Everyone longs for love and thinks that loving each other is a wonderful thing. In fact, we often overlook the other side of the moon. Psychoanalyst Freud said: "There is no one more vulnerable to injury than when in love." ”
I often hear people say that they don't like Lin Daiyu, speak harshly and meanly, offend people everywhere, sulk at every turn, and go back to the house and cry. In fact, Lin Daiyu's personality is far from being so shallow. Columnist Yan Hong's analysis of Lin Daiyu is that "Lin Daiyu is so attentive and sharp, but it is because she did not get the words she wanted from Jia Baoyu." At that time, although Jia Baoyu was also gentle and considerate to her, she was always in the restless period of youth, just as Lin Daiyu said, 'when she saw her sister, she forgot her sister'."
Dai Yu loves a person who is not completely sure, like tiptoeing through a puddle in the dark night, you don't know which step will be in the air. And when Lin Daiyu personally heard Jia Baoyu as a confidant, determined that she was the weak water that Jia Baoyu was willing to pick up, she suddenly became peaceful and soft, like a cocoon into a butterfly, and the Lin Daiyu you saw never clashed with anyone again. Even for her "love enemy" Xue Baochao, she was willing to say the most intimate words. Because she has confidence in Jia Baoyu's love, strong because of self-confidence, and strong and masterful. If you understand Lin Daiyu, you will understand all the poor people who are moody in love.
As far as "Dream of the Red Chamber" is concerned, Lin Daiyu's personality is originally sentimental, and she has lost her mother, stayed away from her father, and sent people to the fence. Therefore, I feel that "Jia Fu has three hundred and sixty days a year, and the wind and sword are strictly forced." And Xue Baochao's situation is much better than hers, at least her mother is there, she can be spoiled; although her brother is not a tool, he can also be regarded as the reliance of his brothers and sisters.
Therefore, even Jia Baoyu's subtlest expressions, casual words, and actions could pull Lin Daiyu's trigger and make her cry for a while. So, how did Lin Daiyu complete her growth and transformation? It is because Jia Baoyu satisfies her "opposing feelings".
For Daiyu, although the marriage still has suspense, she cares more about Baoyu's heart. When she got it, she treated people more generously, and the tears became less and less. In this sense, love is healing.