replied confidently.
The Zen master grabbed a handful of lime and sprinkled it into the basin, and the lime was gone. I poured a glass of water into the basin and it was gone.
"Is it full?" The Zen master asked again. The monk did not speak, but knelt down in front of the Zen master and said, "Teacher, the disciple understands!" ”
As the old saying goes: "Humble benefits, full of losses." "A humble person will not feel that he is perfect, no matter what position he is in, there is a place worth learning and improving, no one in this world can really say that he is enough, never enough, never perfect is our norm."
It is ridiculous and pathetic to be blindly proud of a little achievement. Such an attitude will only make one regress, and the humble person can become truly strong.
If one wants to achieve something, one must be able to bend down and bow one's head. Only by lowering your head did you know that your feet were not stable enough. On the road of life, how wide your heart is, how wide the road is, only by knowing humility, the road can go farther and farther.
As the saying goes: "Modest people go to success, and proud people are poor." "Life has an end, but learning the sea has no end, no matter how knowledgeable a person is, he has only mastered a drop in the ocean." Only by maintaining a humble heart and treating the world with a humble attitude can we become truly strong in a competitive world.
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The humble man, on the contrary, becomes truly strong
The Buddhist master and educator Master Sheng Yan once said, "There is no need to be a human being always competitive. Everything has earned enough face and taken the limelight, and in the end it will only make itself end up in a tragic end. Everything is not disputed, know how to be patient and humble, but will make life more vibrant. ”
This is the truth of indisputable competition, and the secret of happiness in life lies in this. People who know how to tolerate humility can not only avoid unnecessary harm to themselves, but also avoid hurting others, have more time to think about their own shortcomings, and there will be more peace and peace in life.
Life is a process of constantly bowing your head. In life, we all need to be humble, and we all need to learn to be humble. Eighteen bends in the mountain road, eighteen plates on the waterway, the road of life must also be full of thorns and bumps, which determines that we must not only have the determination to challenge difficulties in the journey of life, but also have a humble mind.
A person full of wisdom in life, the more knowledgeable, talented and capable, the more humble he will be, the deeper his understanding of things, because in his view, he still has many deficiencies, there is nothing worth showing off now, it is better to spend time to achieve himself.
These humble people, not only do not have an aggressive momentum, do not casually look down on people's sense of superiority, but always be able to think from the perspective of others, starting from their own shortcomings, in many ways, have been stronger than too many people.
Humility is one of the most precious qualities in all social interactions that win the respect and praise of others.
The German lyric poet and essayist Heine once said: "Introspection is a mirror that can clearly reflect our mistakes and give us the opportunity to correct them." ”
Spend more time thinking about problems and reflecting on yourself, and treat things with humility, you will find yourself making progress bit by bit, and at this moment, the charm of men is fully revealed, and becoming a real strong person is just around the corner.
In short, a man must have a strong ability of his own, but also always maintain a humble mentality, whether it is sunshine or wind and rain ahead, do not be afraid. Because it is precisely with these experiences that you can continue to move forward and make continuous progress.
As the saying goes, "The earth is low into the sea, and the people are low into kings." "To be truly strong, you all start with humility, without exception. (Author: Fei Lun Jun)