In his book The Weakness of Human Nature, Carnegie said, "Hatred cannot hurt a cold hair of the other party, but it has turned its life into purgatory." ”
Many times, in addition to hurting oneself, hatred cannot hurt the other party in the slightest.
Sometimes, even if you see the other person as a thorn in the flesh in the eye, hate the other party to grit your teeth, and even want to frustrate the other party.
But you hate the other person so strongly, but the other party does not know that you hate her so much.
The other party has no idea that you hate her, others will still live their own little life as always, and you have ruined your life because of your hatred for her.
The TV series "Star Sea" starring Lin Feng and Liu Tao staged a heroic love, in which the female second Wenxin hated Liu Tao to play Jane Ai, and her academic performance was better than her since childhood, even her favorite male second Li Yiming did not love her, but deeply loved Jane Ai.
A Jane Ai, whose education is not as good as hers and whose family economic conditions are also poor, is better than her in love and career, and Wen Xin hates Jane Ai more and more.
Wen Xin lost her mind because of her hatred for Jane Eyre, and framed Jane Eyre again and again.
But her hatred did not hurt Jane Eyre a single hair, but instead sent herself to prison.
Wen Xin is a veritable white rich beauty, if it were not for her hatred of Jane Eyre, her life would have been like a fish.
People, in fact, are very ridiculous and sad a lot of times.
Foolishly regard others as their imaginary enemies, so that they hate others and let themselves spend the whole day in hatred.
The days of hating others, the parties are not happy.
When you spend all your energy and time hating others, you've wasted time fighting to make yourself better.
In these hateful years, walking and walking, you will lose your heart and kindness, and eventually you will lose yourself.
There is no distinction between right and wrong, and even the most basic ability to know people and deal with things is not available, and it is actually difficult for people to live well in this life.
When a person has hatred for others, hatred will make you lose your cherished heart, and it will also make yourself hate others even more intensely.
Excessive hatred will cause you to lose your mind, your judgment, your conscience, and eventually lead to a tragedy that you will regret for a lifetime.
In Guangdong, in some remote places, there are still many patriarchal phenomena.
Guangdong girl Xiao Tao is at home she is an older sister, and she also has two younger brothers.
Xiao Tao's sister is a very patriarchal person, and Xiao Tao has been treated unfairly by her grandmother since she was a child.
Xiao Tao's mother's situation is also very difficult, facing the mother-in-law's picky and difficult everywhere, and her mood is not good.
When she can't control her emotions, she will also speak ill of Peach like a grandmother.
Xiao Tao grew up in a hated environment, no one helped her, everyone was hating her.
Xiao Tao began to hate her grandmother and mother from a young age, and on the day her grandmother died, Xiao Tao did not go home to worship her grandmother, nor did she shed a tear, but felt that there was one less person in this world who bullied her.
When she was young, Xiao Tao was powerless to compete with adults, and now that she has grown up and her strength is greater than her mother, she now begins to take back all the harm she has done to her mother.
Peach attributed all the misfortunes and unhappiness of her life to her mother, who did not do well in her studies and blamed her mother for not giving her a clever head.
She couldn't find a job she liked, so she scolded her mother for not giving her good resources.
Xiao Tao couldn't find a life partner who understood her, hurt her, and loved her, so she scolded her mother for not bringing her good luck.
As Xiao Tao grew up, her hatred for her mother not only did not decrease, but became more and more serious.
As long as the mother and daughter do not agree, Xiao Tao not only speaks evilly, but also punches and kicks her mother.
Some people may say that Xiao Tao should not treat her mother with such a bad attitude.
Some people will also say that this is the deserved mother, and when she was a child, she failed to give her child a happy childhood.
In fact, whether it is Xiao Tao or her mother, she is a first-time parent, a first-time child, and there will be times when mistakes are made, and there will also be times when emotions cannot be controlled and out of control.
But in any case, we should not let hatred blind us, make us lose our minds, and behave uncontrollably and crazy.
Correctly understand the root cause of childhood misfortune, take advantage of the fact that you can still look back now, and do not let hatred ruin your life and make yourself more unfortunate.
Knowing how to identify the source of hatred and stop losses in time is what we should do when we become adults.
Hatred not only limits one's growth, but also hinders one's happiness.
As a human being, we must always be vigilant against ourselves and not let ourselves fall into the trap of hatred.
Hatred will make your path narrower and narrower, and even into a dead end, it will also make you mentally disturbed.
In fact, many times, while letting go of others, people are actually letting go of themselves.
For the rest of our lives, let's be a person who doesn't hate anyone, including not hating ourselves.
For the rest of your life, being a tolerant person, the greatest virtue of life is forgiveness.
People who are tolerant and open-minded are more likely to shake hands with the world and get along with each other kindly.
No one is wrong in life since ancient times, as long as it is not a matter of principle and life-threatening things, choose to spare others and spare people!