Recently, Tong Liya participated in the Wendai conference as a representative of the Tv Association.
Although Tong Liya in the group photo is a lot thinner, her skin is white and transparent, her smile reveals self-confidence, and her dignified and elegant temperament makes her stand with 24-year-old Liu Haoran, and she can't see the age difference at all.
Tong Liya, who is proud of the spring breeze, is also thriving.
From acting to hosting, she was reborn with a new look all over her body, and all of these changes occurred after her divorce.
Tong Liya, who is now single again, is more and more radiant, and she is sentenced to two people who have been deeply involved in marriage.
Tong Liya's change after the end of her marriage with Chen Sicheng is not just appearance, her counterattack is even more "fierce" than imagined, and more determined.
Referring to Tong Liya's marriage with Chen Sicheng, everyone can think of only her putting herself too low.
Looking back at Tong Liya's previous growth process, whether it is life or marriage, the "humble" posture has always occupied her world.
From childhood away from her parents, did not get much love from her family, has been in a neglected situation, coupled with the traditional or even old-fashioned education, Tong Liya has been particularly sensible since childhood.
She once wrote about such a thing on the social platform: Uncle Said this is the cemetery of our family, and every son and daughter-in-law have reserved a place, but there is no mine, because I will belong to someone else's family in the future, this is the rule!
Under the framework of this "rule", Tong Liya became sensitive, and the psychology of inferiority was unconsciously ingrained in her heart.
Even if she is beautiful, tall and versatile, she still puts herself very low, not to mention that in the face of the pursuit of Chen Sicheng, the winner in life, her first reaction is actually: not worthy of him.
Indeed, at that time, Chen Sicheng was very much like "someone else's child", and when he starred in his film debut in his junior year, he won the Best Actor nomination of the Hundred Flowers Award and the Best Newcomer of the Huabiao Award.
In 2006, he was well known for "Soldier Assault", and then participated in Lou Ye's film, which was nominated for the Best Actor Award at the 62nd Cannes Film Festival, and made "Beijing Love Story" at the age of 34.
In the face of such Chen Sicheng, Tong Liya's inferiority factor broke out, even after the two cooperated in "Beijing Love Story", it was Chen Sicheng who took the initiative to pursue, but Tong Liya's hesitation was obvious.
She once said: "I have more concerns, in fact, I don't accept the boyfriend in the circle, and he is still so good, I feel less secure, I hope to find a very ordinary person, living a very ordinary life is very good." 」 ”
Although the two people later came together, Chen Sicheng almost poured out his family property and held a dream wedding for Tong Liya in Tahiti that everyone envied.
It can be recalled that from the announcement of the relationship between the two to the happy marriage, Tong Liya's idea of "not worthy of him" has not changed, and she has always been the aggrieved and humble side, so there will be many "famous scenes" that will happen in the future.
In the past picture of the husband and wife in the same frame, Tong Liya has always shown a state of only promise, and she always has an unconfident look next to Chen Sicheng.
I think that when the two were on the stage of "Happy Base Camp", Tong Liya generously admitted her love affair and took the initiative to embrace the man, but at that time, Chen Sicheng's performance was also quite intriguing.
Raised eyebrows, indifferent, helpless, hands crossed in a gesture of not caring about yourself, as if to indicate "I am just cooperating with your performance."
However, similar clips are almost all over Tong Liya's entire marriage stage, and when asked "what to do when encountering a love enemy", her reaction is to "reflect" on herself, and "showing yourself well" is the right choice.
Obviously evenly matched, she always put herself in a inferior position.
As Chen Sicheng's fame grows, Tong Liya's admiration for him is also getting deeper and deeper, and the sense of inferiority is constantly emerging around. Whenever two people quarrel, the apologetic and coaxing person is Tong Liya as a wife.
In a past interview, when it comes to the "cross-boundary" problem in marriage, Chen Sicheng said with a reasonable face: "Anyone will." ”
Tong Liya, who was sitting on the side, replied faintly as if she was accustomed to it: "Just go home."
Such an answer simply made many netizens explode.
Tong Liya's humility does not exist only in various speeches.
When she participated in the variety show "Real Man 2", the instructor gave everyone a minute of precious call time, and Tong Liya did not hesitate to call this minute to Chen Sicheng.
Who knew that after the phone was connected, Chen Sicheng's cold sentence "In the filming, hung up", leaving Tong Liya alone in embarrassment in front of the camera to smile bitterly.
In the marriage of two people, it seems that Tong Liya has always been using a low posture to compromise and maintain. Marrying Chen Sicheng, she even felt that this was a gift from Heaven, so she would give such a good person to herself.
In fact, not only herself, but even her father is always reminding her to be a "good wife and mother".
Her father once said in the program: "I will hand over my daughter to the old Chen family today, hoping that after the girl arrives at the Chen family, she will do more work, cook for the old Chen family, and serve him more in the future." ”
Such "instructions" seem to be said to Chen Sicheng, but in fact, it is just a reminder to Tong Liya to put herself in the right position and be a "woman behind a successful man".
Even in 2017, at the juncture of the news of the divorce of the two on the Internet, Tong's father actually liked a Weibo with the content of "To have a patient heart, happiness will come".
It is in this kind of almost emotional PUA that Tong Liya gradually gives up herself to what She did to Chen Sicheng, turning a blind eye.
It is often said that "the disappointment of adults is always an outbreak after the accumulation of bit by bit", which can be said to be a true portrayal of Tong Liya's situation.
So when did Tong Liya start to be disappointed, and when did she start to wake up?
As the saying goes, "mourning, no more than heart death", in the relationship between husband and wife, a hot heart can never cover a cold stone, not to mention Chen Sicheng's lace news flying all over the sky.
In 2014, Chen Sicheng was exposed to the "secret meeting of beautiful women for 6 hours", under the overwhelming news, Tong Liya used a "lion woman driver has a way" online protector.
But in 2017, Chen Sicheng was once again photographed by the crouching reporter, who opened the door for two different girls twice in the middle of the night.
Only this time, Tong Liya sent a photo of herself and her children after the storm, writing: Start over, and cheer up.
It was also at this time that the epiphanous Tong Liya finally faced herself squarely.
She put all this fierce energy on herself, and she was focused on doing her career. First of all, he participated in "The Wind rises from the Long Forest of Langya List".
Then in 2018, with the small-cost movie "Living Together in Time", it won nearly 900 million box office and won the battle to turn around.
At this time, Tong Liya gradually faded her former youthful acting skills and began to set up a "big heroine" person.
Her career is also a journey forward, she appeared on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala in 2020, becoming a rare non-science class host on the Spring Festival Gala stage.
Tong Liya on the Spring Festival Gala stage, a red dress is so beautiful that people can't take their eyes off it, the hosting level is also quite praised, and the most important thing is that everyone sees the confidence she has never had before on her face.
Indeed, Tong Liya, who gradually found herself, finally did not need to make promises in love anymore.
On May 20, 2021, a Weibo post with the phrase "the world is worth it, the future can be expected" announced the end of Tong Liya and Chen Sicheng's seven-year marriage.
"Worth it" is that Tong Liya finally got rid of the shackles of marriage and pursued what she wanted in the name of "self".
"Hopefully", at this moment, everyone can finally see the "actor" Tong Liya who radiates a confident light, not "so-and-so's wife".
She cut off the long hair that Chen Sicheng had always liked, and set off again with a clean and neat short hair appearance.
Tong Liya, who once said "just go home", tore off the label of "well-behaved girl" with divorce, and also opened the life of the big heroine.
After the divorce, Tong Liya no longer put her feelings on her lips, but instead caught up in film and television, and began to work the main drama, and several film and television works such as 1921 and Revolutionary were released one after another.
Following the hosting of the Spring Festival Gala, Tong Liya reappeared on the CCTV stage and participated in the literary and artistic performances of major nodes.
At the same time, she also starred in the anti-domestic violence theme movie "I Passed the Storm", all of which made the audience face up to and examine her acting skills again.
Coincidentally, at the premiere of "Revolutionary", ex-husband Chen Sicheng emphasized the acting skills of his ex-wife Tong Liya.
This wave of remarks made many netizens ridicule: Tong Liya after the divorce made Chen Sicheng no longer able to climb high.
Host Yang Lan said: "Marriage is a partnership to live a life, and it is never marriage that can save you, but yourself." ”
This sentence is most appropriate to put on Tong Liya's body, if you think that her transformation is just to cut off her long hair, return to the actor, and work hard to open her business, but you don't know that Tong Liya's biggest transformation is to break through herself!
This point was completely released in the variety show "Dance Student".
Tong Liya, who has learned dance since she was a child, surprised the audience with a beautiful Xinjiang dance at the beginning of "Dance Student".
A red skirt danced, and it was not an exaggeration to say that it was a fairy.
However, what made Tong Liya once dominate the hot search of the screen was the first to promote her surprise challenge to the dance of the women's group in the show, and the new shape instantly triggered heated discussion and discussion.
Staring at this video I have watched it no less than 8 times, and I never expected that this curvy, sexy and feminine hot girl would be Tong Liya.
The 38-year-old first picked purple charm Qi bangs long hair, with a crop top vest suit, the small waist is also very eye-catching, the slightest can not see that she has become a mother, it can be said that "a dance upside down all beings" ah!
After the divorce, Tong Liya changed like a person, whether it is appearance or mentality, it has become more and more girly.
Earlier, some netizens posted Tong Liya's travel photos, her smile was bright, she exuded a sunny atmosphere, everyone said that "the woman in love is the most beautiful", but Tong Liya after the divorce is more sassy and beautiful.
Tong Liya, who is now single and alone with a baby, has experienced a transformation from inferiority to self-confidence, and people have become more and more gentle.
Recently, Tong Liya joined the new variety show "Can't Forget the Farm", in this public welfare program that focuses on cognitive impairment and focuses on the elderly in China, Tong Liya has shown an intellectual and warm side.
If you want to choose the "healing actress", Tong Liya must be among the best.
From devoting herself to her feelings to experiencing a failed marriage; from an inferior and sensitive wife to a confident and assertive self, Tong Liya is living more and more beautifully.
Many people say that Tong Liya after the divorce is using a completely different state from the marriage to "retaliate" for failing her person, after all, "without you, I live better" is the most beautiful counterattack.
In fact, Tong Liya should be grateful for this marriage that has been completed, and after this battle, she learned how to better manage her life.
Don't rely on anyone, Tong Liya, finally became her own backer!