High emotional intelligence is a title that everyone wants to get, but it has to be said that getting it requires a lot of tests of inner thoughts, you need to learn a lot of knowledge, be thoughtful when talking and doing things, don't talk randomly, don't mess around, and take care of other people's emotions and feelings. The convergence of these is likely to become a high emotional intelligence person in other people' populations.
If we want to become a high emotional intelligence person in other people, we must learn to grasp the scale of our own hearts. Do not cross the line, grasp the sense of proportion and boundary, and do the right thing in the place where you are at the time, in order to achieve the best results.
Only we have to understand what it is? Only then can we do what it requires and achieve what we want.
Sense of proportion: "Reasonable recognition of people or things that people's talents and cultivation precipitate in the heart"
Sense of boundaries: "Refers to the determination or importance of boundaries"
In life, we can always see that some people can navigate the crowd and make interpersonal relationships very harmonious. Talking and doing things can be recognized by others and become admired by those of us who cannot reach such a height. We can only silently improve and silently learn. To become such people, as long as we can find the underlying logic behind them, after our deliberate practice, one day, we will slowly become such people in the eyes of others.
The reason why we want to become a person with a sense of proportion and boundaries is because if we want to learn these ideas and methods in life, we want to learn these ideas and methods in the process of interpersonal relationships, family relationships, etc. in the process of dealing with people. Say the right and reasonable things at the right time, in the right place, rather than casually expressing them with the subconscious mind of the brain and the instincts of the human species.
"Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words hurt people in June cold" The right words let us get good interpersonal relationships.
Doing the right thing in one's own position can give others a sense of trust. Increase the goodwill of others towards us. In order to better promote the relationship between the two. Overestimating one's position does nothing but make one's own situation worse.
Knowing yourself and knowing yourself has always been a lifelong problem.
But if we want to change ourselves, we must learn the underlying logic and methodology behind it. in order to better achieve the purpose.
First, realize in the mind that we want to master this ability, and only when the brain thinks that we are going to learn this thing, it will make us deliberately practice.
Second, stay rational and use the brain to dominate our lives, not with the instincts of our human species. Learn to think independently. Instead of following other people's ideas.
Third, think about the problem from a third perspective. Turn yourself from an insider into an outsider, ask ourselves from an outsider's perspective how to do this thing better, and understand where we are now. Do what we're supposed to do now in our position. Do not cross the line, grasp the scale of our position.
Fourth, between doing things and talking, I want to ask myself in my mind whether this thing should be done, what is the purpose of doing this thing, and what is the effect of doing it. I don't want to say this. How to say it is better. There is no taking care of other people's emotions. Will not offend people. When we ask ourselves these questions in our heads, we have the opportunity to say the right thing.
Emotional intelligence is just the degree of social comfort that makes people feel comfortable.
May you have more thinking and more reason in your later life. Say what you should say well, do what you should do well, and grasp your position. Control your sense of proportion and boundaries. May you also one day become a high emotional intelligence person in the eyes of others.