After watching an animal conversation, I felt a lot of emotion:
The eagle said, "If I were to live again, I would be a chicken, to eat and live, and to be protected." ”
The chicken said, "If I were to live again, I would be an eagle, traveling the world, killing chickens and rabbits at will." ”
Everyone wants to live like someone else.
Carnegie said: "Many of the troubles in life stem from our blind comparison with others and forgetting to enjoy our own lives. ”
In fact, you don't have to look up to others, you are also a landscape in the eyes of others.
A lot of people like to compare themselves to others.
More intelligent than talent, better than wealth and status, than everything that can trigger oneself unhappy.
This reminds me of the lawyer who loves to compare in "The Bad Stuff Inside Us".
For a long time, he was unhappy, and his life was full of contrasts with others.
Other people's children's grades are better than their own home, he will be troubled; other people's material conditions are superior to their own, he will be lost.
When he was a child, his old classmates with worse grades than himself are now successful in their careers and happy in their families, which makes him suddenly fall into frustration.
He was jealous of others, deeply blamed himself, and complained about injustice.
Compare and go, let yourself suffer from gain and loss, and panic will not last forever.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "People always like to compare with others to see who is better than themselves and who is not as good as themselves."
In fact, what sets the bottom for your troubles and sorrows is never the misfortune and pain of others, but your own happiness. ”
Many times, in order to satisfy their own face and vanity, people want to gain a sense of superiority by comparing with others, but they do not know that indulging in comparison will breed countless resentments and negative energy.
The more you compare, the cheaper the happiness and the worse the mood.
The more you compare, the more you will lose your way and slowly collapse yourself.
Like those Kingfisher birds who died of exhaustion because of the climbing.
Although they are beautiful, they are busy building nests every day, appearing listless and extremely tired.
The body length of the kingfisher is only five or six centimeters, but the nest is several times larger than its own body, or even more than ten times.
It turned out that when there was only one species of Kingfisher, the nest it built was only enough to accommodate itself and stopped.
When another bird builds a nest, they compete with each other and frantically expand their nest.
In the end, the birds lost all their strength and died one after another.
Proper comparison is a driving force; blind comparison is a disaster.
People who like to compare are not necessarily materially poor, but often lack of spirit.
Everyone has enviable advantages, but also their own shortcomings and deficiencies, not to compare, anyone can live comfortably.
Comparing your own shortcomings with other people's strengths can overwhelm you.
Attributing one's happiness to the eyes of others will plunge into the abyss of suffering.
When I went to the hospital a while ago, I saw our leader's wife pushing a small cart and her son sitting inside.
The talent of leadership impressed people in the industry, and his wife was elegant and beautiful, and she lived a relaxed life with her husband and children at home.
Their lives are the best in our eyes.
I was just about to go up to say hello when I saw the leader's wife roaring angrily: "Why did you spit rice on the ground again?" How many times have I said I couldn't throw up! How can you take medicine without eating! ”
Her crow's feet twisted and almost collapsed:
"What do you want me to do?" In order to take care of you, I can't go anywhere, I have seen so many hospitals, you are still like this, what should I do..."
Her voice grew quieter and quieter, and she squatted down and whimpered and cried.
The son was visibly frightened and looked at her with drooling.
At that moment, I realized that their son had an intellectual problem.
I have heard a saying: "Life is fair, everyone is assigned an apple has been bitten, but the position of the bite is different." ”
Life is a dojo, in fact, every kind of life is the same, and we only see its light.
You envy others' successful careers, but you don't know that he is tired of socializing, worried about high blood pressure and fatty liver;
You envy other people's freedom of time, but you don't know that he is depressed and anxious every day, worried about his livelihood.
The Academy Award for Best Live-Action Short Film, "The Neighbor's Window," has awakened countless people.
The couple was exhausted and often quarreled in order to take care of their three children.
And the young couple in the opposite window had a sweet and romantic life, which made them envious.
Until one day, the man in the opposite window died of a terminal illness.
The young woman choked and said that through the window, they saw that the family of five on the other side was living peacefully and comfortably, which was a luxury that they could not reach.
You look at the view from the bridge, and the people watching the view are watching you upstairs.
Maybe your blandness is the beauty that others have longed for and can't get.
People, but to see the sea for a long time want to see people, to see people for a long time want to see the sea; taste all the mountains and treasures of the sea, they yearn for a roadside picnic.
But they do not know that each has its own good, each has its own annoyance.
See a high school essay material that makes people think deeply:
A reporter interviewed the president of the world's largest travel chain:
"You dropped out of school at the age of 14, washed dishes and collected dishes in the hotel, and got to where you are today.
And the people who used to work with you may still do the same job in small restaurants.
Would you have thought that there was such a big gap with them? ”
The president smiled and said, "I didn't see anyone else on my way. ”
It is true that he never compares himself to others, because comparing himself to others will bind himself.
Compared with yesterday's self, step by step, you may become yourself with infinite possibilities.
The sea has the boldness of the sea, and the river has the freedom of the river.
Instead of looking up to others, it is better to reflect on yourself; instead of fearing the darkness, it is better to carry the lamp forward.
One writer wrote in his book, "Honey, there is no one else on the outside, and all external things are the result of projections from within you." ”
While we crave perfection, don't refuse regrets; while we can't do everything as we please, we still have the ability to choose and change.
Life is not for comparison, but for feeling.
Everyone's ultimate destination is themselves, and the most important thing in this life is to accept themselves.
Zhou Guoping's words made people suddenly enlightened:
"There are three times in life, one is when you find that you are no longer the center of the world, the second is when you find that no matter how hard you try, you can't do anything, and the third is when you accept your ordinariness and enjoy the ordinary."
Every life has its happiness, and finding the true self and enjoying your own happiness is the true meaning of life.
Everything can be seen openly, less comparison, will be much more comfortable.
There's a saying that goes: "Never compare people, everyone is different, it's important to find the differences that suit you." ”
People live a lifetime, there are always people who are better than you, there are always mountains that you can't reach.
Instead of struggling to compare with each other, it is better to calm down and be content.
Life is only once, and everyone has their own life progress.
Do not seek to compare with others, but seek to surpass yourself, grasp your own rhythm, all the beauty will meet unexpectedly.
Click [in the watch], the rest of your life is not compared with others, and strive to be yourself!
Author | Xu Xiaoxu swallowed the fireworks and pretended to be a literary fan.
The image comes from the Internet. The article is reproduced with permission.
January 6, 2022 - March 10, 2022
Christopher K. Germer, PhD, founder of "Contemplative Self-Care"; Dr. Hai lan, the first Chinese teacher trainer of "Contemplation Self-Care", and Huang Xiaoyu, a global Contemplative Self-Care Certified Teacher and Course Translator, jointly led the online version of the Meditation Self-Care Eight-week Course.