Chinese culture is broad and profound, has a long history, and is all-encompassing, one of the branches is the colloquialism, the colloquial saying is easy to understand, but the concise and concise words are passed down from generation to generation by word of mouth. The saying comes from life, acts on life, and the fields it involves are extremely extensive, and it can be said that food, clothing, shelter, and transportation are all-encompassing and all-encompassing.
Some of these sayings are related to the truth of how to behave in the world, such as the sentence to be said today, "There are four things in the family, and the life is busy in vain". Do you have any at home? If there is one, it will be changed, and if there is none, it will be encouraged.
First, the family style is not good
Some people say that home is a harbor of people's happiness, throughout the ages, people have attached great importance to family building, the ancients put forward the concept of "qi family governance of the country and the world", the ancients also left a lot of family mottos about family style, such as "the word heirloom farming and reading the word Xingjia two words are diligent and thrifty", "the family rises out of filial piety, the family loses out of the demon" and so on.
Regarding the family style, there is another common saying, which is most appropriately described, "the front door is not lit, the backyard is not lit", the lamp in front of the ancients is called "the wind lamp of death", one side of the lamp is written with the surname, and the other side is written with the official position and merit of the ancestors. The lamp at the front door refers to the predecessor, the backyard refers to the descendants, and the hall is a place for hospitality, referring to the evaluation of outsiders.
The predecessors did not establish a good family style, and the posterity fell into darkness, and the outside world will also point fingers. The predecessors have established a good family style, representing the descendants of the backyard, the light will shine in the lobby, and the outside world will also praise it.
Family style is the cornerstone of everything, good family style construction, need several generations of scrupulous observance and efforts, the ancients left a lot of family training books, which is the specimen of the construction of a good family style, worth learning for future generations.
Second, there are bad habits in the family
There is also a saying, called "there are four kinds of home, not rich and prosperous", these four good qualities, refers to thrift, filial piety, tolerance, hard work, these are good habits, if the younger generations in the family, develop bad habits, such as good and bad work, arrogance and lasciviousness, good wine and lust, etc., even if the ancestors do well, they will also lose these bad habits.
Third, the husband and wife are not harmonious
In the vast sea of people, they can marry each other, and the ancients believed that it was a great fate, so they said: "A hundred years of cultivation to cross the same boat, a thousand years of cultivation to sleep together", "a night husband and wife for a hundred days" and so on.
Between husband and wife, the formation of a family, whether the husband and wife are harmonious or not, has a great impact on the children, daughters and grandchildren. If the husband and wife quarrel all day long, it will more or less cause childhood shadows to young children.
As the saying goes, the family and everything are prosperous, the husband and wife are harmonious, the family is harmonious, and the family can prosper.
Fourth, brothers turn against each other
Originally the same root and birth of He is too anxious, between brothers, blood is thicker than water, between brothers in the family, only unity and harmony, outsiders do not dare to bully, if the brothers do not fit together, the disaster xiao wall, not only to the parents are not filial piety, but also will fall into the laughing stock of outsiders.
Brothers and sisters should take care of each other and supervise each other, rather than being jealous and resentful, and should not become as the saying goes, "Brothers look for poverty, and relatives hope for wealth."
As the saying goes, "Father and son soldiers, fight tigers and brothers", "Brothers are in the same heart, their profits are broken", brothers are harmonious, only then can they unite the strength of the family, can they help each other succeed, and can they overcome difficulties and hardships.
The above are the four things in "there are four things in the family, and the life is busy in vain", namely: the family style is not good, the family has bad habits, the husband and wife are not harmonious, and the brothers are opposed. Do you think it makes sense? Comments are welcome.