Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In the relationship, the mutual confrontation between men and women is always hostile! This is probably because each other completely provokes emotional and rational disputes when dealing with feelings!
When you are in love, you and I are nong, Qingqing me and me, this is a good gathering!
It's just that all the good gatherings never exist and the good ones are scattered! It is already extremely rare for someone who can pretend to be a breeze and bless each other's happiness and then seem to turn around freely!
Those red faces that were happy at first sight did not escape the red eyes of goodbye! Whether it was caused by crying and tears for a long time, or whether the enemy saw each other, I don't know!
Men look at women deeply and do not understand, and women look at men deeply elusive state, is the same!
In particular, after men and women have an intimate relationship, the seemingly deepening feelings between each other are actually the beginning of a delicate distance.
Any kind of relationship needs to have its fixed health distance, and once they cross the healthy distance between each other and use perception to get too close, it will be a disaster for the relationship.
Even after an intimate relationship between a man and a woman, they will love and resent the person in front of them because of the strengthening of the concept.
When one's expectations of another are set too high, he will definitely stand in his own position and rightfully think: I regard you as so important, you must and should respond to me according to my expectations.
In this way, the contradictions between each other naturally opened the curtain.
Moreover, two people in an intimate relationship will push each other into a dead corner because of the subjective ritual of raising expectations. Immediately after, the days when contradictions were frequent or cold wars or held their breath in their hearts became commonplace.
It's just that in the face of emotional attitudes and responsibility for intimate relationships, the actual hearts of men and women are almost impossible to achieve true synchronization.
When the wind and snow are in the moon, the two people who seem to be very right will gradually "separate their hearts" in the details of life. So much so that the deep love of one party for the other is the main reason for the disconnection.
It's just that after having an intimate relationship, the "purpose" of the active disconnect between the man and the woman is different. So, what is the difference between the disconnect between men and women? After reading it, you will understand:
3 kinds of psychology of women taking the initiative to disconnect:
Pretending to be a form, intended to be valued and cared for
Women are more or less willing to solve emotional problems in a childlike way.
It's just that such a child's way, many times will not be bought by men! Even, think that women are "too much".
However, for women, they often behave so "willfully" in front of their beloved. Because I have too much uncertainty about the person in front of me, I want to use the disconnection to find an accurate answer for myself.
In the hearts of most women, there will be a consensus: if men love themselves, they will panic and look for themselves!
But in fact, this way is not very effective! Because, women are not necessarily more angry than men!
Even, some men who know that women are disconnected and immediately think that women are playing hide-and-seek with themselves for the purpose of seeking care, and therefore "panic" to find women, are not necessarily people who really care about women.
A man who truly loves you will not give you the feeling of gain and loss, nor will he give you the opportunity to break off the connection.
So, if it's not necessary, don't block yourself with a broken connection – if you still love him!
A momentary anger, I want to use the form of disconnection to make myself quiet
When two people are together, no one is unaware of the need for "effective communication", but not necessarily all people can communicate effectively.
In intimate relationships, we often see some people spitting out their intimate relationship partners like this:
He and I couldn't communicate at all!
In fact, there are no people who can't communicate, only people who are not good at mastering communication methods!
When two people are together, the most feared thing is to stick to themselves and not be willing to make half a change! When the other half is not willing to change, what we should do is not to force the other party to change, but to first think about how to change ourselves!
Smart people will not use coercive means to change the other half, but use the wisest mind to choose a way that is most suitable for the development of the relationship between the two people, and guide the subjective consciousness of the other half to make changes!
However, due to emotional reasons, women are mostly a strategist when they are emotionally stable, and when emotions come, their IQ is zero! As a result, the form of forcing men to "obey" in the form of broken links is mostly hurting others and hurting themselves!
A momentary angry disconnection, occasionally use once in a while, if it is two or three, I am afraid that it is a childish trick in the eyes of men, and I do not think it is taken for granted!
The same problem has been communicated many times without results, and the relationship should be broken to think about whether the relationship should continue
In intimate relationships, we often find that some men are always accustomed to putting the problem of the moment at an end. Then, because the problem is not well solved, women begin to "turn over the small intestine" that makes men more bored.
Men think that the past things will turn over, but the uncomfortable psychology has always existed in women's hearts, so either there is something to turn over the small intestine, or the old problem is stacked with new problems...
In short, the contradiction between two people is getting bigger and bigger like a snowball, and in the end, the woman is sad and desperate, and the man feels that the woman is crazy and incomprehensible.
So, the two of them started the Cold War! At first, there may be interaction between each other when there is something to communicate, and later, the woman begins to completely disconnect!
Break the connection, is it to think about whether this relationship will continue or not? Because, I am still a little unaccustomed, unwilling, and still in love... Anyway, even I can't tell what kind of feeling it is, in short, I have put myself into a stalemate, I don't know whether to move forward or backward.
In fact, at this time, men need to reflect on themselves, what is the problem that leads to frequent contradictions?
If you still love, you may wish to take the initiative as a man to break the deadlock and spread out all the problems to talk.
Women, many times the emotions are vented, the heart is comfortable, and everything is really over!
3 of the three psychologies of men actively disconnecting:
Feel like the relationship is too tired
Men look rough and leafy, but in fact they are also delicate in their feelings. It's just that they neglect to express themselves, so they can't directly and accurately convey their true affection and care to the hearts of emotional women.
Therefore, when a woman often "cries" herself, she will feel that she is really tired and wronged!
Men will feel: I have done my best, you are still not satisfied, what do you still want me?
When a woman kidnaps a man with affection and expresses her dissatisfaction with tears, the man's brain becomes a pot of porridge, and there is no way to face the relationship rationally.
So much so that they just want to give themselves a quiet time with the disconnection. During this time, the man does not think about whether the intimate relationship will continue or end, he just wants to jump out of the intimate relationship and be himself once!
Therefore, at this time, if the woman still has to ask the man whether it is going to end, maybe which string the man finally tightened will be broken, and then he will definitely say: end it.
In fact, men don't want to end it until women are pressed to ask this question.
Eating women cares about themselves and forcing women to be "obedient"
Every man chooses the other half to add joy and ease to his life. When women restrain themselves too much or be too humble, men feel deeply uncomfortable.
Even before the disconnection, he showed a look of extreme impatience. Then, use the broken connection to force women to "obey" in all aspects of themselves. The implication is: If you "disobey," I will withdraw from your world!
Why do men become so "macho"? Because, he ate the woman's affection and care for himself, and even more condescendingly interpreted the "domineering" style to the extreme.
Men do this simply because their feelings for women are not deep enough. Therefore, women will be forced to get along with themselves in the form of their own "regulations".
In the world, there is no complete macho person, only whether he loves the woman in front of him deeply enough! Love deeply enough, he will understand what empathy is and heartache and thoughtfulness!
Men who force women to be "sensible" and "obedient" may be with women for a long time, but they must exchange women's tears for the harmony of intimate relationships.
It's just about ending
When a man greets you all the time, he suddenly disappears from your world. Don't doubt it, you're his spare tire.
There are many things in this world that are doomed to a happy ending, such as the matter of the spare tire, and it is really difficult to succeed!
Because, even if the person he loves deeply at the moment doesn't walk with him, he will fall in love with him again; when the other person is there, he will "kick" you out of his life.
There are many women who probably don't know why men are so tender to themselves, why they suddenly break off contact with themselves, and they will also know through the mouths of others that men have become intimate with others of the opposite sex.
In fact, men have not used themselves as spare tires, the details are the best proof! When he was with you, did he have any clues about his dealings with other members of the opposite sex? Does he have too much privacy that you can't touch?
In addition, even if the man does not have a spare tire, the sudden disconnection is enough to show that he just wants to end! I just want to use this disconnection method to let women realize the results of separation!
Directly breaking the link is better than saying separation in person, which will reduce a lot of "trouble" for yourself, at least you don't have to look at the woman's tearful entanglement and make yourself upset.
The occurrence of intimate relationships may not be taken seriously by some people, but for the vast majority of people, it is a recognition of the rest of their lives.
Once an intimate relationship occurs, take responsibility for each other as much as possible, and don't hurt yourself with a broken connection!
In particular, the person who has already had an intimate relationship and wants to let go of the relationship at will, if not very desperate, must be a person with a lack of responsibility.
It's just a pity that the current marriage and love are open, intimate relationships are not shy, I don't know how many people rejoice and how many people are sad!
If you can, be cautious about intimacy until you are sure of the rest of your life!
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