#一个人和谁结婚真是注定的吗 #
There is no unprovoked fate in the world, nor is there an unprovoked encounter, many people often say that fate is in their own hands, but after coming out of society, they find that people are in the rivers and lakes, involuntarily, and a person's development, thinking, and ability are affected and restricted by many objective factors. Therefore, the trajectory of fate is basically fixed from the moment of birth. Apple founder Steve Jobs once said that the future and past of mankind is a gamble, a chess game on the chessboard of others. I believe that marriage is roughly like this. Who a person marries, that is fate, the right time, meets the right person. This is also similar to the Western view that "character determines destiny". Do you believe in fate?
Some netizens said that this has nothing to do with destiny, mainly depending on fate, if the perception of two people reaches a certain level, they will naturally enter the marriage, so who is destined to be with, will they be happy? Then you say, who is the person who is destined to marry you, the one who is destined to remain inseparable from you for the rest of your life? In fact, there is no result, there are no gods in the heavens, and it is impossible to have the old moon, so it is a bit too far-fetched to say that this word is doomed. Mainly by the feeling of two people together, not to refer to who is to whom, that is not necessarily Oh, you have to remember, with whom the feeling is not the same, even a little ambiguous, your heart has moved closer to him, and he is not the one you are destined to be, so marriage is the same, just follow the fate. From acquaintance to love, there is a process, but two people in love, not necessarily able to walk into the palace of the wedding, so the marriage is not doomed, and you can not use this word to represent, can only say that there is a fate will be together, there will be a fate will stay together for a lifetime, fate this thing, there has long been a fixed number, no matter who you are with, the indispensable is the word "fate", with fate to have a point, otherwise everything is in vain. Love is the same, there is a fate to love, no part is impossible to come together, even if it is the matchmaking of others, in the end you still have to separate, this really has nothing to do with doom, it depends on the development of two people's perception to that step, this is to see the fate to decide, not what you said is destined to stay together, you can live happily together. No one will say that these two people are destined to stay together for a lifetime, or love and kill each other, but it is not necessarily to stay together, there will always be a fixed number, not destined to be resolved by the word two words, so marriage should follow fate, love is also dependent on fate, if there is no fate, it can not be forced.
But most netizens feel that marriage is destined. Two people together are together because of fate
When I was young and in love, I felt that the other party and myself were a good match, various couples, various constellations, etc. I believed that the acquaintance, encounter, and acquaintance of two people were destined for heaven, because this person loved himself and loved this person, with a beautiful vision to the future, this time is to feel that this person is my destined life partner. When entering the society and sensing the cruelty of reality, busy work, all kinds of people, and ubiquitous pressure, the so-called fate is slowly destined to become out of place.
Once loved someone deeply, entangled for several years but in the end there was no result! People are sometimes like this, always do not believe in fate, may be unwilling to do it!
Fate is destined, it is this old saying! Now I sometimes think that what the ancients said was quite right! It's all thousands of years of experience! I am not a feng shui master, nor a fortune teller, but I believe in Buddhism and I believe in fate! What should be yours is yours, not your compulsion not to come!
Love clean Xiao Hu: I also feel that there is a fate of this statement, I used to kiss two objects at the same time, the short first knew two months, at the beginning was not able to take out the bride price money, my mother felt that his family was not good, and then let me blind date a high and handsome 182, only to know less than a month I was pulled back by the short and engaged. But later, because the feelings were not deep, he cheated. We got married. After two years, I still didn't get married, and the high one didn't get married, and my mom once let the matchmaker, (his uncle) introduce his nephew, and I didn't expect that we were very tacit, common hobbies, and communication was very smooth. It felt like another self, liked each other, and got married after half a year.
@ Wukong 6818294: My husband and I are the matchmakers of both parents, my mother and his mother have known each other for many years, but my husband and I missed meeting for various reasons when I was a child, and then I went to junior high school my mother came back and did not work with my mother-in-law, there was no contact, once my mother went to my grandmother's house, met their mutual friends in the car, they got in touch with each other, my mother-in-law asked my mother to ask someone to say that when I went to work together, I saw that my family had two sisters who wanted one, and came back to arrange a blind date in the New Year. It feels right, now the children are almost five years old. My husband said that when we were young, if we didn't miss it, we could know each other for a few more years [Ya Ya] [Ya Ya] [Ya Ya] during the period my husband also met a few unsuccessful, I did not meet, but there were a few people chasing, but did not feel, when I looked at my husband was a glance in the picture, I feel that fate is destined for it.
@ I am a beautiful little sister Youxi: I have been living in the provinces with my family since I was 14 years old, and I have only returned to my hometown three times in the past ten years (the first time to attend my grandfather's funeral, the second time to visit my sick grandfather, the third time to attend my brother's wedding), and I met my current husband during this third time I went back to my brother's wedding, and then I married him (I never thought I would marry back, because I didn't know anyone from my hometown at all).
The netizens' answers almost believe in fate.
Actually
It doesn't matter who a person marries or not, but as long as you manage it with your heart, you can manage the marriage as if it were destined.
When love enters the palace of marriage, the family of two people is a flower that needs to be watered together. A happy marriage needs to do the following three things:
The most feared thing about living a life is not that two people quarrel every day, but that everyone is holding back, and they don't say anything if they have ideas, and they don't have a plan for the future of the family.
In fact, many times, bravely expressing what you think in your heart can deepen your understanding of each other and discuss planning the future, rather than living according to your own ideas.
Two people, running for the same future, are the basic conditions for a good marriage.
There is no way to avoid contradictions in marriage, but recalling every quarrel, in fact, quarrels can only express a momentary anger, which is not helpful to solve the problem;
Smart couples, when there is a conflict, will know not to blame each other, but to find solutions together, to talk with their hearts, to achieve the effect of 1 + 1 greater than 2.
In marriage, there is a saying that is very critical, called "understanding is more important than love".
Imagine a usually taciturn wife who would love to go to a movie, but her husband has been very busy lately, how to reply?
If you say, too busy, wait for a while online to have. Then the wife will feel that her wishes have not been taken seriously, and she may say that she is okay, but she will be disappointed in her heart;
But if you say that you have been a little busy lately, why don't you go to see a midnight show? The wife is likely to be happy because she feels that her husband understands her very well and understands her demands. Then she said forget it, she went to see the line with her girlfriend.
The same is the refusal to watch the movie, in fact, no love and no love, the key difference is, can you understand the other half?
To sum up, a good marriage requires us to carefully manage, as long as we find family goals, actively resolve conflicts instead of negative accusations, fully understand and care for each other, in the eyes of others, you have a destined happy marriage!
There is no unprovoked fate in the world, nor is there an unprovoked encounter, many people often say that fate is in their own hands, but after coming out of society, they find that people are in the rivers and lakes, involuntarily, and a person's development, thinking, and ability are affected and restricted by many objective factors. Therefore, the trajectory of fate is basically fixed from the moment of birth. This is also similar to the Western view that "character determines destiny". At the same time, the trajectory of fate should also consider the social environment at that time, national fortunes, etc., which is the general environment and has a relatively large impact.
The object of marriage, from the perspective of the eight characters and appearance, can see some information, such as the other party's academic qualifications, approximate facial features, height, occupation, development and so on. If they are husband and wife, then, the information of the two people has the same place, such as marriage information synchronization, children information synchronization, luck information synchronization, wealth information synchronization and so on.
So, who a person marries is basically doomed, and everything is the best arrangement. A hundred years of repair to cross the same boat, a thousand years to repair a sleep together. No matter who is destined, we should cherish the fate of this world, be more tolerant and considerate in everything, and manage the marriage in this life well together.