Not long ago, Ying Cai'er's father posted a warm moment when his two grandsons, Jasper and Hoho, played musical instruments on social platforms.
Ying Caier's parenting concept has been used as a model by many parents, especially the musical atmosphere of this family, which has made many people envious.
In a parenting observation program that Ying Cai'er participated in, she said such a sentence: Children's hobbies and talents come from the persistence of their parents.
Learning an instrument is a process that parents and children adhere to together, which is a common issue for a family.
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Sufficient interest is a prerequisite for persistence
"If a child wants to learn something, make sure he wants to learn it."
This is the point that Ying Caier shared in the video.
When Jasper first proposed to learn an instrument, Ying Cai'er did not buy him a musical instrument directly like Zhu Dan, but told him, "If you really want to, then you have to study hard, so that when you have a birthday, you may give it to you." ”
Ying Cai'er's family prepares a music program
Many parents will be very surprised when their children take the initiative to learn music, resulting in too much pain and happiness to agree to their children's requirements, but it is difficult for children to persevere.
And when it becomes a gift that needs to be obtained through hard work, the child will feel cherished. This "delayed gratification" can help children accumulate interest in learning.
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Don't Demonize "Persistence"
When her daughter offered to learn an instrument, she said, "You have to study hard, your mother will buy you an instrument, and you have to practice seriously for two hours a day." ”
After the child listened, he shook his head and said, "Then I don't want to learn." ”
This mother's approach seems to be the same as Ying Cai'er's, but she has done one more thing: she has preset a very difficult premise for learning an instrument.
The child has not even been exposed to the charm of the music class, but just after becoming interested, you use two hours of practice time every day to bind the child.
Children's learning should be gradual, you can first take your child to familiarize yourself with the musical instrument, feel the classroom atmosphere, follow the rhythm of the teacher, and slowly guide the child to learn.
Each campus of Jiupai has a trial experience class to help children feel the classroom environment in advance. Moreover, Jiupai adopts the effective classroom training method, the group lesson teaching method, and the thumb education concept, combining the game with the knowledge points, and learning in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere.
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Parents' words and deeds are important
Ying Cai'er once shared a practice: if you want to teach your children to be responsible for their own affairs, parents must first do "what they say".
Promises to the child must be done, and the promises that the child makes to you must also remind him to abide by them.
When Mom and Dad can keep their promises, their children will also be positively affected, and when he wants to be lazy, Mom and Dad can guide him with examples from his life and let him understand the value of commitment.
When the child does not want to practice or even cry, parents can not be accommodated at will, but help him to soothe his emotions, wait for the mood to stabilize and then practice, try to ensure the quality of the exercise.
Learning an instrument is a game between parents and children.
However, the effective persistence and correct guidance of parents protect and develop the child's talent and improve his musical literacy.
Only parents who know how to persist can create children who are willing to persevere.
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