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Mom's marriage was not chosen by herself, and few people in their time chose marriage on their own, most of them followed the orders of their parents, and more were acceptance than choice.
So my mother married my father at the age of eighteen through the introduction of a matchmaker, and from then on began her own life of misfortune.
At the beginning, dad behaved very well, did not smoke or drink, as if it was a three-good man, after getting married, everything changed after they got married, the father who did not have any requirements before, it turned out to be a mom treasure man, and the grandma was simply obedient to the point of obedience, and the grandma said that the mother was not good, and the father might rush over and beat the mother.
My mother said that she was a little difficult to give birth when she was pregnant and gave birth to me, and she almost took her own life at that time, and when my grandmother came to see my mother, she said to my grandmother, you put my daughter better, it is simply a life for a life to give birth to a child, why don't you even take the hospital with you?
As a result, grandma directly said: Which woman is not a child who has exchanged her life for her life, so difficult that your daughter is a human, we all come this way, is there any problem? Besides, what face to ask for having a daughter.
Grandma was stunned and speechless.
Later, my mother gave birth to two children in succession, both daughters, grandma wanted to give them all away, let my mother must have a son, the family planning in those years is very strict, our family belongs to supernatural, two sisters are often forced to hide in grandma's house, once just came back Grandma found someone to say to take her sister away,
The result was that my mother found out. I didn't let my mother live or dead, and then my grandmother taught my father to beat my mother, saying bad things about my mother, and my father listened to my grandmother's words, and my mother didn't know how many times she had been beaten in those years, half of which was because we were beaten by my father.
Mom always told us that at that time, it was because she thought that a few of us were too young, and she couldn't bear it, otherwise she would have left her father earlier.
I really don't know how many times my mother was beaten in those years, although I don't remember it yet, but there are still a few times when I am very impressed, my mother wants to leave, my father will not let me go, and my mother has spent her life like this, sacrificing her life for her children.
Later, when we grew up, to the age of getting married and having children, she often said to us: After getting married, getting married, you must polish your eyes, you guys, what is free love now, our opinions you will not care at all, just what love ah love, just care about what I like, but if you get married, you will really suffer losses in the future, so you must polish your eyes, do not look for the kind of grumpy and unserious people, to find good for you, Don't lose your temper with you without moving, beat your abusive man, Mommy Boy, you know?
I listened to the tears in the eye sockets, did not dare to fall, I know that my mother said that she is using her own personal experience to educate us, she hopes that we can find someone who loves herself, live our own life, do not live like her, so humble life.
In fact, my mother is very capable, put in the present, her interpersonal skills are particularly strong, she has the ability to sew clothes, often design clothes for us, and then tailor them, when we were young, the clothes we wore were made by my mother herself, so I think if my mother did not marry her father and delayed herself, she must be a very powerful person now, with her own career, living by her own skills.
Mother often told us so, until now I am married, although not how rich and expensive, but fortunately is the mother who has checked the people, feel reliable to marry him, now we are not bad, not much romance, but there are some small warm daily life, he often remembers what I love to eat, sometimes after work will bring me, not bad, he is gentle with me, the days are also OK.
Now that we have our own baby, I will only give her more and better love, I hope that she is a girl who does not lack love, and grows into a confident and radiant girl, which may be the life of parenting!