Anne Hathaway may not have imagined that the video of her 2017 speech at the United Nations would be on fire again in 2022.
At that time, Sister An was at the United Nations, domineeringly calling for paid maternity leave for men, and the applause at the scene roared.
Recently, this speech was once again sent to the hot search by netizens, and said: It is recommended to promote it globally.
Sister An sharply pointed out that women are always taken for granted to take care of the family, and men are responsible for supporting the family outside.
But is such an inherent concept still suitable for today's rapidly developing society?
It's really worth a good nagging.
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Sister An proposed to give men paid maternity leave, first giving a super powerful reason:
Men should bring children, otherwise they always think that it is very simple to take a baby.
Indeed, for many people who have not experienced it, taking a baby is nothing more than the impression of making milk powder and changing diapers.
However, only those who have brought a baby know, because they have to feed regularly, and even sleeping all night is a luxury. In addition, it is necessary to maintain a tight standby state at all times, which makes people anxious.
Occasionally if you want to vent, you may only get "temperament" and "who doesn't come this way?" "The indifference is perfunctory and thankless.
It is precisely because everyone has a misunderstanding of the baby, coupled with the tradition of "male lord outside the female lead", many men think that such a "trivial" thing is not worth their own shots, so they are handed over to women to do well.
Recently, Fudan professor Liang Yong'an, who has been very popular, has explained the logic behind this idea, that is, women are undervalued.
Wang Quexin, who had directly called his wife a "roommate", used this logic well in his statement a few days ago.
We are not easy to judge. It is only when our thoughts begin to collide with the inherent concept of "male outside the female protagonist", many problems surface.
If Dad takes the baby, will his personal value be overwhelmed?
Let's take a look at the answer sheet of my brother in the Greater Bay Area. The brothers told us that when men convey their father's love, they will also gain a full sense of accomplishment!
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His brother Chen Xiaochun used to be without a baby.
Until he participated in "Where Daddy Goes", he contributed a really fragrant adventure with a baby.
At first, Brother Chun's whole person was filled with the irritability and impatience of a novice. Dressing Jasper is a sloppy set, and when it comes to putting on shoes, it is also a suffocating command tone.
At that time, Chen Xiaochun and Jasper's "mutual pity" clip even blew up the Internet.
Brother Chun hated that Jasper was too noisy to play with the megaphone, so he put on a stinky face along the way and couldn't contain his irritable emotions. Unexpectedly, in the face of his father's nameless anger, jasper, who was a little devil, actually used the megaphone to "reply" without humility: Can you not be angry?
Later, in the interview, Chen Xiaochun also sighed that the child can also be his own teacher, and the experience of getting along with the child can be so precious.
From sullenness and cold violence to the natural outpouring of affection... The father-son relationship slowly changes in such a bit of getting along.
During Ouyang Jing's participation in "Brother With Thorns and Thorns", he was found by sharp-eyed netizens watching the live broadcast of UGC in the early morning. Rapper teaches children to read, and it's still cool.
Even if you are eliminated, you are still worried about the size of your home. That's probably what the Iron Man said.
Lee Seung-hyun is even more entertaining with a baby ceiling.
Asked why he chose to take his baby at home, Lee Seung-hyun's answers were almost all based on his own personality and the needs of his family. What "male and female protagonists" and "parenting discrimination" are not established in his place.
Taking the baby did not bury Lee Seung-hyun's value in the slightest.
He can both spread the patience of a big man to finding a worn-out toy for his daughter at the airport;
Can also meet the peak of the career, a song "Flying in the Sky" makes the whole network envy "Qi Wei's happiness".
Will Dad with baby achieve personal value conflicts with him? From the example above, it is clearly not.
Although there is also the helplessness of being helpless, in the process of accompanying children, fathers can more appropriately convey their hearts and express their love, which is also the growth of adults again.
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A happy family requires two people to create, which not only requires mutual giving, but also empathy.
Lee Seung-hyun frankly said that the "master husband" life at the beginning was difficult, he would stand in the perspective of his mother-in-law and feel sorry for Qi Wei, and his heart was also exerted too much unnecessary pressure, and he once had a tendency to be depressed.
Fortunately, Qi Wei understood. Returning home after work, exhaustion can still provide emotional value to her husband.
Qi Wei Lee Seung-hyun and his wife are not alone.
Some time ago, Guo Jingjing flew to Tokyo as an Olympic referee, and Huo Qigang took the baby as a wind and fire.
There are many children in the family, but regardless of the generational role, it is much easier to carry one person.
In an interview, Ang Lee mentioned that when her eldest daughter was in elementary school, she was depressed for a while, and she refused to call herself without completing her homework.
At that time, he was working outside, but the couple attached great importance to this, and jointly came up with a solution, agreeing that no matter how busy they were in the future, they would also reserve time for their families.
This seems to be not enough for outsiders, but taking off the role of a famous director, Ang Lee, as a father, is also trying his best to run his own small family.
Is there really a family where they do their jobs and once and for all? Ang Lee felt no.
Even in the closest family, respect and love need to accumulate over time; even as a father, you need to fulfill your father's duties before you dare to talk about respect.
When you get the respect of your family, it becomes a kind of happiness; sharing the pressure of the other half with a baby becomes a kind of pride. We will find that there are many healthy family models...
Little IN hopes that everyone who pays for the family is not easily defined by the world; everyone's small home has its own unique happiness.
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