When Ying Cai'er once participated in the show, she said that Jasper's grandfather spoiled him, but he was never used to Jasper. Zhu Dan listened to her sharing and couldn't help but ask her:
"Do you have a lot of rules for Jasper in your life?"
Ying Cai'er replied with a serious face:
"It's not a rule, it's basic etiquette! Do you know how many parents are rejected outside? ”
Then, Ying Cai'er explained: For example, a table of dishes, some parents directly turn to the child's side first, let the child eat first.
She said that Jasper's grandfather sometimes did the same, and when he saw the dish on the table, he would say: Come, Jasper, you eat first, you eat first.
Whenever this happened, Ying Cai'er would keep saying:
No, no, no, we can wait. Wait, wait.
When Jasper was a little shaken, Ying Caier would firmly pat Jasper's hand and let him continue to wait for everyone else to come to the table, never letting Jasper move the chopsticks first.
After listening to Ying Cai'er's sharing, I developed an inexplicable liking for her.
Table manners, a very important part of children, are often the easiest part to overlook in many families.
A master of etiquette once said:
"People who are good at observation can know what your parents' life background is and what your educational background is with just one meal."
From the details at the dinner table, we can see what kind of family a child lives in and what kind of family education he receives. Moreover, what is displayed at the dinner table is also the most authentic side of a person.
Especially during some festivals, it is inevitable that friends and family will get together. If we do not pay attention to the cultivation of children's table manners from an early age, then the child is likely to leave others with the impression of "no quality", which will affect the child's normal interpersonal communication.
Parents must have some requirements for their children's table manners, do not feel that this is a small matter, it does not matter, it is not important.
On Chinese New Year's Eve day, we had dinner with the child's colleagues and his father's colleagues. The meal was on the table, and all of us were waiting for the host to come and greet us to sit down and have a meal.
But a little friend went to the table to take a few strawberries to eat, and when he ate the big strawberries on one table, he went to the other table to pick the larger strawberries to eat.
At this time, several people had been staring at this little friend. My feelings at the time were:
This kid is also too casual.
What surprised me even more was that the parents of this child did not come to correct his behavior. If at this time, the parents of the children can correct his behavior in time, so that the children will definitely have a deeper impression of "table manners".
I have read this sentence online before:
Smart parents must know how to put some effort into table manners in the process of raising children, at least not to let others see jokes.
So in terms of cultivating children's table manners, where can we start?
1, can not waste food
We often chant: who knows the plate of Chinese food, the grains are hard.
When Ying Cai'er participated in the show "New Life Diary" before, she showed her very "tiger mother" side. At that time, when Jasper was eating, the table was full of rice grains, and Ying Cai'er immediately criticized Jasper very severely.
As long as the child understands things and can understand our speech, we can start to educate the child, and when eating, try to achieve "how much to eat", do not waste food.
2. Maintain a comfortable eating appearance
Some people always pick and choose their favorite dishes when they pick vegetables. First of all, this is very unhygienic, because the chopsticks we have used, and the constant pulling on the plate, will definitely make the whole dish stain our saliva.
Secondly, this way of picking and choosing on the plate can really make people feel very impolite. (Believe it's time you're eating, you can record a video and take a closer look at the pick-and-choose action on the plate.) ）
When children can eat with adults, we must tell children to be "fast and accurate" when picking vegetables. Even if there are some dishes on the plate that you don't like, as long as you clip them to your chopsticks, don't shake them on the plate anymore.
3, can not eat "alone"
In fact, the fact that children eat "alone" is often caused by the negligence of adults. For example, my child's grandmother once made a pumpkin cake that was particularly delicious, and the child also liked to eat it very much.
The child's grandmother saw that he liked to eat so much, so she directly put a plate of pumpkin pie in front of the child. When the rest of us wanted to eat, the child said, "No, no, no, this is mine." ”
If the child is often subjected to such "special treatment" at home, over time, the child will become accustomed to it, and he will feel that there is nothing wrong with what he likes to eat and be "exclusively" by himself.
We often say:
Good habits are hard to form, and bad habits can't be changed.
When we usually eat at home, even if we encounter foods that children like to eat, we can't let children develop the habit of eating "alone". Otherwise, the child's interpersonal communication path outside in the future will often not be smooth.
If there are several children at a table, and one of the children has eaten all the delicious food, the other children who want to eat will definitely be unhappy, and there will be a little bit of hate for this child who eats "alone".
If the child goes out to eat, it is also natural to eat "alone" as at home. Although the people at the same table will not say anything in their mouths, they will definitely label their children as "selfish" in their hearts.
4. Parents lead by example
The famous educator Yin Jianli once said:
"Parents are the best teachers for children, the dinner table is the best classroom, and the family is the best school."
Therefore, in the usual meal process, parents should also set a good example.
The process of raising children is also the process of parents perfecting themselves. I hope that all parents can grow up with their children and be their children's mentors and friends.
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