Succeed and Avoid These Psychic Traps (I)

1. The giant of fantasy ----- thoughts, the dwarf of action 　　

When people encounter setbacks or problems that are difficult to solve, they are detached from reality, think of right and wrong, and put themselves into the imaginary world, trying to cope with setbacks in a fictitious way and obtain satisfaction. Daydreaming is a fantasy, and if daydreaming replaces meaningful action, it will become a means of escapism, and it may also become a sign of mental perversion and develop into fantasy. Fantasy is beautiful, reality is cruel. Fantasy is just a feeling, if you want to have success in life, you should be based on reality, especially when dealing with people, you must not be unrealistic, otherwise you will not be able to solve the problem effectively, and seek change and development. 　　

2. Negative ----- retreat from reality to escape 　　

Negative people often give people a false impression of not seeking fame and fortune, in fact, their hearts are extremely empty, and they are also negative about things. This kind of person doesn't want anything, does nothing, and even if he has the strongest ability, he will achieve nothing in his lifetime. Negativity and positivity lie in the difference between perception and perception. Walking on a road of life with too much information, too many desires and too many competitions, we always have a little worry, a little more wandering, and often some helplessness. But in order to succeed in your career and the happiness of life, you must build a positive mindset. Give yourself a hope every day, you will have a good mood, and your mentality is often your true master. 　　

3. Conceit ----- the self-aggrandizement of the ignorant 　　

Confidence is important, there's no doubt about it, but if you 'overpower', confidence becomes "conceited." There is a degree between "self-confidence" and "conceit", but many people inflate themselves because of success, so that they fall into the trap of conceit. When self-inflicted, it manifests itself as arrogant, thinks it is omnipotent, overestimates itself, and looks down on the people around it. Therefore, conceited people often fall into a state of mania and eventually lead to failure. 　

4, sloppy ----- the root of the loser 　　

This often happens in life, some people do not think about things when they encounter them, regret it after making a hasty decision, and sometimes even cause irreparable situations. But there is no regret medicine in this world, and we cannot predict tomorrow, so the success or failure of many things often depends on whether we are cautious or reckless. Some people fail because they lack thinking and preparation, and those who are sane are always carefully considered before taking action, so such people are the most likely to succeed. 　　

5. Arrogance ----- unsupported dignity 　　

As the saying goes, "The heavens are self-exalted, and the earth is self-exalted." "In general, the more people who know things, the more humble they are, and the less they know and the less they have, the more arrogant they are, so we can say that arrogance is a combination of vanity and ignorance. People who are too arrogant put on a "high-minded, indispensable" attitude, which makes them often resented by others, making them hit walls everywhere and making it difficult to move forward. 　　

6. Suspiciousness ----- the shackles of the mind that are created out of nothing 　　

There is an old saying: "Look to know, do not doubt each other", in fact, this sentence can also be said in reverse, do not doubt, in order to know each other. But suspicion is one of the weaknesses of human nature, and it has always been the bane of harming others and harming themselves. Suspiciousness will make people habitually think of everything around them in a bad and negative way, once a person falls into the trap of suspicion, it is easy to be nervous about everything, so that others have doubts about themselves, which is not good for normal interpersonal relationships, and suspicion will eventually make themselves into tension and anxiety. 　　

7, luxury ----- when there is money to swing wide, when there is no money to starve 　　

Luxury is a poison, once contaminated, it will continue to spread, and the spread is very fast, the scope is very wide, a person begins to pursue a luxurious life, then, the people around will soon be extravagant. Waste is the biggest crime, and if you waste time, it's a waste of life; If you waste money, then you are on the road to perdition. 　

8, autism ----- painting the ground as a prison, shut the world out of the door to close yourself, you can avoid the wind and rain, but the sun can not come in. A person who can open his heart and meet the sunshine will never be autistic. If you have a sunshine-like mentality, you will not lose yourself in depression and loss, and you will not lose your direction. Correctly estimating your own value and allowing yourself to continue to "add value" is a positive attitude towards life, so that your life will not be spent in vain, and you will feel that every day is meaningful. 　　

9. Paranoia ----- attachment to the self 　　

Having an opinion, having a mind, not echoing the voice, and not floating with the world is undoubtedly a good quality worthy of praise, but it should be premised on not clinging to one's own opinions and not being biased and stubborn. Whether it is to be a person or to do things, the mind should have a dialectical point of view, stick to a corner, sit in the well and look at the sky, take their own prejudices as the truth, and do not realize it until death, this is a taboo for people to live in the world, if we can not correct this attitude in time, we are likely to stray into the dead corner of life, can not be born. 　　

10, quick success and short-term profit----- do not think about the long-term "myopia" people who are eager for success and short-term profit are short-sighted, a leaf is obstructive, do not see Tarzan, as long as they smell sesame fragrance, they will forget the watermelon sweetness. Our vision can only see the present, the so-called "headache to heal the head, foot pain to heal the foot", is the consistent behavior of those who are eager for success and quick profit. In order to get rid of the current situation, these people can disregard the interests of the future, just for the sake of temporary pleasure, without long-term consideration. The results are often more than worth the losses. 　　

11, greed ----- the poverty of the soul, the root of the disaster People live in reality, it is impossible to live without desire, desire is difficult to fill, the desire for money, so that many people become greedy. It is true that money is the basic guarantee of people's lives, but after solving the needs of life, we cannot blindly covet it. As the old saying goes, "It's better to be greedy than to use less." "People's desire for money should have a degree, if it exceeds the degree, we must find a way to stop ourselves, and do not exchange excessive greed for regrettable results." 　　

12) Unprincipled ----- discarded morality 　　

Interests are often sought after in life, and even some people like to equate all their principles with interests. When you spend time with your relatives, friends, and others, you always put your own interests first. It is true that for many people, interests are very important, but if interests are taken as the criterion for doing things, then in the future, those who do so can only lift a stone and drop it on their own feet. Profits sometimes become traps for others to lure themselves, and people who use interests as the criterion are much more likely to fall into traps than they are to jump over. 　　

13. Jealousy ----- denigrating the achievements of others and exposing one's own incompetence 　　

Jealousy is a tumor in the human heart. Jealousy can make beautiful people ugly, and enthusiastic people can become cold. Jealousy is a hateful feeling, and people who have jealousy will grit their teeth in hatred when they see that others are better off than themselves and have better luck than themselves; And when you see that others are less lucky than yourself, and you are not as good as yourself, you will be proud. Such feelings will have an extremely negative impact on interpersonal relationships. People should look at the world with an open heart, because jealousy can only send people to the brink of madness and collapse, not to make people beautiful and happy. 　　

In order to make ourselves happy and mentally relaxed, we must change the wrong ideas and paranoid thinking inertia in our minds, learn to give up, learn to let go, and learn to forget.