Today's love is not so pure, most of them are the result of thinking about it for a long time and weighing the pros and cons. We do not believe in love more and more, and it is more and more difficult to convince ourselves to pay the truth, and the phrase "whoever is serious first, who loses" always echoes in our minds.
We fear that love will eat us back, but we also look forward to the arrival of love, as if the struggle between angels and demons, and finally the two sides compromise, attaching substances to the cloak of love to reduce the risk of giving our hearts and wrong people.
But all this is only on the surface, but you may meet a rich scumbag. Whether he truly loves you or just wants to get your body is hidden in the minutiae of how he treats you on a daily basis. Love is dedication, giving and respect, true love is selfless. In love, language can deceive people, but the subconscious mind cannot deceive people. A man, is not really in love with you, his subconscious in these 6 details will tell you!
1) Men who love you are not in a hurry to get you because they are afraid of losing you
Although love is difficult to control its impulses, it will still restrain itself. Because true love will not hurt the person you love because of your own momentary lust, it will consult with you and ask for your opinion.
Enjoying a moment of pleasure is not enough to lose you more painfully. Some people are always paranoid about conquering her and getting everything from her. In fact, love is not hegemony, try to get her, but hurt her heart, what will be the final result? It could be loss, and are you willing to take that risk?
If a man who doesn't want to do that, must be truly in love with you, he doesn't want to take any risk of losing you, even if it's only a 1% chance
2, in front of acquaintances and family, will he let go of your hand
Some people, on the surface, say it very well, often hang love in their mouths and coax you into a stunned, but you must not really be confused by this sugar-coated shell, believe it.
In fact, you have entered his "trap". These "giants in language, dwarfs in action", you ask him to send a circle of friends to try, or flip through his mobile phone to see what his reaction is. Truth also needs to be tested by practice, and true love is not.
In front of acquaintances or family members, unconsciously letting go of your hand, it means that he is not ready, then talk about true love.
3, within the scope of ability, to meet your small requirements
The vast majority of people are desperately trying to make money, but they still can't make much money.
When a person is willing to eat a month's worth of instant noodles in order to meet your small requirements, such a person naturally loves you, after all, money is not easy to come by, and he is so generous to you.
In the case of their own conditions are not good, the man who is still willing to spend money for you, is not true love, what is it? Men are rational animals, and you are not related to you, why do you want to spend money on you, not to mention that you are still "not enough to eat, wear and warm", in the end it is only because you like, he is willing.
4, take care of you, no matter what you look like, you will not be abandoned
"People rely on clothing, beauty depends on beautiful makeup", men may be extra attentive to you because of your beauty, but women can not always maintain a beautiful makeup, but if a man sees your plain face, will it be the same as ever?
Especially when you are sick and very haggard, after all, illness is the common sentiment of people, but if you look very sloppy, a handful of snot and a handful of tears, you are not abandoned, has been taking care of you, accompanying you, indicating that he is a person worthy of trust, not a person who sees injustice, and sees the truth in suffering.
5. Willing to take you to meet his friends and family
Love is a matter of two people, and that's right. It's just that only you know and I know, but there is no third person to know, living and escaping is an underground affair, hiding in the dark and not seeing the light. And can such love stand the test?
True love is the need to live in the sun, be blessed by family and friends, and publicize the love, will be long-lasting, just like committing to each other, to give yourself a shackle. A man who truly loves you would like to take you to meet his family and friends sooner rather than hide you in the dark all the time, deeply afraid that you will be exposed.
6, for you to quit some bad habits
"The nature of the country is easy to change and difficult to move", this truth knows that habits are not formed in a day or two, they must have gone through a long process to form, and if you want to change, you must also go through a long and painful process to reverse.
When you ask him to change some bad habits for you, or habits that you think need to be changed, and he is willing to make an effort to make changes, it shows that he really loves you because he wants to live as you like. And he is not willing to change, and there is nothing wrong with it, but he does not love you as much as you think.
When faced with feelings, women learn to protect themselves and need to be rational. Don't let others just take the kidney, but you are still stupid to go to the heart, lose all your feelings, don't say, but also take your own body.
I remember that in "Zhiming and Chunjiao", Zhiming said to Chunjiao: "Some things don't need to be done in one night, and we are not in a hurry." "Therefore, if a man really loves you, he will not rush to get you, but give you love from the details."
Of course, as a woman, you must also have self-awareness, for a man who only wants to get you, there is no need to waste his time and energy, let alone let yourself be sad and cry for no reason, leaving him is the right choice.
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